Why do guys just disappear or ghost instead of talking to a girl when they’re not interested anymore?

[__isamont]

In my opinion, a lot of guys complain that girls are quite complex and hard to read, but truthfully, I think that goes both ways. I find my girlfriends complaining about how the guys they talk to tend to say one thing, yet mean another. Personally, I try not to overcomplicate things and keep things simple by broadcasting how I really feel. I think that if a guy were to disappear without a trace, they weren’t really serious about me in the first place, and aren’t worth my time at all.

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[boggboss]

Its not guys its people I was talking to someone on here about them wanting to end it with a guy and she said she should just ghost as its the nicest way to end things im not sure why but this seems to be sonthing people believe these days like general manners went straight out the window

[Johnagain]

You're right. Guys can be hard to figure out. I'm one. I left a lover without a word. I didn't want to hear that 3rd degree about her SUSPICION and paranoia about me cheating. I never cheated on her, but Oh! her possessive clinging and accusations! I had enough.

[Anonymous]

I’m at a point where I honestly don’t care anymore. If you just let them go and live your life they will come back around. Chasing them seals the deal. The only time I can say this is just plain hurtful is when you have had sex already or if you already said “I love you” to each other

[sbnalenon]

Sometimes its the other war round as well, because guys initiate things everytme, and we dont, they might feel like we are not interested, and then ghosting starts.

[Lionman95]

Ghosting is an easier way of saying I didn´t want things to become so serious. It´s easier because you don´t need to confront her directly that she wasn´t meant to be your priority and it got over your head.
I personally think you´re right about both genders being complicated. The problem is just that understanding the other gender is most times why harder than understanding your own.
But that´s also what makes things interesting.

[Silent_Bob]

There are plenty of women who "ghost first and ask questions later," it's made trying to hold a text conversation feel like walking on eggshells.

I consider messaging a two-way street. When I send a message, I wait for a reply from her before I send her another one. If a day or two goes by with nothing from her, I assume she's ghosted me and more often than not I am right.

[sheikalana]

Because they don't want to explain themselves. Most of the guys who do this do not respect you enough to be honest to you. They hate confrontation and are immature.

[Anonymous]

Because it's faster and easier to ghost than it is to tell someone that you aren't interested in them and then have to have a discussion about it.

The difference between men and women is that when a woman says one thing, but means another, she wants the man to know what she actually meant anyway. But when a man says one thing but means another, it's because he's lying and doesn't want the woman to know what he actually meant. :p

[lucas262]

Told my brother and my best friend to ghost their exs. They did them dirty multiple times. These pll do not deserve their time.

[RACSKC0B]

Typically guys do it because they're not mature enough to act like an adult and tell a girl,... pretty much anything honestly. Plus we're, by in large, scum bags
Sorry.

[DesolateRain]

What I'm thinking right now: people aren't complicated, they're just full of b. s. and don't know how to fucking communicate effectively.

[InferiorElegy]

Maybe for the same reasons females do it.
Also maybe they just feel like not wasting any more of either person's time.

[Fuentes]

If i ghost you and quit talking to you its cause u was being weird first and what i mean by that is you gave me a disinterested feeling or u did something that didn't sit right with me, or i got bored of you pretty quick

[Shocker1217]

That or they actually died! And you'd never know. Just playin'! Actually!!!; Everything you just described everything that men do I've only known women to do so i m sorry that all the men where you live are females!

[Doflamingo1]

Most guys are straightforward. The reason why I ghost certain women is because I’m either not interested or I just can’t be asked to pursues a women who isn’t showing me that she’s that into me

[KrakenAttackin]

If a guy ghosts you it is likely he thinks a) you are not interested in him, b) you are playing games with him to boost your ego or c) he realized he doesn't really like you after all.

[LemiaOfTheCodes]

The same can be asked for girls... why do people perfer to ghost then just say "Sorry I dont like you anymore".

[bowenw]

They are taking the easy way out. If a guy does that, you should be thankful you didn't waste more time with him before finding out his true nature.

[msc545]

A distinct lack of manners, but women do it as much or more.

[FlyGirl95]

It’s too much work to face your problems. It’s easier to just run away.

[Daddydrew]

Sometimes they don’t want to hurt you. It’s not you he has issues of his own not ready to commit or maybe it’s just the easy way out depends on the guy and we’ll if you know him will you should know witch way to lean 🤷🏻‍♂️

[RationalMale]

Same reason girls ghost. They don't want to deal with farewells or explaining or blowups, sobbings, etc.

[Waldoe]

they don't want the awkward conversation... why? who else did you meet? in other words, they are cowards

[TheSonOf-Zeus]

If he disappear you can understand that. No need to talking or extend the issue