Is there a hope that young guys would date a mom like me?

[ShadezMcgee]

Not impossible, but definitely difficult. It all depends on the circumstances on how you became a single mom and the stigma that comes with it.

If you got pregnant with your kids from a guy due to poor protection methods to prevent birth (ie, no condoms, birth control, etc.) Or you divorced and split with the guy who fathered your kids, it is a tough sale since it shows bad decision making and the baby daddy is never truly out of the picture and there is a good chance she will go back to him. Plus, most men won't get a say in how her kids are raised, being resented by her kids or risk getting attached to those kids are risks as well, and some just don't want to raise another man's kids.

Now in the circumstance you were married happily and became a widow with a kid, that's different. It shows you at least had a good relationship with your kid's father and were both raising him meaning there is not as high a chance of infidelity taking place. Then that one is more appealing because you show stability and responsibility in this scenario.

[nawtee_me]

I don't see why not, but then again I am older and a mom with kids doesn't turn me away. My ex had two kids when we met. The thing is you and your kids are a total package. You can not have one without the other. Younger guys can't or won't look past not being the father. They can't see that any guy can make a baby, being a dad is more important then making them.
I praise you for being both mom and dad to your kids. I was a single parent to two sons, now grown. message me if you like, or just want to talk.

[SueShe]

You are just at the beginning of your adult life with a mere 3 years behind you and a whopping 60+ ahead of you.

Of course there is plenty of hope for your to find a decent guy that looks at you, not so much as merely a mom, but for what is deeper than being a parent. That would be for your personality, character and intellect.

You are more than just pretty and I don't think that you would have a hard time to find this person that takes you as you are, with all your faults but mainly because of all your assets and what lies beyond this shell of yours. Good luck!

[geonator]

I think when I was your age, I would have been somewhat turned on if a cute girl my age had kids, because it's a very feminine thing about her. I probably would have at least given her a chance, but I would have also recognized that I wasn't in a position to take on being a "dad" so I would have been careful about it. I mean, I'm thinking there must be some guys your age who would also find it attractive that you have kids, and perhaps ones that are ready for that kind of thing. Or at least maybe ones who are like two years older than you who are already living the real adult life? I'm guessing so, and if I'm wrong, that means you just wait a few years when the guys your age become more mature

[DrunkenMonkey1423]

Personally I think its going to depend a lot on the individual guy. I recently broke up with my ex of 5.5 years. She's 4 years younger and had a son when we met. I absolutely fell in love with him. The problem is though that theirs a lot of scum out there. When a woman has kids I personally feel it's wrong to try to enter the relationship without accepting everything she comes with. Maybe because I was raised with my mom being single to 3. You'll find a guy but it's going to be slightly more difficult. I would suggest to get one 4 to 7 years older than you so you get one still young but with the maturity to settle down.

[streetkale]

When you date someone you're dating the whole package, just not their physical looks. Sure, you may be attractive but you also have two kids and for most males your age (21) that's asking a lot from them to take on. Like it or not, kids are considered baggage and it'll make you less date-able for some guys, especially younger guys when there are lots of women your age with no kids to choose from. Older men are more use to dating women who already have kids, so they see your kids as not as much of an issue.

[ajeazyk]

there's definitely hope. Just most guys your age aren't ready to take on that responsibility. My best friend is 24 though and he just married someone who already has a 4 year old girl. I'm sure he's out there.

[Reaperbot666]

I kind of understand your dilemma since I am a single father of twin boys. So finding a childless woman willing to date me long term. Once she finds out I have children already are pretty slim. So I would consider dating a single mother if we're compatible and the children all get along.

[jshm2]

Well... depends what you can offer. Having two kids, is a bit awkward for younger guys as they do not know how to act and behave with young kids that are not their own. Whereas a mature man will take it all in his stride.

It really depends what kind of man you want, one just for you, or one that will be good with your kids as well.

[_Troian_]

Well.. young guys wouldn't want to carry its responsibility because of many things. First of all, young guy usually wouldn't have enough income to take care of all four, young guy would like to experience the life a bit more at least until his 30s.. so a woman like you, who get more matured cause of her life cycle ( being mother of 2 and such ) gonna scare them indeed.

[Ripper_E]

There is always hope. But most young men probably aren't ready to take that on. Dating is one thing but committing to you means committing to your children.

[Rangers]

I think you're very attractive and the whole children thing would be a massive wall to climb over cause I'd have to win the kids over but it wouldn't make me give up although I take it you probably wouldn't be into me plus I have a girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Your demographic is small that's for sure.
Let me ask you this would you date a homeless guy? Because you have to understand to a guy your age your situation holds about as much appeal to them. It's not personal. You just have baggage.

[disgustingweebtrash]

Not usually. Men do not usually want to raise other men's children.

Other single fathers would probably be interested since your children and theirs can bond over having been raised by a single parent and so can understand each other.

[Bismarck_96]

Never give hope up friend of mine has 3 kids her kids father is a guy who keeps getting locked up till she finally got a new guy like 2 years older than her

[gandolph3]

Sorry, i am an old guy, but the young guys are blind, you are quite attractive

[TonyMetal___86]

Are you divorced? Your still very young...
You have 2 beautiful daughters, where's your man? What happened if you don't mind telling...

[Liam_Hayden]

Not many young guys will be interested in taking on an insta-family. Older guys might already have kids so for them it is possibly less of a stretch.

[Cowboy6666]

alright keep trying meanwhile you can open your options for older guys too ;)

[In_Trance]

Young guys are typically not equipped to deal with that

[Yourman86]

Yes some hope. Dont know how serious it would get though

[hdhwgw2726262]

Yes there is hope! I’m sure u will just be confident

[havingfun101]

'Need young sugar daddy for insta-family.'