Are these mixed messages or is he truly just trying to be my friend?

Question

I met this person a few months ago who I immediately had a ton of sexual chemistry with. We talked all day and sometimes all night, video calls, sexy snaps, it was so hot. Then when I started to fall for him, we talked about our feelings and decided to just being friends. He told me that he liked me, but we wanted different things.. I was too serious for him I guess. So I agreed to just being friends and decided to move past it. Fast forward a couple of months. He’s been hitting me up every day. Cute messages, funny memes, sending me things that remind him of “us”. He’s called me a few times in the morning just to say good morning, and at night just to chill on the phone together. He sends me long messages about how much he loves our friendship. When I don’t respond or if I give a short answer, he’ll start pressing more about how my day is, or send me something on a different platform to try and get my attention. He KNOWS that I have feelings for him. I told him multiple times. But he’s made it very clear that I’m just his friend. Right now, I feel like we’re really close, we know so much about each other, and consider each other really good friends. I’m just confused at this point does he like me or not? I feel like I’m being strung along.

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21 d

I don’t think I was very clear on my first post - he has been contacting me and sending me all those cute/funny messages every day SINCE we decided to be just friends. So this has been going on for months.

Answer 1

AshleyTaylorDanny

Xper 5

Sounds like he had another romantic interest somewhere else and it didn't work out so you were his backup plan. I suggest finding someone in your area.

Asker

21 d
Thank you!

Answer 2

Asker

Thank you!

Answer 3

Shruxee

Xper 4

It sounds like something else had his attention for a couple of months, hence why he asked for friendship and now that hasn’t worked out, he’s coming back to you. Hard to know for sure but off of what you said alone, that sounds most likely to me.

Asker

21 d
Thank you so much! I hadn’t considered that we had probably met when he had something else going on. But now that he’s constantly hitting me up, I’m unsure. I feel like he’s coming back... but do I accept him back? I feel like I opened up to him and really tried, only to be sad when he wasn’t onboard.
Shruxee

21 d
You’re welcome! Well, I mean only you can judge how he’s acting now and what vibes he’s putting across to you. If you trust it, then maybe it’s worth pursuing again. Sometimes people are worth a second chance but if it was to happen again, then I think that would say all it needs to about him.

Answer 4

Asker

Thank you so much! I hadn’t considered that we had probably met when he had something else going on. But now that he’s constantly hitting me up, I’m unsure. I feel like he’s coming back... but do I accept him back? I feel like I opened up to him and really tried, only to be sad when he wasn’t onboard.

Answer 5

Shruxee

You’re welcome! Well, I mean only you can judge how he’s acting now and what vibes he’s putting across to you. If you trust it, then maybe it’s worth pursuing again. Sometimes people are worth a second chance but if it was to happen again, then I think that would say all it needs to about him.

Answer 6

Silent_kisser

Xper 4

He is falling for you, ask him to have sex with you.

Asker

21 d
Problem: he lives on the other side of the country lol
Silent_kisser

21 d
Then he is desperate.

Answer 7

Asker

Problem: he lives on the other side of the country lol

Answer 8

Silent_kisser

Then he is desperate.

Answer 9

Avicenna | 3.9K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

You need to have a frank conversation with him

Asker

21 d
But how? I don’t know how many times I have to tell him that I have feelings for him.
Avicenna

21 d
Ask him where you stand with him

Answer 10

Asker

But how? I don’t know how many times I have to tell him that I have feelings for him.

Answer 11

Avicenna

Ask him where you stand with him

Answer 12

Flakey-Flake

Xper 6

Dump him

Asker

21 d
How do I dump someone who I haven’t actually officially been with though? This is so hard

Answer 13

Asker

How do I dump someone who I haven’t actually officially been with though? This is so hard

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