Why my boyfriend doesn’t sleep over even when I live alone? Does he has problems or it’s bc of me?

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I used to have flatmates but live in separate room. whenever I asked him to sleepover he always said nah. Because he feels that’s unfair to my flatmates. I sorta understand that so I moved out living by myself. But still he hasn’t slept over at my place and when I asked him, he still insists on going back to his place even when it’s late night. He is quite affectionate tho.
so I’m like why? Cos if he doesn’t like me that much then why he is still being together with me. We only meet each other once a week or so. Whenever I ask him to come over to accompany with me during the weekday, he always says “I have work” can only come over during the weekend.
Seems like he is totally ok with meeting me only once a week. Not even the whole day, just a few hours. if he stays longer, he would probs say, my mom is waiting for me having dinner.
Would be possible that the reason why he doesn’t want to sleep over is his mom? Or he has some problems himself? Or just he is not that into me. Still looking for backup.

Answer 1

Gooblegobble

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You’re a hookup. He isn’t interested in anything real with you. Sorry. If you really like a girl, you want to sleep over, period.

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Answer 2

Wise4myage | 6.5K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

He not only sounds like a mama's boy, I get the feeling he could just using you sex. Do you have sex when you get together once a week?

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Asker

1 y
Not really. He strikes me as a mommy’s boy to some extent! I even asked him about that
Wise4myage

1 y
Well, I see no reason why he can't spend the night. That just seems very weird to me and I wouldn't blame you if it made you feel used.
Asker

1 y
I even asked him to sleepover. He always has reason. Now I just stop asking and sorta tired of asking. Or should I ask?
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Wise4myage

1 y
Keep asking and take notice of how many excuses he comes up with.

Answer 3

Asker

Not really. He strikes me as a mommy’s boy to some extent! I even asked him about that

Answer 4

Wise4myage

Well, I see no reason why he can't spend the night. That just seems very weird to me and I wouldn't blame you if it made you feel used.

Answer 5

Asker

I even asked him to sleepover. He always has reason. Now I just stop asking and sorta tired of asking. Or should I ask?

Answer 6

Wise4myage

Keep asking and take notice of how many excuses he comes up with.

Answer 7

Anonymous

I would say he is probably doing that so that you guys dont end up doing anything reckless. You are still very young. SO i can understand his reservations.

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Avicenna | 6.8K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

Only he knows. Ask him. I think his parents would be the most likely explanation.

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MAC1983

1 y
Ask him is the best advice indeed.
How many times have I told people, after some indecision or other about their life: Talk to the person. Even screaming can pass.

In the end, excluding violence of any kind, it is Silence, Fear and Despair that kill most relationships...

Answer 9

MAC1983

Ask him is the best advice indeed.
How many times have I told people, after some indecision or other about their life: Talk to the person. Even screaming can pass.

In the end, excluding violence of any kind, it is Silence, Fear and Despair that kill most relationships...

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OlderAndWiser | 3.6K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

How old is he? Have you ever been to his home?

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Asker

1 y
Yep he is over 30 actually. Have been to his place for several times
OlderAndWiser

1 y
What is the age of consent where you live? What is your age?
Asker

1 y
I’m around 27 now
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OlderAndWiser

1 y
Your profile says that you are under 18. You being 27 changes everything!
Asker

1 y
Like what? Like he is using me?
OlderAndWiser

1 y
You know that he is not married or in a LTR with someone else? Are your dates always arranged at the last minute? Have you met any of his friends or family?

Assuming he is not involved with someone else, the main reason a guy would refuse to spend the night with you is tat he wanted to avoid becoming emotionally involved.
Asker

1 y
I’ve met his family and some of his friends. been together for 10 months. I think you are right, he probs doesn’t like me that much or avoid becoming emotionally attached more. Sad
OlderAndWiser

1 y
At 10 months, you are certainly entitled to have the talk about ''where is this going?'

Answer 11

Asker

Yep he is over 30 actually. Have been to his place for several times

Answer 12

OlderAndWiser

What is the age of consent where you live? What is your age?

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Asker

I’m around 27 now

Answer 14

OlderAndWiser

Your profile says that you are under 18. You being 27 changes everything!

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Asker

Like what? Like he is using me?

Answer 16

OlderAndWiser

You know that he is not married or in a LTR with someone else? Are your dates always arranged at the last minute? Have you met any of his friends or family?

Assuming he is not involved with someone else, the main reason a guy would refuse to spend the night with you is tat he wanted to avoid becoming emotionally involved.

Answer 17

Asker

I’ve met his family and some of his friends. been together for 10 months. I think you are right, he probs doesn’t like me that much or avoid becoming emotionally attached more. Sad

Answer 18

OlderAndWiser

At 10 months, you are certainly entitled to have the talk about ''where is this going?'

Answer 19

Anonymous

Maybe he likes sleeping in his own bed

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Asker

1 y
But I’m his girlfriend. I thought guys prefer to stay at gf’s place you know

Answer 20

Asker

But I’m his girlfriend. I thought guys prefer to stay at gf’s place you know

Answer 21

Anonymous

trust me keep it that way

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