What do you think about the fact she says very little when I approach her and say hello etc. But then 10 min later she approaches me and starts conversation. Like what is going on? She use to be more chatty with me and open. But it can't be that bad if she approaches me initiating contact
Hmm, interesting. I think you might be right about the fact that she comes back and initiates conversation again.Maybe her brain is sort of short-circuiting, freezing. I talk to a lot of males like that. They want to approach, want to have conversations, but they're so hyper-focused in the moment, they're scrutinizing what they're saying, and therefore can't just speak naturally and spontaneously. They're worried about saying the wrong thing, and unfortunately err on the side of saying nothing. "Because at least then I don't look like an idiot, and all hope is not lost, there's still a chance in the future" sort of mentality. So my guess is that she goes away, regroups, thinks of something new to talk about, and tries again.by the way, what topics are coming up, or stopping? Maybe you should focus on the 'what', not the 'how.'
Are you saying that she is just freezing up when she sees me? So she goes away gets her thoughts together and comes back starting a conversation. She was telling me how she had started going to the gym. I then ask her questions about which gym she goes to etc. She said something she goes cause she feels too weak at work sometimes with lifting stuff. I said to her " I'm happy to help you lift things for you, anything heavy lifting i'm your man" her response was she giggled.
Yes, exactly.Are you saying she's talking to you about the gym, goes away, then comes back and talks more about the gym? Doesn't she recognize how weird that is?I love your response to her. That was great.There's a good chance she's into you.
No the gym conversation came up one and only time. That was just one conversation when she came up to me. Actually I made her giggle 3 times during that conversation. One was about the heavy lifting. Then she started talking how she does somr weights and i said to her ' I remember trying weights about a month after breaking my shoulder blade and holy shit I couldn't do the weights due to pain". She giggled again. Then we got interrupted by a customer who had a plant question and she helped and i said ' don't take plant advice from i'll probably kill it accidentally". She giggled again
She seems nervous when I talk her and says barely anything. So i think she doesn't want to talk to me. Next thing 10 min she walks up to me and starts conversation. I've known her for a while at work now. She and I get along really well, she was getting chatty and we had some good chats. But now she seems to have gone a bit weird with me for no reason. Like she seems quieter with me
thanks for the MHO
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This girl seems nervous when she talks to me. Like she use to be chatty with me and everything. We'd make eye contact and smile etc. Now when I say hey how are you i get a short answer from which is odd. Then 10 min later she is approaching me and starting conversation with me. I've noticed her face has been looking slightly flushed and when I try to make eye contact sometimes she looks down like she can't look at me
I'd say she likes you, ask her out, see what happens
Even if she says very little at first when I break the ice with saying hello everyone I see her. Like she seems not herself. Yet alone she approaches me and starts conversation like 10min later.
Would it be something like she goes why did I behave like that before. So she approaches me again a short time later and starts talking to me?
She might have more confidence alone or initiating the conversation... I don't know, I say jump and see what happens
So you don't think it's anything bad?
I don't think it's a bad thing at all, I say jump head first and ask her out. I prefer a man do that to me, than me have to ask & be shut down. (Props to any man who does this)... There's this guy I like, while I shouldn't because he is at my bar on the regular, but I can't help myself because he is kind, respectful, totally gets what I'm talking about when I talk religion, politics, suicide, etc, but I know what he's been through and it kills me. He knows for a fact I am totally down with him, but we aren't a thing because then it means a few things more since I work at the bar he's always at and his friends would have some shit. I'd kill to be with him, to make him feel comfortable in his skin again, but I'm just there. I'd rather be there for him on some aspect then see him dissipate and disappear until his "brother" tells me he killed himself. I love this kid, want everything that is good to happen in his life, but we both know what may come to be. He and I think the same, if he sees an article about suicide about me, he knows I had my reasons, and vice versa. Jump for it, see what happens. If I were you, and not the coward I am, I would do it. But I'm a coward, I know this, and I hope you end up happier than me.
Like i stsrt a conversation with her she doesn't say much. Then I think she doesn't want to talk. But then whilst I'm minding my own business, she comes over like 10 min after I tried to initiate conversation and she starts talking to me. I can get her to giggle too
Maybe she is the type of person that doesn't know what to say the moment you start a conversation with her and will only say some few words to not mess things up... then once she makes a whole conversation of the two of you in her head she would go to you and talk about what ever she had in mind
Why would she be worried about messing things up?
Maybe because she has grown feelings for you and she doesn't want you to think she is making the conversation awkward
Like it certainly feels like there is something going on between us. Like she has offered to help me with something once. She has voluntarily come up and start conversation with me. She it can't be bad if she is still starting talk with me. When we do talk it's always a nice little conversation. I can feel we both just want to keep talking
What if she has known me for a while and was open and chatty and seemed herself. Then she becomes nervous around me for no reason. I reckon her face is looking slightly flushed a bit and she can barely look at me in the eyes. She used to look at me in the and smile when we first see each other. But now she doesn't, but will still talk to me
What do mean you get hot
This girl at my i know her and I've talked to her heaps. We have had some great conversations and she is really chatty with me. I've noticed she has gone a bit quieter with me. Like she seems nervous
Would it be because she likes. I know haven't said anything bad or creepy to her. Cause she still comes up and makes light talk with me
It's possible. That's a question more for her
She can barely look at me and is kinda avoiding me. But she will still have a conversation with me. Which is the weird part. Like I can still make her giggle
It helps me when the guy makes the first step and starts a conversation. It makes it easier to relax and chat
But yeah she used to wave the moment she saw me and smile. I just feel it gotten a bit awkward between us for no reason.
Maybe she is into you and now she is a bit shy cause she doesn't know what you want.
Like she will still start some conversation with me. When we chat it is still nice. I just can't workout why she is going shy on me when she used to be open with me
Could it be that colleagues are nearby or does she behave like that even when you are alone?
It's both. But when we are alone that is when are conversations happen.
Once she approached me I could see how red her cheeks were. But I can tell how flushed and nervous she looks before I break the ice of saying hello. But she will still giggle at things I say
Maybe you just ask her if she wants to go out drinking then you could spend time with each other and talk outside of work
Do you think she actually likes me? Like we had the whole eye contact and smiling going at the same time. But yeah now she can barely look at me. Like yesterday we were alone and she did a sigh and I started conversation and she started talking about her lips
It sounds to me like she likes you.
Not sure why she can't look at me and smile now. That is what is confusing me.
I can't answer that, sry
It's probably more nervous looking. But she will make some sort of initiation with starting conversation with me.
Just ask her outI'm pretty sure she likes you and if you like her, go for it
Like is it normal for a girl to change her behaviour towards a guy if she likes? Like been all open with me then becoming shy.
It could be, For example, if she fell in love with you only over time.
Yeah it's possible cause our conversations when I met her was so good. It was conversations where you feel like you could talk for hours. Then she quieter with me. But we still have some nice short conversations.
Did you talk to her today?
No she wasn't at work yesterday. But she'll be in today
Than go for it today
It's making me nervous that she doesn't make eye contact and smile at me when I first see her. Like she use to. But she will have conversation with me or offer to help me with something. So it's not like she is ignoring
Don't think too much. Just talk to her
Is there anything new about you and your colleague?
I felt like she avoided me the other day I saw. I just froze I did nothing. I then added her on Facebook, she accepted my friend request like 24hrs later
I think you should not interpret too much into it. Do you like her?
Yes i do. But why did she take like over a day to accept my request
There are several reasons. Not online, too shy to accept, surprised because you suddenly sent her a request...
Like originally she didn't talk to me, but she look at me from distance and looked away and kept walking. Then I added her later that afternoon and she accepted my request the next day at night time. I swear she did it on purpose to make me think about her
That would be another reason ;)
I did post a photo yesterday for the first time since she accepted my friend request. I'm waiting to see if she waits 24hrs and then likes my photo
But I would imagine she would of seen the notification for my friend request. Next day after she accepted my friend request she was active online like all day. So I still think she waited 24hrs for a reason
Only way to find out is asking her. Is it possible that you become shy too when ever she is around?
But she is shy around me too?
As said before she probably likes you l, don't you forget that
Do you think she will message me first?
I can only speak for myself but I am more confident when I write to a guy
It's just hard cause I'm worried that she may not be interested in talking to me.
You're definitely welcome overthinking l... Try to distract yourself
Do girls generally start conversation with guys through messenger if they like them?
Most likely they wait for the guy to make the first step
I just don't know what to say. Like it's Saturday night so that probably looks bad 😂
Why? Cause she might think that you don't have anything else to do? I would be happy if the guy I'm interested in would message me
Yes. Cause she might think I have nothing else better to do on Saturday night. But given she kinda ignored me the last time I saw her that doesn't help me