My boyfriend broke up with me so he could sort out his life, then a month later he made out with two girls? Should I forgive him?

Question

He (25) broke up with me because he said he needed time to fix his life, get a good job, stop smoking weed and he felt like he wasn’t able to provide be there properly until he had this. I agreed because we both said we loved each other but right now wasn’t good as we were fighting a lot.
Then he didn’t stick to his decision so the past 4 months we’ve been meeting up and seeing each other here and there without the relationship and now he just told me about a month after we broke up he missed these two girls as a dare at a party. So much for breaking up with me to focus on his life.

I know we weren’t together anymore but the disrespect of the fact that he claimed to love me and wanted to be a better man to then go and kiss other girls a month later at a party.

Answer 1

20yearsolder | 488 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

No you should not forgive him, if someone dared him to jump off of 15th floor of a building would he do it? Hell no he wouldn't. He wanted to make out with those girls and never thought once about you when he was doing it. Move on, you deserve better

Asker

10 d
Yeah you’re right, he even said he didn’t want to look gay by refusing. Which is so immature so he’s obviously easily influenced by his friends.
I just don’t know why he then bothers to keep coming back to me saying he regrets ending the relationship
20yearsolder

10 d
Because he hasn't found anything better yet. The key word is yet.
Asker

10 d
Yeah imma leave him for good because he’s been so indecisive about breaking up as well. It’s like one minute he wants to be together, next thing he’s sure he needs to focus on himself first apart from me. And he then doesn’t know if he wants me to wait for him or not, or take a break lol. So I have to be confused because he’s confused and now I’m trying to untangle myself out of the mess
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20yearsolder

10 d
Your first mistake is waiting on him to make a decision. You do what's best for you, not what is best for you. He probably comes around when he's hungry or horny. Get someone that appreciates you for you and speak up for yourself. For instance, I'm tired of your indecisiveness, I'm going to make the decision to move on. We are like oil and water, we do not mix
Asker

10 d
Thanks for the advice I appreciate it. I’ll come back to reality and start standing up for myself. Being emotionally invested can be so blinding like I’ll doubt my own judgement
20yearsolder

10 d
I totally understand and It's good to get some perspective from others

Answer 2

Asker

Yeah you’re right, he even said he didn’t want to look gay by refusing. Which is so immature so he’s obviously easily influenced by his friends.
I just don’t know why he then bothers to keep coming back to me saying he regrets ending the relationship

Answer 3

20yearsolder

Because he hasn't found anything better yet. The key word is yet.

Answer 4

Asker

Yeah imma leave him for good because he’s been so indecisive about breaking up as well. It’s like one minute he wants to be together, next thing he’s sure he needs to focus on himself first apart from me. And he then doesn’t know if he wants me to wait for him or not, or take a break lol. So I have to be confused because he’s confused and now I’m trying to untangle myself out of the mess

Answer 5

20yearsolder

Your first mistake is waiting on him to make a decision. You do what's best for you, not what is best for you. He probably comes around when he's hungry or horny. Get someone that appreciates you for you and speak up for yourself. For instance, I'm tired of your indecisiveness, I'm going to make the decision to move on. We are like oil and water, we do not mix

Answer 6

Asker

Thanks for the advice I appreciate it. I’ll come back to reality and start standing up for myself. Being emotionally invested can be so blinding like I’ll doubt my own judgement

Answer 7

20yearsolder

I totally understand and It's good to get some perspective from others

Answer 8

Bubbles45

Xper 5

I wouldn't forgive him personally, it would be difficult to stay with someone like that

My boyfriend broke up with me so he could sort out his life, then a month later he made out with two girls? Should I forgive him?

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