Am I wrong for checking out?

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Am I wrong for emotionally checking out

Ok so I’m new at my work and I have noticed some coworkers talk about me behind my back they think I’m not aware of it but I know. One is very poor at hiding it. Anyways myself and another girl usually wait for a Lyft after work because we don’t drive. I used to wait with her and wanted to make sure her ride came before mine because I didn’t want to leave her in the dark by herself after we closed but like today when I saw her and this other girl talking about me. Every interaction I had with her it was like emotionless like she tried to get me to laugh at something and I just gave her this blank stare. Then after the store closed I just got in my Lyft and left not really caring about her

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Answer 1

Anonymous

You’re not wrong for checking out, but you shouldn’t have to. I couldn’t imagine what your coworkers have to gossip with about you, but it’s highly inappropriate and you should not have to deal with or tolerate it. If I were you, I’d stand up for myself. You don’t have to be mean about it, but simply call them out, bc 9/10 not everyone in that group is interested in gossiping about you, they’re just glad it’s not them and don’t want to become a target. I’d also confront the girl you wait with. When she starts trying to crack jokes and make conversation, I’d flat out ask her “why do you go along with these people talking about me? I thought we were cool but maybe I got the wrong impression”.

Asker

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Yeah she literally paged me over to a department to try to get me to laugh at something and I’m just looking at it and thinking it’s not that Funny. She also go super happy when I fixed something for her, like she was jumping up and down clapping her hands with excitement
Opinion Owner

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It’s very fake dude. Hopefully you can turn that situation around and decide to address it
Asker

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Yeah I may quit
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Opinion Owner

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Do you like the job? That would be my main concern, and then deal with coworkers accordingly. But if you hate the job then at least hang in there until you find something else
Asker

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So how is it fake that she did that
Opinion Owner

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It’s fake because she tries to be friendly when you two are alone, but yet laughs with other people about you...
Asker

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Yeah what’s funny too is I liked her personality she seemed so sweet and we connected on various things we were talking music I told her I like r&b she got really excited, I told her the group I like and she asked what my favorite song was and she listened to it while we were waiting one night
Opinion Owner

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Tbh if you enjoy the friendship you’ve started to build with her, then you should tell her that what she’s doing is messed up. Like if she wants to laugh along with people then that’s fine, she’s not obligated to have your back. However, it’s morally wrong and she should leave you alone entirely if she’s gonna be fake to you.
Asker

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Honestly I was kind of attracted to her

Answer 2

Asker

Yeah she literally paged me over to a department to try to get me to laugh at something and I’m just looking at it and thinking it’s not that Funny. She also go super happy when I fixed something for her, like she was jumping up and down clapping her hands with excitement

Answer 3

Opinion Owner

It’s very fake dude. Hopefully you can turn that situation around and decide to address it

Answer 4

Asker

Yeah I may quit

Answer 5

Opinion Owner

Do you like the job? That would be my main concern, and then deal with coworkers accordingly. But if you hate the job then at least hang in there until you find something else

Answer 6

Asker

So how is it fake that she did that

Answer 7

Opinion Owner

It’s fake because she tries to be friendly when you two are alone, but yet laughs with other people about you...

Answer 8

Asker

Yeah what’s funny too is I liked her personality she seemed so sweet and we connected on various things we were talking music I told her I like r&b she got really excited, I told her the group I like and she asked what my favorite song was and she listened to it while we were waiting one night

Answer 9

Opinion Owner

Tbh if you enjoy the friendship you’ve started to build with her, then you should tell her that what she’s doing is messed up. Like if she wants to laugh along with people then that’s fine, she’s not obligated to have your back. However, it’s morally wrong and she should leave you alone entirely if she’s gonna be fake to you.

Answer 10

Asker

Honestly I was kind of attracted to her

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