I have known this guy for about 2 weeks. Things are going so well between us literally and I do really like this guy we have been speaking nearly all day ever since we met. Is it soon if I ask him if he’s speaking to anyone else just so I know were I stand or is it too soon? He did say he really likes me too
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Also I just wanted to add we live in the same building as eachother same block of flats. I am going to invite him over to mine this weekend. He is not interested in sex or anything just wants to get to know me which I believe as a friend knows him and it’s the truth
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210But here's my advice.
Do it. Go for it. Because you want to. Because you want to know.
There will be guys (an ever-changing and vague number/proportion, 'some' guys) who will be a bit put off, a bit scared off. But that doesn't matter. You know why? Because this is who you are. And you want to know. You don't want him to be dating someone (s) else. You hope it's just you. And there's nothing wrong with that.
If you believe in fate (I don't), you know that it just happens. You can't force it or really create it (unless you believe in the power of action, of decisions - but that's another story/topic), but luck, randomness, now there's something pretty much everyone can agree factors into life. You have to have a certain amount of acceptance of life's unpredictability, and futility, and inevitable intermittent disappointment. But how do we attempt to push the odds in our favour, to rebalance it? By action, by words, by decisions. You can never truly predict the power and influence you (as all people) have, but by you asking this question, you will quietly, subtlely, be injecting a small variable into this complex equation.
By you asking, he may not know, for certain, what you want the outcome/the answer to be. (He may get some indication, based on your intonation, past history from what he does know of your personality, etc.) Interpreting, interpretation, is a skill all people must develop. You don't have to be completely direct, blunt, if you don't want to. Or you could be very honest, very plain, very transparent. It's your choice, depending on how bold you are feeling.
This question, although very, very early on in your relationship, may tip the scale to an outcome you want. He might say no, but there could be someone in the wings, and this could encourage him to say goodbye to her.
Everyone appreciates being appreciated. Instead of people looking from their own point of view, and how an action may hurt them, don't forget to think of a situation from their point of view. If he knows you like him, and want more (you think, so far), is that so bad? You could be rejected. You could push too much. But you could also get what you want, and it could be the impetus that begins a beautiful relationship.
You know this is right!!! If I don’t ask I won’t get the answer I want. Also if I’m going to be kissing some I don’t want them to be kidding other people too lol
Atta' girl.
Sorry what does that mean? Haha x
It's an old expression, from early 1900s, apparently. Means to express encouragement, approval, or admiration to a woman or girl. (Like atta' boy.)
Aww haha I learnt something new! Thank you haha
So that takes me to the second point of why would you want to know, are you interested on him in any other way, more than friends? dating? closer friends? are you starting to crush on him... it would be good to be clear on your own intentions, before you ask him, because he might get ideas as soon as you ask, and he maybe will ask you why you want to know before he answers.
Tbh I am interested in him 100.% and he is too tbh I just don’t know if it’s too soon to ask lol
Then I think you should bring it up, however... the wording could be different, maybe bring it up differently, maybe you can say that you've been wondering and wanting to know if he's interested or has been seeing other people, and then take it from there.
If you're both actually interested on each other that much, and have been spending a lot of time together, then it should be alright to bring it up.
I will do thank you 😊 I’ve seen him 3 time’s now. And we message everyday x
sounds good.
Thank you x
Yeah that’s so true! I will probably ask him tomorrow when I see him. I will just say randomly so has anyone else caught your eye or?
Ok thank you
Boy I wouldn’t even be chatting to man if he had a girlfriend he definitely does not
I hope he agrees to come over so you can learn more about him.
You can make your question sound casual as well.
How do you think I could make it sound casual?
Krystal23
I mean don't make it sound like you are demanding that he only talks to you.
You can ask him that when he's over at your apartment over a meal.
Thank you hun
Just don’t be upset if you receive an answer that you don’t want.
Ok so are the questions that are OK
just be simple and direct... "are you dating or interested in anyone else?"
Hmm do you think? When we both told eachother we like one another
Yes, I do, but do what you feel is best.
I have seen him in person we’ve seen eachother 3 times
Next time you see him in person, have the talk with him.
I will do thank you
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