Soo why do men?

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Guys that were originally well driven and goal oriented would show interest in me and I'd take the bait. Over time they would become unmotivated and would make dumb sacrifices just to waste time with me. We wouldn't do anything productive as far as getting to know each other or advancing in our degree. I'd ask if they had hw due and they'd say yea but I'll finish it later... Would never ask the same to me, i'd have to tell them if had something due and would not be left alone to do it. I would never have to hit this man up I was busy with school but something kept telling me I needed to socialize so I always took the offer to hang out. He never left when I wanted him too, wouldn't want to study together, his jobs searched stopped, wanting to do fun stuff stopped, just wanted to mess with me 24/7. I'm looking for a man that can be on his grind and we be on our grind together not a bunch of guys that want to pretend that life is all together and the bills are paid and we're in early retirement. So why men? Ladies sound familiar?

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genericname85 | 2.1K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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men who are in their education still, typically don't make long term relationship plans, yet in high education more than anywhere else, women demand loyalty and long term commitment. so they are stuck between a rock and a hard place with their urges for sexual as well as romantic validation and company while being insecure about their near future and career success.

i mean it doesn't need a psychology degree to see that insecurity is the reason for their indecisiveness and sometimes contradictory behavior. men are supposed to be "the provider". i know sounds conservative and traditional but well.. that's how brains work. brains aren't "liberal". so when a man does not feel secure about his ability to provide, which at the point where your career is in development certainly is the case, they will not want to take the provider role. their hormones still urge them to have sex with a partner.

does that sound reasonable and understandable to you?

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billboy567

11 mo
Putting myself in a mans prospecting not understandable or reasonable
1) never demanded any loyalty or time but I've seen that from woman. I just wanted honesty didn't mind being friends with benefits
2) sexual came first and then romantic in which I denied him a relationship 2x
3) we both were seeking degrees with a high job outlook very prestigious. I thought we'd both have the same work ethic
4) we're all insecure about our future shit happens
5) so to be some sort of provider he had to keep me down? With sex? Would things be different if I were pursuing a degree in art or smt with low pay?
genericname85

11 mo
1) what you demand doesn't matter. men are aware of what women typically want and even if you explicitly don't care for those things, they still consider them as that's what the templates for social interactions dictate.

2) why are you still investing resources into him then? what do you want?

3) obviously you don't.

5) your story has some plotholes here. please fill me in about what exactly happened between you and what your hopes and wishes are/where for whatever it is what you're doing with him.

Answer 2

billboy567

Putting myself in a mans prospecting not understandable or reasonable
1) never demanded any loyalty or time but I've seen that from woman. I just wanted honesty didn't mind being friends with benefits
2) sexual came first and then romantic in which I denied him a relationship 2x
3) we both were seeking degrees with a high job outlook very prestigious. I thought we'd both have the same work ethic
4) we're all insecure about our future shit happens
5) so to be some sort of provider he had to keep me down? With sex? Would things be different if I were pursuing a degree in art or smt with low pay?

Answer 3

genericname85

1) what you demand doesn't matter. men are aware of what women typically want and even if you explicitly don't care for those things, they still consider them as that's what the templates for social interactions dictate.

2) why are you still investing resources into him then? what do you want?

3) obviously you don't.

5) your story has some plotholes here. please fill me in about what exactly happened between you and what your hopes and wishes are/where for whatever it is what you're doing with him.

Answer 4

Anonymous

It sounds like you are dating some immature boys. I will make time to hangout with my girlfriend but not at the expense of my sleep or my work.

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