Thanks for sharing. Do you believe that people only cheat when they're unhappy in their relationship?
No, I think people cheat for a wide range of reasons. That was just my personal reason. Some people do it because they feel they need the confidence boost. Some do it because they don't respect the sanctity of marriage or a committed relationship and just want more than they have, because there's no such thing as "enough." Some people just have poor impulse-control, so if someone comes onto them, they just go along with it.
Like what? Can you share?
I learned that when I’m feeling unheard and my needs are being ignored and rejected I will take the easy way and cross lines I never thought I’d cross. I also leaned a lot about my likes, desires, and what a strong sexual connection actually feels like.
Nice realizations. Thanks for sharing
You’re welcome. Hope that helps
I'm curious, when you said that you learned what a strong sexual connection actually feels like, do you mean to say that you only learned that with the girl that you were cheating with? Like you realized that you didn't have a strong sexual connection with your girlfriend?
And did you actually break up with your girlfriend because of that?
No. I’m conflicted and an idiot lol 😂
I see, but have you broken up with the other girl?
We no longer have sex. We still talk from time to time
Okay. Thanks so much for answering
You’re welcome. If you ever have other questions about it I’d love to try to answer them.
Okay, what makes you stay with your girlfriend, if she's not able to really connect with you sexually? And you don't like the other girl enough that's why you're not pursuing a relationship with her? Also, has your girlfriend found out about your cheating? How has it changed your relationship with her?
No she hasn’t found out. I stay with her because the only part of your relationship that is not satisfying is our sex life and it just feels like a lot of good to throw away to try and gain one good thing or one point of connection. I don't know of that makes any sense but in my mind it does
Yes, it does make sense. Thanks so much for being so honest and responsive
you're welcome. Like I said if you ever want to talk more about it or have additional questions feel free to reach out any time
Hi, I have questions again. Why haven't you told your girlfriend about the cheating incident? Hasn't it affected your relationship with her at all, like do you feel guilty when you're with her and you remember what you did? And do you still think of the other girl every once in a while? Did you feel something special for her? If my questions are too personal, it's okay if you don't want to answer
Hi, welcome back. I’m sure it has affected my relationship, the reason I don’t tell her is because I feel like it would do more harm than good. I don’t really feel guilty about doing it since I feel like I was just getting my needs met. I guess I’ve adopted a different mindset as a result of this. I don’t think that one person can get all thier needs met by one other individual. So to me I just identified a need that was not being met and got it met elsewhere, similar to how someone might have a night out with friends etc
I see. What was the kind of relationship that you had with the other girl? Was it a friends with benefits arrangement, was she your mistress, or just a one night stand? Was it purely sexual, or were you also emotional and intimate with her?
It was a friends with benefits relationship is how I would describe it. We are friends but truly our friendship is primarily based around the sexual chemistry we have and fulfilling the sexual needs that have gone unfulfilled.
I see. I think I am seeing a strong similarity with your situation to what happened to me. I would have wanted to ask you more, but I wouldn't want to discuss about it on here, in public. We're both using anonymous user names so I'm not able to message you directly. Anyway, thank you so much for answering. I truly appreciate it
My username is andy530 on here if you ever would like to talk more you’re welcome to look me up
Hey, I tried looking you up but so many Andy user names came up. Can you give me the link to your profile instead, if it's okay? Thanks
Lol hbu I’m not sure how to link my profile... if you look up andy530 it should come up as me...
I wasn't able to find any andy530 users. Really weird. You can try looking for mine instead - Beabi
I think I just messaged you
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