Once a guy catches real feelings for a girl, they never really lose them. Guys, how true is this?

[lilyanony1]

I'm not a man so I don't know. But as a woman I loved someone genuinely but he had his mind set of becoming rich, flashy rich. Things happened along the way that meant we had to make certain decisions. And he forced me to make them on my own. I am not a person that wants to trap anyone or hold them against their will either you're with me or you're not.
Consequently his behaviour crushed me. And my confidence. I stopped chasing the career I wanted in terms of making sure I could be available to him and his needs.
And in return I got called nasty names and just taken advantage of.
We spilt up when things got to much but I held a torch for him you know and when he returned I cautiously took him back...
Maybe loved me but I don't think he did I think he liked how easy things were with me. I wasn't too demanding and I didn't really try to push him I expect normality but accepted so much less until I had enough... Anyways its over for good.
He probably will get with the one he really wants now. Since I was the one he sponged off.

[trustnoone77]

I disagree. I’ve been friends with benefits with my guy friend almost 3 years. We still hook up but he told he at some point he had really strong feelings for me but not anymore. After a break up he went through with an ex. He completely changed. He’s not the same but won’t let me go. It’s confusing. Ask him before you keep wasting you years like I have with this one. He knows I’m a keeper but wants to play the field. He’s 34 and I’m 37

[romeo_and_cats]

You're an angel😈, maybe you can give some sort of solution for re attracting a girl, like what never to do, what went wrong, what do woman want in a beggining of relationship, what woman consider a relationship or none makes sense unless there's attraction. I had many girlfriends but it costed me storms to understand stuff that maybe I shouldn't understand. Is it by relationships the only form of love? Is it platonic? By sex? Because I've experimented it all and I know it's ok to fail sometimes. Bc no one in the end has perfect relations, all relations must end but the travel between is what matters.

And me I keep a player fighting between both attraction and the provider plethora, i hate providers then I provide them none! Only sex and emotions, if you want...

[rjroy3]

I think that's a comforting like some girls like to believe. 100% false. That said, guys do tend to fall faster on average and tend to take breakups harder earlier on but they do move on in most cases.

Now if he's a guy that just derps around for life pretty much and never really tries to grow. Never really puts himself out there. Then sure. That guy may not let go of the emotions. Because he's consciously held on for so long through his actions.

Kinda like guys that always talk about how cool they were in high-school. But never college. Or after college or anything recent. They're holding onto that past emotion.

[Aguysopinion4799]

Ooohh... I think there is some truth in this. I had developed very serious and deep feelings for one girl when I was younger and when I was rejected those feelings still remained for another 4 years and I would say that even now I still feel a sense of emotional values to her but I am trying to let her go because there is no chance for me.

So real feelings can definitely stick around for a long time, even if the love is unrequited, if the love in my case was answered with a yes then I may well have continued to have those very strong values even longer.

[MrOracle]

While there is definitely some strong truth in there, it's not completely true.

A guy who has strong, genuine feelings for a girl generally isn't going to lose them very easily - UNLESS she betrays him in a serious way, which can "snap him out of" his feelings for her, and that's usually unrecoverable. Guys can tolerate a lot, but there are definitely lines that, once crossed, cannot ever be uncrossed.

[ChrisMaster69]

Not really know, I have been in a relationship that turned in to mutual friendship.

you can’t nail emotions down, they change, they fuck us over when least expecting it.

so no emotions are a river, they go where they want and we just get carried along

[Dazed0N0Confused]

Not true. Feelings are fluid, they change, they evolve & grow, & at times they dwindle & disappear.

It takes work to keep those positive feelings of love strong. Even when those feeling feel "so easy". If you, your partner, or both of you start ignoring the work needed, the feelings dwindle.

[Apope16]

Yes it is. For the most part. I would say for some exes I dont miss them at all. Some I even kind of hate. But I do have feelings for them. I do miss having sex with them. But what they did and the pain they caused was so great that I can't stand them.

Now guys take breakups much harder than women. He may love you until his dying breath. A guy bottles up his emotions and he may never completely heal if you break his heart. Sure he will be cool and badass but no. There are girls from 10 years ago that I am still in love with and miss them. But I know I can't go back. it hurts.

Women during a breakup burn, rip, throw away, and trash everything. Guys after a breakup sulk and keep up the photos. they never delete a thing.

[ThePolishKnight37]

I would say in my case true. I met a young lady some years ago and I thought she was the one, but the situation was not right and I was not in the right state either. That was 17 years ago. I still; think of her from time to time and wish nothing but good things for her. I would even be willing to try again, I am sure we are both in a better place now. Then this summer I went through a rebirth and I connected with a young lady online. I felt her presence and love and she said she felt mine even though we were 1000's of miles apart. I still feel her and follow her but I messed up somewhere or it freaked her out and she does not respond anymore, but I still keep tabs to make sure she is alright. Maybe one day we will talk again.

[ZackBan]

It's taken out of context.

Once a guy catches feelings he never forgets he caught them and usually memories of the days he did would make him smile but the feelings themselves change and sometimes fade away or he is betrayed and loses them.

Basically guys and e evryone else can move on they just don't delete the history.

[TheorionMage]

So far 33+ years since we parted company and my subconscious STILL aches for her companionship even though we both aged, changed, married, divorced and still occasionally keep in touch.
"What is the sound of ONE hand clapping?"
When you TRULY love deeply, it leaves a hole no one else can EVER fill :'(

[Anonymous]

Depends on the guy, depends on the girl, I don't know. It generally does take a very long time if a guy ever loses his feelings. He might need to catch feelings towards a new girl in order to get over his feelings for someone else. It depends on what you mean by "real feelings" because they can vary.

[Browneye57]

Absolutely true. Unless you just completely burn him. Like fuck his buddy, or steal all his money and split. That could screw things up pretty well. LOL

[Jusin]

For me this is true. I still love my first ex a lot even after 8 years of no contact after a bad break up. I really thought she was the right girl for me and I wanted to marry her and spend the rest of my life with her. So I'll always feel that way about her. But I know once I meet the right girl I'll love her forever.

[DeathJack]

I think it depends on the guy, as a blanket rule? Probably not true. But I can honestly tell you if I was faced with my exes whom I really fell in love with, I’d feel exactly the same way.


It’s just an out of sight out of mind kind of routine for me.

[VanillaSalt]

False as hell. That’s why it’s so important for both sides constantly to be trying to impress the other and do their best. You stop trying they stop caring no matter the gender.

[AdithyaR]

Not true. I really loved and cared for my ex and I tried to be just a good of a friend when we decided to stay friends after the breakup. But it took me a while to realize how much of a toxic person she was with me and our mutual friends. I eventually cut her off completely. It was hard and took a lot of time and effort but now I no longer feel anything for her.

[boggboss]

False even if u care for the person they fell for the person thatmy are now could be differnt and so they no longer have the same feeling for that person

[novian]

Honestly i haven't really had to many girls I've loved but the one i love now, I probably won't ever fall out of low with her because not only because of her being one of the only girls I've ever had but just that im gonna say it im a monogamist

[Ewgies01]

Depends on the guy. For my husband yes. He said he never broke up with anyone before. And he married me because I never dumped him. :)

[AmandaYVR]

Where did you get that idea?

Untrue. Everyone can change. People are not static, and nor are feelings.

[Anonymous]

It really depends. For me their are two girls I feel this way with. We're still friends and all but whenever I think about our relationship I normally start feeling sad. However it's not the the point to where I will ask them out again. As that never works out for me at least, so I get over it. Plus if I was too obsessed about it it would make my current relationship and my friendship with them awkward and weird.

[Anonymous]

I think about my first love all the time. She had manipulative, narcissistic parents who were controlling her and gaslighting her, which led to our breakup; we didn't break up on our own terms. We broke up almost 6 years ago and haven't spoken since, but I still care for her deeply, although we're completely different people now.

[TOTEMPLASTER]

One Standard Deviation likely sums it up quite accurately.

[MCheetah]

Love and puberty are like the same between the sexes: girls fall in love quicker, guys fall in love deeper and longer.

[KrakenAttackin]

If she is kind a good, true. If she becomes super-cunt, not true.

[JPrez]

Tough to say but there might be some truth to it. Every guy is different though.

[Nawlins34]

This is very subjective, It depends on the individual guy. Me personally, this doesn't work.

When I end things with a woman, I end them. The past is to be remembered, not interacted with.

[bamesjond0069]

True and false. I loved a few girls and I still love them, but like a Dad does for a child. I have zero romantic feelings for them.

[najekim]

Not true at all. Wouldn't bother me if the town my first ex-wife lives in was nuked with her at home.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Not entirely true.
If you ask of when we love a girl we will love her forever? The answer is no. BUT we will always care for her. The same feeling is not there and will never return. But we will always want to see her happy and well.

[bulletbob555]

Its true but the relationship during that time has to be wholesome and healthy. If not it is harder to reconnect. Although some people are a glutton for punishment

[NathanDavis]

Real feelings are "healthier" feelings, and they do change over time, it could take longer or it can be sooner, but they do change.

[Twenty2]

Not true. Nothing is permanent. Tho it's hard to lose them.

[locutus9999]

we can lose it. so do not give us for granted... we are not dogs.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Definitely possible. Maybe he’ll shove the all spark up your ass

[ryckrohan]

It's not true we do lose feeling but I'm inclined to believe we keep them longer than women.

[Anonymous]

Very true. I still care about every past live i've had. I may not "love" them anymore. But i don't know how to stop caring about someone i cared about intensely.

[Solo22]

Not true at all. Guys eventually move on (some quicker than others) and find new women.

[Anonymous]

Then why there is still men who file for divorce, yes less the women, but still do.

[Anonymous]

Not true. When a girl does the wrong thing (varies from guy to guy) she can kill those feelings dead.

[kingofthellamas]

I'd say thats true. I still have feeling for my first love and that was 30 years ago.

[MannMitAntworten]

Nah, we lose them eventually after things end... and they always end.

[Anonymous]

Apparently its true for me. It probably varies from guy to guy and the situation.

[jasco]

Not very true, i mean don't get me wrong some of my ex's i gladly go back to but eh

[samay259]

I am not that experienced, but according to me a guy can't love anyone more than their first love and they try to find her in others.

[Iron_Man]

I say it’s pretty true

[imfreeze95]

It’s bullshit if a guy is betrayed of mistreated he’s going to remember it

[LEADFOOTboi]

i think this is true...

[msc545]

It isn't true - those feelings can go away as fast as they came.

[JosyJosy]

Nonsense. Cheat on him and see what happens

[REALSTEEL]

some cases yes there always on there mind

[OlderAndWiser]

False.

[0112358]

Not at all.

[DavidFox]

People fall in and out of love

[Archerer]

It isn't true

[havingfun101]

Men loyal women greedy

[EaterPeter]

80 99%

[In_Trance]

Not true

[Shihab-91]

Never lose them? No not never

[Anonymous]

yeah it's true

[Waldoe]

Not...

[JamesRandiDebates]

Not true at all.