Why is he being nice to me after something shitty he did to me?

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basically he was super rude to me and said some hateful things about me to a mutual friend. I think he realized that the convo got back to me and since then he's apologized and has been super nice to me once I started texting him again.

Is he being nice because he sees me as a friend or something more?

I ask bc he's hanging out with me alone for 6-8 hours (like we did before), saying good things to me, making me feel better, doing favors, etc.

Answer 1

DesertedPhoenix

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I think that he is being nice because he feels guilty. Judging by your age group, if he says he wanted to hang out with your other friend... then it is obvious that you are not his first choice. In other words, he was an ass, your friend made him feel guilty and now he is acting nice to 'start over' and feel better about himself.

Asker

30 d
the thing is... he's being extra nice. like letting me play his video games (he even told me I lowered his rank after I played lol), spending 7 hours with me, has lately been initiating hang outs, and has been complimenting me an insane amount (I like your socks; oh you're so lucky; you're smart). And to apologize he showed up at my house bc I wasn't being responsive to him about meeting up. He usually always hangs out with me, but for some reason that day he wanted to hang out with her. that's why when I put all this together i'm getting confused. and lately when we hang out, it's going to the park, then eating, then watching a movie... and even during the movie if I kept getting up to go do something, he would come find me and tell me to come watch the movie

Answer 2

Asker

the thing is... he's being extra nice. like letting me play his video games (he even told me I lowered his rank after I played lol), spending 7 hours with me, has lately been initiating hang outs, and has been complimenting me an insane amount (I like your socks; oh you're so lucky; you're smart). And to apologize he showed up at my house bc I wasn't being responsive to him about meeting up. He usually always hangs out with me, but for some reason that day he wanted to hang out with her. that's why when I put all this together i'm getting confused. and lately when we hang out, it's going to the park, then eating, then watching a movie... and even during the movie if I kept getting up to go do something, he would come find me and tell me to come watch the movie

Answer 3

Bad_Man55 | 804 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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Did he apologize?

Asker

1 mo
yes but I'm trying to understand if he likes me or just sees me as a friend
Bad_Man55

1 mo
What did he say about you to the friend?
Asker

1 mo
basically I asked him if he wanted to hang out and he said he was busy. then my friend (girl) asked him why and he said bc he wants to hang with her not me. so she said that was rude. and that instant, he texted me if I wanted to hang out... but I didn't respond. she then asked why he doesn't want to hang with me and he said because I argued with him about a lunch payment (he overcharged me for a meal). but it was a few dollars... not a big deal at all. I didn't even think it was an issue...
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Asker

1 mo
unless that's a cover up for something else lol
Bad_Man55

1 mo
I mean he may be into you a little but not as much as others. He may realize you like him and want to get on your good side as he may think you could be a good 2nd choice or friend with benefits. Or he truly felt bad and realized he does want to spend time with you

Answer 4

Asker

yes but I'm trying to understand if he likes me or just sees me as a friend

Answer 5

Bad_Man55

What did he say about you to the friend?

Answer 6

Asker

basically I asked him if he wanted to hang out and he said he was busy. then my friend (girl) asked him why and he said bc he wants to hang with her not me. so she said that was rude. and that instant, he texted me if I wanted to hang out... but I didn't respond. she then asked why he doesn't want to hang with me and he said because I argued with him about a lunch payment (he overcharged me for a meal). but it was a few dollars... not a big deal at all. I didn't even think it was an issue...

Answer 7

Asker

unless that's a cover up for something else lol

Answer 8

Bad_Man55

I mean he may be into you a little but not as much as others. He may realize you like him and want to get on your good side as he may think you could be a good 2nd choice or friend with benefits. Or he truly felt bad and realized he does want to spend time with you

Why is he being nice to me after something shitty he did to me?

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