How to deal with a guy who has PTSD?

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He always text me telling me all the problems and worries that make him really angry or unsatisfied. Sometimes I try to understand him and just give a tiny bit of advice but he said dont tell him to do this or that, dont call him this or that.. It hurts my feelings sometimes.. Im always listening to him patiently.. What should I do?

Answer 1

Anonymous

I have mild ptsd so I don't know if my "advice" is that relevant but i'd say the number one thing to not do is "give advice" to him. from his perspective it probs pisses him off when someone who doesn't know what it's like tries to give him advice about it. that's like that for most people with ptsd. just stick to supporting him instead. anyways if it's too much for you, tell him to back off a little. you shouldn't suffer too much bc of him.

anyways I'd just say be there when he needs you, and just offer support. be mindful of his triggers & avoid triggering him. give him space when he needs to. don't be prying into his past. and don't accept too much from him. that's basically it

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Answer 2

B_nash

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I have ptsd and it’s a battle but he’s patient with me. I’m exactly like this which is why I’m best friends with myself. I don’t want people calling me bae, and other things. It’s a struggle trying to regain the norm in society.

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Asker

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You're right.. It is my first time knowing someone with ptsd.. that is why I dont blame him. If next time he tells me about his problems, do I just have to be there for him and try not to give him any advice?
B_nash

1 y
Yes be there and I know it’s like walking on egg shells. Everything you say or do could make him upset. My mood changes a lot because I’m irritated 95 percent of the time. Use the understanding method of approach and be detailed in your responses such as using precise words.

Answer 3

Asker

You're right.. It is my first time knowing someone with ptsd.. that is why I dont blame him. If next time he tells me about his problems, do I just have to be there for him and try not to give him any advice?

Answer 4

B_nash

Yes be there and I know it’s like walking on egg shells. Everything you say or do could make him upset. My mood changes a lot because I’m irritated 95 percent of the time. Use the understanding method of approach and be detailed in your responses such as using precise words.

Answer 5

Iron_Man | 10.6K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

Go to group counseling

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Avicenna | 6.8K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

What is your relationship with him?

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Asker

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Actually we knew each other from a dating app and we have been actively texting for sometimes. But I guess we dont really want a relationship.. Maybe just as friends
Avicenna

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Then you need to advise him to seek therapy and set boundaries.

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Asker

Actually we knew each other from a dating app and we have been actively texting for sometimes. But I guess we dont really want a relationship.. Maybe just as friends

Answer 8

Avicenna

Then you need to advise him to seek therapy and set boundaries.

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SuccessfulHornDog | 2.9K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

He needs medial help. Dont blame yourself.

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He has been going through a lot of hardships and I could tell no one was actually really listening to him before.. He is not bad it's just his words are to harsh sometimes
SuccessfulHornDog

1 y
Encourage him to get professional help

Answer 10

Asker

He has been going through a lot of hardships and I could tell no one was actually really listening to him before.. He is not bad it's just his words are to harsh sometimes

Answer 11

SuccessfulHornDog

Encourage him to get professional help

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