Can you believe a player when he says he loves you?

Question

I have literally no interest in this guy, he's cheated and slept around with so many girls and i have a amazing boyfriend who i love like crazy. I met this guy in my old job and even if i don't agree with his personal life its not my business to judge even if i joked to him but he was a slut a couple times.

He asked me lots of questions and it happened that we both liked the same music and had similar sense of humour. If im totally honest that's all he knows about me really but i think i had the manic pixie dream girl effect on him. He didn't care about who i really was he just loved but i was this prefect hip, trendy indie girl to him at first glance.

If he really bothered to know me for me he'd know im more right leaning and i actually disagree with a lot of the things he stands for and im sure he'd be the same with me

He'd always ask me to marry him but id brushed off his comments with witty comebacks which now looking back probably did more harm than good when trying to get him away from me.

He'd always insist on giving me lifts home and buy me drinks when out. When i was being pretty bitter about my ex once he got mad about it and took it really personal and another time when i said i don't want to date no more because most guys my age are "fuck boys" he said "some of us guys actually have feelings and actually like you" and stormed off. He even asked me out for drinks once but i rejected him by saying "how about i make you a cuppa instead? "

One night we were out clubbing and he said don't dance near to me or ill kiss you and then out of no were when we were alone he said "your never gonna fucking love me back are you? i thought you were gonna be my wife one day, i fucking love you and you don't give a shit". We'd had a couple drinks and i just said whatever mitch and walked away.

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Not long after that i met my boyfriend and he stopped being my friend and talking to me at all and started dating another co workers sister and has now actually settled down with her and bought a house and everything and im really proud of him if im totally honest.

I just wonder if he still has feelings for me as he's slowly trying to creep back into my life via Facebook and i don't want to be the reason him and his girlfriend split because im sure i was once before in one of his many relations

Answer 1

spartan55 | 13.8K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

Wow, you sure have a high opinion of yourself... thinking you would be the reason they broke up... Uh, no... it would be because he is a scumbag.

Puppystarfish23

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No i don't have a high opinion of myself at all actually. I knew it was because of me because his ex girlfriend confronted me about it and she told me all he'd do is compare her to me.
Puppystarfish23

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I know he's not a great guy but what you suppose to do when someone you work with wants to be your friend and hasn't done anything mean to you personally but you don't agreed with the things they do. I let him know what I thought of his cheating but doesn't mean i was gonna stop being social with him over something that's none of my business
spartan55

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That's not what you are asking about here though. If that's what you want to do, do it, but is he worth it? He will just keep making runs at you. You think he wants to be your friend? He wants to fuck you... Don't kid yourself.
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Puppystarfish23

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Obviously but im gonna defend myself if you say i think highly of myself without knowing all the facts. I have no interest in him and i know what im doing. Im asking because he's been trying to creep back into my life lately and if what he said about his feelings for me is ture im not sure if he's gonna give it up and move on or make a really stupid mistake like last time and get rejected by me again.
spartan55

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Why does it matter since you aren't interested? He could do either and you would act the same, right? He was feeding you bullshit lines before. Even if they were true, that's his issue, not yours..
Puppystarfish23

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Yeah but id rather him not ruin a good thing he has with his girlfriend if so. I don't know call me a bitch and say i have feelings for him when i clearly dont already. 🙄 I know that's what you're trying to get too. It's usually the womans fault on this site isn't it?
spartan55

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Uh, okay... woman's fault? No idea what you are talking about..
So, you don't have feelings for him, but you are worried about him ruining his relationship. That makes no sense at all.
So you don't want him to 'ruin a good thing' by hitting on. you, or whatever. What makes you think you control what he does? If it's not you, it will be some other girl. You aren't responsible for his actions..

Answer 2

Puppystarfish23

No i don't have a high opinion of myself at all actually. I knew it was because of me because his ex girlfriend confronted me about it and she told me all he'd do is compare her to me.

Answer 3

Puppystarfish23

I know he's not a great guy but what you suppose to do when someone you work with wants to be your friend and hasn't done anything mean to you personally but you don't agreed with the things they do. I let him know what I thought of his cheating but doesn't mean i was gonna stop being social with him over something that's none of my business

Answer 4

spartan55

That's not what you are asking about here though. If that's what you want to do, do it, but is he worth it? He will just keep making runs at you. You think he wants to be your friend? He wants to fuck you... Don't kid yourself.

Answer 5

Puppystarfish23

Obviously but im gonna defend myself if you say i think highly of myself without knowing all the facts. I have no interest in him and i know what im doing. Im asking because he's been trying to creep back into my life lately and if what he said about his feelings for me is ture im not sure if he's gonna give it up and move on or make a really stupid mistake like last time and get rejected by me again.

Answer 6

spartan55

Why does it matter since you aren't interested? He could do either and you would act the same, right? He was feeding you bullshit lines before. Even if they were true, that's his issue, not yours..

Answer 7

Puppystarfish23

Yeah but id rather him not ruin a good thing he has with his girlfriend if so. I don't know call me a bitch and say i have feelings for him when i clearly dont already. 🙄 I know that's what you're trying to get too. It's usually the womans fault on this site isn't it?

Answer 8

spartan55

Uh, okay... woman's fault? No idea what you are talking about..
So, you don't have feelings for him, but you are worried about him ruining his relationship. That makes no sense at all.
So you don't want him to 'ruin a good thing' by hitting on. you, or whatever. What makes you think you control what he does? If it's not you, it will be some other girl. You aren't responsible for his actions..

Answer 9

Barbaric | 154 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 7

Guys like that are simply unstable. That's why they end up cheating and fucking around and whatnot. Coming up to you multiple times and saying things like that when you're clearly not interested is nuts.

Answer 10

Knighted2170 | 185 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

Sounds like you were a challenge he couldn't figure out.

Guys (and girls) can get hung up on person. For some reason they just can't let them go. The only thing you can do is just tell it to them straight. Not interested, leave me alone.

Then brace for their backlash.

It's sad, but that's how some people are.

Can you believe a player? You can, but be very cautious. They got the label for a reason.

Answer 11

SuccessfulHornDog | 2K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

Most guys are lying these days just to get laid. Be careful what you believe because they are good actors

Answer 12

Konabeana | 120 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

To answer your question: yes.

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