I don’t understand him?

I told this guy that I guess my willingness to change isn’t going to get him to commit, but then he says no it’s my unwillingness to change. Then I ask him if he wants to see me change first and he said to let it go. My question is why would he bother telling me that it’s my unwillingness to change is why he won’t commit if he’s just going to turn around and say to let it go? Is there something I should be doing that I’m not?
I don’t understand him?
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