Guys, Shy/introvert guys, are you truly happy and content staying at home and hardly meeting other human beings for days?

[Anonymous]

I dont even know where to start. But lets start off by the definition of "truly happy". Do you mean elevated and smiling until my cheeks hurt? Or do you mean content and at peace? For elevated, I dont think many introvert guys stay at home and just smile. Although we are content. The reason is energy, simply.

Most introvert guys are less talkative and listen more. Consequently, they are assumed as excellent secret keepers. Now this may not be true, but the burden of secret is still there. When we go out, we end u listening a lot more, almost 90% of the time, than actually talking. This may result in us being burdened by secrets. I can't tell you how many friends have confessed their darkest secrets to me. From cheating to domestic violence. And we can't do anything about it. Because no self-respecting guy would wanna involve in gossip.

Other drawbacks of listening is analyzing/over-analyzing. Either in the hindsight or in presence. We tend to analyze what was said to find out what exactly a person is like, or what they think about us. This leads to not so pleasant conclusion. It specially feels horrible when we "analyze" some signs and ignored. But that turns out to be true.

The point being, all these things require energy. Needless to say, every time we go out, we feel more tired than if we stayed at home. Mentally and physically both. Although, physical exhaustion is common. We, introvert guys at one point fail to differentiate between mental and physical exhaustion. Next day when we wake up, spend the day at home, we have less entropy. We are content. And naturally, we are drawn to that.

I am not a writer, so i can't capture the essence of how we feel in words. I have tried my best. Let me know if you have anymore question.

[Anonymous]

Yes and no. Mostly yes though. Of course we'd all like a happy and healthy relationship, we're human beings and all need and crave that connection and intimacy that comes with a relationship from time to time, however I'm fine with being single. When it comes to all the B. S. with dating etc, I hate it all so much that I'll stay single. If I meet someone (or all my past relationships), it's come from friendships (not traditional dating) that have lead to it naturally. I also enjoy my own company (often more so than with others).

[Phoenix_the_singer]

I'm not a happy person, but I'm truly okay with lacking human contact. Though, let me put it into perspective. Everyone loves personal space and having some alone time, right? Well, we like having that all the time. Being alone makes us feel good. We don't have to conflict ideas or argue or even talk at all, just exist. So yes, I could, and often have stayed home and mostly alone for weeks on end. Yes, I want a relationship, but I want it to be nice. While I understand occasional arguments are unavoidable, constant conflict is too much.

[NamerOfStars]

Kind of. Being introverted doesn't mean not wanting social interaction, it just means needing less of it- and that it can be draining, rather than invigorating. And yes, many of us do want relationships; we're just less likely to be the clingy spend-every-second-together types (less likely, mind).

[PrudentGuy]

No. I definitely hated to be alone.

Its mentally torturing to have no one to talk to.

Even texting is a form of relieve.

This is why if I'm bored with life, I go out to meet people.

Maybe I've grown out of being an introvert.

But I still want regular friends to talk and have sex with.

I think its life. Otherwise we're really worse than street dogs, who still able to get his sex partner.

[BCA6010]

Happy? Eh it's fine. Better single than wasting time with someone there's no decent future with just for the sake of companionship. That's the thing- other than friends (which I have plenty of), I'm not interested in pursuing a relationship with someone who doesn't have long term potential.

[Kurαȷ]

Well, yes?
I'm not shy, but I'm only interested in specific type of interaction.

If that type of interaction isn't readily available to me for periods of time, then I will choose no interaction instead.

I'm not "hungry" for interaction, if it's nice- I'll take it, but if it isn't then I don't care for it.

[ColHathi]

Not at all. In fact I'm very lonely and wish I had someone. That said, I don't want to go out and meet people in just any way or form. I really don't like parties or going to bars, for instance, and then it quickly becomes tricky.

[virgin20]

I'm really shy and would love a relationship, but face constant battles with my own head when it comes to girls.
When alone you have time to think which most of the time isn't good

[Anonymous]

I’m happy and content staying at home, my friends get me to go out sometimes though. I’ve tried having a relationship, but my last relationship ended super fast, so I don’t bother trying anymore. To much trouble just to get your feelings crushed. Every once-n-a-while a woman catches my eye but I’m just window shopping. In my opinion it’s better to be single then to continue to look for someone you can trust to let you down

[dudeinohio]

Yeah... I generally don't like other human contact. I'm in a relationship, though. I'm happy and content in my alone time.

[oncpl]

Being introvert I prefer to stay at home if like minded friends are busy.