Why does an older guy at work insult me but he always gives me candy the second I ask?

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If i even mention 'YOU HAVE CANDY' he will come give me some!!! I dont even have to ask. Ok but then why has he ben inulting me lately. He says i just want attention, that i dont know about the real world, but before for months he would compliment me only... hed say nice stuff to me and say i seem intelligent and stuff. Now he talks to me as if i am dumb

Why give candy all the time if you hate me though?

Also he usually says some remark to me when he sees me everyday like the same old remark and makes comments about me in other convos so i overhear. Like 'she's gonna save us.'

And i dont know if i should be his work friend or not because he gives me candy. Not that he's trying to be my friend but im just so confused.

Answer 1

Gooblegobble

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He likes you but he’s a an old fuck so he’s bitter that he can’t have you. He’s a creep.

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ronaldsnugs

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People are disgusting stay away from him

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Asker

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I do. He comes up to me and says stuff or butts in or uses my name when nobody asked.

Answer 3

Asker

I do. He comes up to me and says stuff or butts in or uses my name when nobody asked.

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Iron_Man | 10.4K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

Nobody really knows him

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Asker

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On here?

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Asker

On here?

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Smilingqueen2

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He is trying to make you feel inferior

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Asker

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Why? I try to be very nice to everyone and make others feel welcome not put them down.
Smilingqueen2

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Maybe he likes your nature but wants to tease you
Asker

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Oh, well if so he's just confusing me and pushing me away in the long run. he's making himself not approachable.
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Smilingqueen2

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Yes, you need to keep distance to see how far he goes and you can get to know his real intentions if you leave him alone for a while and you too be unapproachable till he approaches you
Asker

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Thats really smart, thanks!!

Answer 7

Asker

Why? I try to be very nice to everyone and make others feel welcome not put them down.

Answer 8

Smilingqueen2

Maybe he likes your nature but wants to tease you

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Asker

Oh, well if so he's just confusing me and pushing me away in the long run. he's making himself not approachable.

Answer 10

Smilingqueen2

Yes, you need to keep distance to see how far he goes and you can get to know his real intentions if you leave him alone for a while and you too be unapproachable till he approaches you

Answer 11

Asker

Thats really smart, thanks!!

Answer 12

Anonymous

Well he's not a monster.

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Asker

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But why give candies to a girl you apparently dislike
Asker

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He could just say no or something its not like im starved for food
Asker

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So you think he just doesn't eanna say no when someone is hungry? But he still hates me?
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Opinion Owner

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Nothing you said about him or his behavior makes me think he hates you. Just picks on you. Kind of like a brother or father would.
Asker

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he's really hurting my feelings and tiring me out. I dont want his rude comments. Why do guys be gentlemen?
Opinion Owner

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Because it's tiring and often disingenuous to be a gentleman. You don't have to be friends with the guy. Just have to work with him. Better start building up that thick skin.
Asker

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So if you're a jerk I don't wanna be around u. End of.
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Also my dad doesn't stare at my chest.

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Asker

But why give candies to a girl you apparently dislike

Answer 14

Asker

He could just say no or something its not like im starved for food

Answer 15

Asker

So you think he just doesn't eanna say no when someone is hungry? But he still hates me?

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Opinion Owner

Nothing you said about him or his behavior makes me think he hates you. Just picks on you. Kind of like a brother or father would.

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Asker

he's really hurting my feelings and tiring me out. I dont want his rude comments. Why do guys be gentlemen?

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Opinion Owner

Because it's tiring and often disingenuous to be a gentleman. You don't have to be friends with the guy. Just have to work with him. Better start building up that thick skin.

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Asker

So if you're a jerk I don't wanna be around u. End of.

Answer 20

Asker

Also my dad doesn't stare at my chest.

Answer 21

Anonymous

i only read part of this long dribble but the short answer is because he thinks you act like a kid

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Bsi2gtsje8

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Likewise to your stupid answer. Reported.
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@Bsi2gtsje8 you wanted an answer i gave you one. it might not had been the one you wanted to hear but it was the truth

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Bsi2gtsje8

Likewise to your stupid answer. Reported.

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Opinion Owner

@Bsi2gtsje8 you wanted an answer i gave you one. it might not had been the one you wanted to hear but it was the truth

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Hornynowhhcdd

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Fuck hum

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What?
Hornynowhhcdd

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Fuck him.
Hornynowhhcdd

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And move on.
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Asker

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I dont have sex with him. How do you move on from a coworker?
Hornynowhhcdd

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Ok. I don't mean sex by "fuck him" . You can ignore him.
Asker

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I have done so. He just makes comments using my name or says them to me.
Hornynowhhcdd

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Confront him why he's doing this , tell him straight that you don't like
Hornynowhhcdd

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This
Asker

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I dont think hed care and im not that brave. Thanks though
Hornynowhhcdd

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Hmmm. Ok. Then you will have to left that job.. jis long will u tolerate him
Asker

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Ok. i can't but i can avoid eye contact maybe he will go away then
Hornynowhhcdd

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You tried to ignore him but still he fucks aronud
Asker

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there's worse jerks so i cabt just leave for him plus nobody hires me
Hornynowhhcdd

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Oh... i see.