How do you reach out to a guy you ghosted as a female?

Question

there was an old friend I matched with on tinder. And I kind of ghosted him because life got crazy and I didn’t like the app the begin with so I just deleted the app on him without thinking :/ I have him on facebook and I know he’s still into me. But I don't know how to strike things back up after literally ghosting him lol. Any advice please i’m a shy girl

Answer 1

spartan55 | 14.5K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

The arrogance here is not surprising. So you blow a guy off and ghost him, yet you know he is still into you? How do you know that? Because he is FB friends with you? So stupid. You seem to think he wants to get with you which is about as presumptuous as it gets.

Asker

4 d
If you’re offended by the lol, I just put it there because it’s an awkward subject. I didn’t really blow him off, the convo died so I deleted the app without telling him without really thinking. Maybe you’re right, I don't know. I assume he’s still interested because he’s still liking my photos and stuff. We’ve liked each other for a while, but there’s always been a reason we couldnt be together. Like my abusive ex, that I’m in the process of legally divorcing. Which is why i deleted the app, i didn't want to start something right away. Divorce is messy and i like him didn't want to ruin it
Asker

4 d
@spartan55 Also - we never cheated either we just met each other 5 years ago but I was already in a relationship. Just so happens now we’re both single

Answer 2

Asker

If you’re offended by the lol, I just put it there because it’s an awkward subject. I didn’t really blow him off, the convo died so I deleted the app without telling him without really thinking. Maybe you’re right, I don't know. I assume he’s still interested because he’s still liking my photos and stuff. We’ve liked each other for a while, but there’s always been a reason we couldnt be together. Like my abusive ex, that I’m in the process of legally divorcing. Which is why i deleted the app, i didn't want to start something right away. Divorce is messy and i like him didn't want to ruin it

Answer 3

Asker

@spartan55 Also - we never cheated either we just met each other 5 years ago but I was already in a relationship. Just so happens now we’re both single

Answer 4

extremelybored

Xper 5

How is that funny? Anyways, your best bet here would be to reach out to him on Facebook. If he's still interested he'll set up a date, then hangout and have fun. But you need to let him know you're into him because he most likely got out off by the ghosting.

Asker

4 d
It’s not funny, I’m just very awkward. So I shouldn’t be the one to ask him out? Also what is ghosting? Because I was the last person to send a message, but he just didn’t bring up anything more to talk about or ask me out yet. All i did was delete the app after he didn't reply back
extremelybored

4 d
Then just tell the dude you like him and say you're free on *insert day here* and would love to see him. None of this has to be complicated and doing this gives him an easy way back into your life without any confusion. If he brings up the app situation just be straight forward and say "I didn't want the app so I deleted it"

Answer 5

Asker

It’s not funny, I’m just very awkward. So I shouldn’t be the one to ask him out? Also what is ghosting? Because I was the last person to send a message, but he just didn’t bring up anything more to talk about or ask me out yet. All i did was delete the app after he didn't reply back

Answer 6

extremelybored

Then just tell the dude you like him and say you're free on *insert day here* and would love to see him. None of this has to be complicated and doing this gives him an easy way back into your life without any confusion. If he brings up the app situation just be straight forward and say "I didn't want the app so I deleted it"

Answer 7

bobalife

Xper 6

Yolo. Take your chances by reaching out. Genuinely explained how you’re still interested and your situation at the time. Goodluck! 🙂

Answer 8

MarkVDV

Xper 1

Honesty is always the best policy... saying you ditched the app, but it's nice he reached out on facebook for instance... just go for it, being shy is a nice quality (it really is), but sometimes you just have to let go, close your eyes and dive in...

Answer 9

jgokgotit | 229 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

You leave him alone because that is the consequence of ghosting. Most men would not give a woman another chance after being ghosted.

Asker

4 d
What is ghosting? All i did was delete the app why does that make me so cruel
jgokgotit

4 d
Deleting the app is fine. However, you said yourself you ghosted. That means just leaving him hanging without a reason why. However, if it was just an innocent mistake, just explain it to him.
Asker

4 d
How do i explain that? It is a little like ghosting, i was the last person to message. but I waited a day and a bit to see if he’d say anything. So i deleted it. However according to friends, he’s interested in me but he’s shy
Show All Show Less
jgokgotit

4 d
You just tell the truth and leave it up to him whether or not to pursue the relationship. Tell him the truth, tell him how you can see why it looks like a ghosting but that was not your intent. If he does not believe you it means there will be trust issues down the road and a relationship would be a waste of time anyways. However, make it clear you are interested in him. Because of the possible perception of ghosting in this case, you will have to overcome your shyness and be blunt if you are to have any chance.
jgokgotit

4 d
Also, look at your own communication style (relationships and in general) and see where you can tweak it to be better.

Answer 10

Asker

What is ghosting? All i did was delete the app why does that make me so cruel

Answer 11

jgokgotit

Deleting the app is fine. However, you said yourself you ghosted. That means just leaving him hanging without a reason why. However, if it was just an innocent mistake, just explain it to him.

Answer 12

Asker

How do i explain that? It is a little like ghosting, i was the last person to message. but I waited a day and a bit to see if he’d say anything. So i deleted it. However according to friends, he’s interested in me but he’s shy

Answer 13

jgokgotit

You just tell the truth and leave it up to him whether or not to pursue the relationship. Tell him the truth, tell him how you can see why it looks like a ghosting but that was not your intent. If he does not believe you it means there will be trust issues down the road and a relationship would be a waste of time anyways. However, make it clear you are interested in him. Because of the possible perception of ghosting in this case, you will have to overcome your shyness and be blunt if you are to have any chance.

Answer 14

jgokgotit

Also, look at your own communication style (relationships and in general) and see where you can tweak it to be better.

Answer 15

EaterPeter

Xper 2

Is he available or now he is in ghosting mode. If you have his contact info. and you are in the mood of genuine apology go for it.

Answer 16

Iron_Man | 7K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

You don’t you messed up already

Asker

5 d
life gets crazy sometimes. it happens. Don’t take things so personally. :) this message really wasn’t helpful considering it’s not the advice I asked for
Iron_Man

5 d
@MarkVDV go away pussyfoot boy

Answer 17

Asker

life gets crazy sometimes. it happens. Don’t take things so personally. :) this message really wasn’t helpful considering it’s not the advice I asked for

Answer 18

Iron_Man

@MarkVDV go away pussyfoot boy

How do you reach out to a guy you ghosted as a female?

AI Bot Choice

Most Helpful Guy

Most Helpful Girl

What Girls & Guys Said

Related myTakes