I mean I told him that he sounded controlling but he said that he just didn't want me to smoke. He literally set a rule and made me promise that I would never try it while in a relationship with him (we've been together for 1 year). I dont know, I understand him but it makes me feel frustrated, I feel like its not right for him to set limits. It makes me ashamed to think that if someone asked me the real reason for not trying, I would say "my boyfriend doesn't let me and he would break up with me". If I was the other person I would judge him. Anyway Im not saying that I want to smoke, the whole situation just makes me uncomfortable
I can understand that. It sounds to me like what has you upset is his seemingly establishing this by fiat- would it bother you if he'd simply set it up as one of his personal limits in a relationship?
I guess I understand him. He has the right to do so. But it just feels weird to me that after knowing me for so long and having a quite long relationship he would still leave me, as he says. But I dont know, it doesn't botter me a lot because I dont really intend to smoke, I just wanted to have the "freedom" to make decisions by myself.
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