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I decided to put things behind me and reconnect with old friends one them dealing with my ex. When we were together he was obsessed with me, even afterwards. I put a stop to his obsessive behavior afterwards, a few months back. 8 months later I compliment his Instagram post and he ignores the shit outta me. He respond and likes everyone else’s comment and totally acts like I don’t exist. I honestly wanted to know what I did wrong?

Answer 1

Anonymous

You'll come to understand guys better as you gain more experience. The reason he's ignoring you now is because you rejected him and hurt his feelings. You can't have it both ways. You can't be friends and tell him to stop caring about you. You get one or the other.

Asker

4 d
I didn’t rlly tell him we couldn’t be friends I just removed him from my friends list. I guess he thought I blocked him. But thanks for the advice

Answer 2

Asker

I didn’t rlly tell him we couldn’t be friends I just removed him from my friends list. I guess he thought I blocked him. But thanks for the advice

Answer 3

Giggletr0nn

Xper 3

Hold up, you completely cut off an obsessed ex off and now you're wondering why he has tried to move on with life and cut you off like you did with him? Are you perhaps not seeing the obvious here?

Asker

5 d
I didn’t mean cut off like that I meant, I stoped his obsessive stalking over me. It’s great he’s trying to move on, I just don’t see the problem with a nice little compliment.
Giggletr0nn

4 d
Yeah I can imagine from your stance if would seem quite dickish of him to not return a compliment - but the guy was obsessed with you, you rightfully broke that obsession so he has probably taken that a lot harder than you may realise and has turned was once was obsessive feelings into feelings similar to disdain. You should ask yourself, would you respond to someone that you no longer liked all that much?
Asker

4 d
You’re probably right. I thought he would’ve grown up by now, I guess not. But I hate how he took in a negative way. I wonder why he’s still friends with my bestie tho.

Answer 4

Asker

I didn’t mean cut off like that I meant, I stoped his obsessive stalking over me. It’s great he’s trying to move on, I just don’t see the problem with a nice little compliment.

Answer 5

Giggletr0nn

Yeah I can imagine from your stance if would seem quite dickish of him to not return a compliment - but the guy was obsessed with you, you rightfully broke that obsession so he has probably taken that a lot harder than you may realise and has turned was once was obsessive feelings into feelings similar to disdain. You should ask yourself, would you respond to someone that you no longer liked all that much?

Answer 6

Asker

You’re probably right. I thought he would’ve grown up by now, I guess not. But I hate how he took in a negative way. I wonder why he’s still friends with my bestie tho.

Answer 7

havingfun101 | 108 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 6

So, he gave you too much attention and now, you want some attention even though you aren't putting out?

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