What do I do about a jealous husband?

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Me and husband don’t text the opposite sex unless it’s necessary. And that’s just because I don’t feel like men and women that are friends need to text. Which is fine because he feels the same. But a I had to text a man from work to cover a shift (I don’t know him got contact from a friend). I thought I told my husband but apparently didn’t and he was very upset when he found out. He said “I didn’t think you would go that far and text a man.” As if I cheated? When it was nothing but professional text messages asking to cover certain days at work. And now he’s very angry with me anytime I try and talk to me he asks me to get away. What do I do? I don’t feel like I did anything wrong but he’s still making me feel guilty.

Answer 1

hahahmm | 769 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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The only times I've known people to have such an extreme reaction is when they themselves have a history of cheating, if not cheating right now. They see something that reminds them of what they've done and they flip out.

So this is a big red flag. You may want to investigate what he's up to.

As far as him trying to guilt you: just have an attitude of not giving a F. He'll stop when he realize it doesn't bother you.

Asker

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He does have a history of cheating. 3 years ago when we were dating- not since we’ve been married though.
hahahmm

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Then just point out to him that he feels this way because HE cheated and that you're not a cheater. Tell him to get over it. I do think it's wise for both of you not to have any hidden friendships with opposite gender, of course. But you already know that.
Asker

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Agreed and it was never hidden! I thought I told
Him and the guy texted me last night so I told him who texted and it was about a shift and flipped out.
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hahahmm

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Start double checking his stories about where he's at & when, without letting him know. Maybe install a hidden camera. If he's still cheating you want to find out now. Not 5 years from now.

Yeah, some people say it's wrong to spy on your SO. I disagree. As long as it's for a limited time and you have good reason. It's just not being a sucker. He's acting like a guilty person. It might be because of his past... OR his present.

Answer 2

Asker

He does have a history of cheating. 3 years ago when we were dating- not since we’ve been married though.

Answer 3

hahahmm

Then just point out to him that he feels this way because HE cheated and that you're not a cheater. Tell him to get over it. I do think it's wise for both of you not to have any hidden friendships with opposite gender, of course. But you already know that.

Answer 4

Asker

Agreed and it was never hidden! I thought I told
Him and the guy texted me last night so I told him who texted and it was about a shift and flipped out.

Answer 5

hahahmm

Start double checking his stories about where he's at & when, without letting him know. Maybe install a hidden camera. If he's still cheating you want to find out now. Not 5 years from now.

Yeah, some people say it's wrong to spy on your SO. I disagree. As long as it's for a limited time and you have good reason. It's just not being a sucker. He's acting like a guilty person. It might be because of his past... OR his present.

Answer 6

Wise4myage | 799 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Guru

Your husband is very insecure and immature too. Did you show him the texts? You didn't do anything wrong.

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I tried and he wouldn’t pay any attention to it.
Wise4myage

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That's really sad. I say give him time to get over it, and maybe consider marriage counseling if things don't improve.

Answer 7

Asker

I tried and he wouldn’t pay any attention to it.

Answer 8

Wise4myage

That's really sad. I say give him time to get over it, and maybe consider marriage counseling if things don't improve.

Answer 9

stickit

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sounds like he has a big trust issue i wish my wife would get more jealous honestly

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