Why is he suddenly ignoring me after I ignored him?

Question

I know the title sounds crazy, but lt’s very confusing. I started contacting my ex again, (on snapchat) He was very interested right away, responding almost immediately to my jokes, saving my picture and just joking around. But because i am scared to actually fall for him again i keep waiting days to respond to him. But every time i waited 3/4 days he would still respond right away! So i thought sweet, he does not mind i can take this slowly. The last time i waited 6 days, unintentionally ofcourse and now he is not even opening my message, i waited a day to send a snap, also completly ignoring it or opening it. Is this a punishment when he seemed ok with it at first? I also texted him on his number he ignored this also.. Please help!

Why is he suddenly ignoring me after I ignored him?

Updates:

1 mo

I realized he was much more emotional than i thought, i contacted him once more and we were talking non stop. (No breaks for days from my end) Thankyou to all the nice replies! It is very much appreciated. 😘

Answer 1

Vviiccttoorr

Xper 5

Honestly it looked like you were playing games and me personally; I don’t go for that. That’s something that is society’s fault though, they try and make it look like it’s “creepy”, “weird”, or even “thirsty” when you respond quickly yet, that (in my opinion) means you are just really interested and would love to talk. I would maybe just tell him straight up you’d like to see him again and if he still gives you the cold shoulder then ditch him (politely; no need to show hate or anything) at that point he could be playing games or could try to be getting you to be in the palm of his hand by showing interest and then no interest (I wouldn’t recommend a guy like that if he’s showing signs of manipulation but, it could be because, he’s annoyed also). I hope I had some good advice; I would hate to mislead.

Nellyx

1 mo
Thankyou victor, for your lovely reply. I actually contacted him again by text and we were talking non stop for hours. We talked everything trough and we are actually getting back together. Some more positive news that these replies were not expecting...
Vviiccttoorr

1 mo
No problem, I’m glad it’s going well👍🏼 What did you mean when you said “some more positive news that these replies were not expecting” LOL I don’t understand

Answer 2

Nellyx

Thankyou victor, for your lovely reply. I actually contacted him again by text and we were talking non stop for hours. We talked everything trough and we are actually getting back together. Some more positive news that these replies were not expecting...

Answer 3

Vviiccttoorr

No problem, I’m glad it’s going well👍🏼 What did you mean when you said “some more positive news that these replies were not expecting” LOL I don’t understand

Answer 4

JohnGarcia

Xper 4

I would suggest you apologize to him because you kind of lead him on when he was trying to express his love. You can be straightforward to him next time saying you need time because you're scared to fall for him. Don't worry, you're not a bad woman! 😄

Answer 5

pingiluv | 138 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

I messaged my ex but I wanted to just be friends, he started playing those games too. Messaging me about every 3-4 days. After 2 messages I just gave up. I’m too old to play those games. So my initial reaching out to him was to be friends and nothing more, he took it another way and I don’t have time for that. I’m too old. He first said we could be friends but now I’m over it. I haven’t messaged him back and took him off my social media

Answer 6

Bee-Hatch | 87 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

Soooo

Let's get this straight...

You contact your ex.
He responds.
You start playing games for your own amusement.
He still responds.
You take those games further - still for your own amusement.
He looses interest in someone playing games at his expense and stops getting in touch.

Nope can't figure it out.

Nellyx

1 mo
I was not playing games, i was scared to reach out again because i was not feeling sure if it was something i really wanted. It all worked out in the end, thanks for the wakeup call and your reply ☺️

Answer 7

Nellyx

I was not playing games, i was scared to reach out again because i was not feeling sure if it was something i really wanted. It all worked out in the end, thanks for the wakeup call and your reply ☺️

Answer 8

Dongtai | 226 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

He probably got tired of your pattern and decided it wasn’t worth the trouble. I give women the benefit of the doubt. If a girl does something I don’t like I’ll let it go the first or second time. But if it’s habit I’ll talk to her about them stop seeing her if it keeps going.

Nellyx

1 mo
Thankyou for your reply ☺️
Dongtai

1 mo
No problem 👏👏

Answer 9

Nellyx

Thankyou for your reply ☺️

Answer 10

Dongtai

No problem 👏👏

Answer 11

Mewipaws

Xper 4

The question is why are you contacting your ex again? Is it because you missed him and want to get back together again?

I feel that he was interested initially but your late replies made him feel that you are using him whenever you feel like it so he started to ignore you for that

Nellyx

1 mo
Yes, i miss him and want to get back together. My late replies were only because i felt not sure, because the relationship was quite toxic. Now when i finally feel sure he is ignoring me, i would like to know what i can do to gain his attention back.

Answer 12

Nellyx

Yes, i miss him and want to get back together. My late replies were only because i felt not sure, because the relationship was quite toxic. Now when i finally feel sure he is ignoring me, i would like to know what i can do to gain his attention back.

Answer 13

Leoxen

Xper 5

You didn't answer for six days, he got tired of the pattern. And honestly, not my place but he probably thought you were using him. Your best course of action if you still want him around, is to be honest and tell him the truth, apologize and say how you feel.

Nellyx

1 mo
I did, thankyou!
Leoxen

1 mo
No prob, glad you could work it out :)

Answer 14

Nellyx

I did, thankyou!

Answer 15

Leoxen

No prob, glad you could work it out :)

Answer 16

NerviolettiRikki

Xper 1

You get back what you give to him. You keep waiting and putting him off he’s going to put you off

Nellyx

1 mo
i realize that now, thankyou!

Answer 17

Nellyx

i realize that now, thankyou!

Answer 18

Hangry22

Guru

The title says it all. He is ignoring you because he got sick of you ignoring him repeatedly

Aakash_Hangargi

1 mo
I would definetly like to know your views on this
Aakash_Hangargi

1 mo
How can it hurt so much when I was the one to break up with an ugly guy? ↗
Aakash_Hangargi

1 mo
It's something fascinating.

After reading the content now the challenge for you would be to tell me what I am thinking its a fun game if you like it I mean thd gamex nit the situation
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Hangry22

1 mo
@Aakash_Hangargi i actually saw that question before. Read one or two lines. It felt boring so i skipped it
I will read it now that you said it
Aakash_Hangargi

1 mo
Thank you 😅
Hangry22

1 mo
@Aakash_Hangargi I posted my view. You may or may not agree with it. I couldn't do the reverse gender role. So i can understand why she's getting hatred from guys
Aakash_Hangargi

1 mo
Nope there was no hatred from me at least but I did if agree with her actions though
Aakash_Hangargi

1 mo
Yup read you'd comment we have almost same view, but doubt that he was insecure bc he didnot break up she did and can't say much don't know how she actually behaved with him..
Hangry22

1 mo
@Aakash_Hangargi Insecurity doesn't always lead to break ups. Some people take it out on their partners
Aakash_Hangargi

1 mo
But as per the story he didn't do any such thing he just stopped bc she wanted him to worship her like constantly beg?

Answer 19

Aakash_Hangargi

I would definetly like to know your views on this

Answer 20

Aakash_Hangargi

How can it hurt so much when I was the one to break up with an ugly guy? ↗

Answer 21

Aakash_Hangargi

It's something fascinating.

After reading the content now the challenge for you would be to tell me what I am thinking its a fun game if you like it I mean thd gamex nit the situation

Answer 22

Hangry22

@Aakash_Hangargi i actually saw that question before. Read one or two lines. It felt boring so i skipped it
I will read it now that you said it

Answer 23

Aakash_Hangargi

Thank you 😅

Answer 24

Hangry22

@Aakash_Hangargi I posted my view. You may or may not agree with it. I couldn't do the reverse gender role. So i can understand why she's getting hatred from guys

Answer 25

Aakash_Hangargi

Nope there was no hatred from me at least but I did if agree with her actions though

Answer 26

Aakash_Hangargi

Yup read you'd comment we have almost same view, but doubt that he was insecure bc he didnot break up she did and can't say much don't know how she actually behaved with him..

Answer 27

Hangry22

@Aakash_Hangargi Insecurity doesn't always lead to break ups. Some people take it out on their partners

Answer 28

Aakash_Hangargi

But as per the story he didn't do any such thing he just stopped bc she wanted him to worship her like constantly beg?

Answer 29

casserolie

Xper 5

why is everyone on here asking why their ex isn't speaking to them 🧍‍♀️ just move on, like what they are obviously trying to do

Nellyx

1 mo
No, because my approach actually worked. Thanks for your lovely input that was not correct tho.

Answer 30

Nellyx

No, because my approach actually worked. Thanks for your lovely input that was not correct tho.

Answer 31

ThisIsMyOpinion | 554 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

Of course this is punishment for not sending anything for 6 days! That's a lot.
You might have scared him away.

Nellyx

1 mo
Thankyou! I have not scared him away... for now. ☺️
ThisIsMyOpinion

1 mo
Good to know! But don't do another one like that. You should both give lots of attention to each other.

Answer 32

Nellyx

Thankyou! I have not scared him away... for now. ☺️

Answer 33

ThisIsMyOpinion

Good to know! But don't do another one like that. You should both give lots of attention to each other.

Answer 34

SUMAIREBRAHIM | 216 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 6

Common grow up just
Apologize to him and talking to him normal
Don't play games n keep it simple everything will be alright
Be mature ☺️

Nellyx

1 mo
thankyou, i followed your advice! It worked 😊

Answer 35

Nellyx

thankyou, i followed your advice! It worked 😊

Answer 36

Floppy2112 | 102 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 5

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Just be real, don't play games. You can drive him away very easily.

Answer 37

Anonymous

Maybe. His behavior is immature but understandable. If you're lucky he will consider it as a lesson, otherwise it's final conclusion that ends contact between you both.

Nellyx

1 mo
he gave me another chance, thankyou for your reply.

Answer 38

Nellyx

he gave me another chance, thankyou for your reply.

Answer 39

EaterPeter | 104 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 6

You two get caught again in whirlwind relationship of negative sentiment override. Call it a baggage or whatever. When relationship looked through microscope the outcome is never good.

Answer 40

guesswhoseback

Xper 5

I’m glad your ex is being smart and not jumping on your beck and call. Good for him.

Nellyx

1 mo
he did tho, could have read the update sweetie 😘
guesswhoseback

1 mo
But YOU are the one INITIATING these games. You.

Answer 41

Nellyx

he did tho, could have read the update sweetie 😘

Answer 42

guesswhoseback

But YOU are the one INITIATING these games. You.

Answer 43

Ilickvulvas | 77 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 6

Why do you care? Why would you contact an ex at all? Are you stupid, desperate, and pathetic?

Nellyx

1 mo
are you 60 years old and commenting on my post? are you stupid, desperate and pathetic?
Ilickvulvas

1 mo
You asked

Answer 44

Nellyx

are you 60 years old and commenting on my post? are you stupid, desperate and pathetic?

Answer 45

Ilickvulvas

You asked

Answer 46

Anonymous

You started contacting you ex, but he didn't he contact you? I would just leave him alone. Let him come to you.

Nellyx

1 mo
Thankyou, but that was not the issue!

Answer 47

Nellyx

Thankyou, but that was not the issue!

Answer 48

genericname85 | 2K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

he probably had time to remember why you were separated in the first place xD

Answer 49

GoodGuyBreakingBad | 2.7K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

Just apologize to him and see where things go from there

Answer 50

Anonymous

i am not sure why he would do this to you. he should always respond immediately to you regardless of how you have responded to him

Nellyx

1 mo
that is very sweet, but i was in the wrong!

Answer 51

Nellyx

that is very sweet, but i was in the wrong!

Answer 52

TeeBar | 80 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 6

Did you apologize for the lapse and explain in detail why it occurred?
If not, he took your silence as a signal to "go away", which he did.

Answer 53

msc545 | 604 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Guru

You probably should stop playing these waiting games with him.

Answer 54

mia999 | 133 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

You showed him an example.

Answer 55

yucel_eden | 136 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

What Is that picture?

Answer 56

Twenty2 | 410 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Guru

Because you ignored him?

Answer 57

Mijopapi215

Xper 4

Gee I wonder why.

Answer 58

Iron_Man | 7.3K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

Pay back time

Answer 59

Anonymous

He moved on

Why is he suddenly ignoring me after I ignored him?

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