When a guys says he is too busy to reply.. does that mean he isn't interested?

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I met this guy 1 year ago but sadly due to my school and graduation we decided to keep talking and then he will move with me or I move with him. Depending on how things will go. That’s the plan. So it’s a long distance relation. The country this guy lives his job is demanding. But communication was constant and regular. Recently it takes him day to reply. He even messaged me ( you can see the screenshot ) that he is busy to reply but he will get a vacation soon..

I’am not sure if this guy is trying to slowly make me realize he isn’t interested because he can’t say so? I don't know what to think but I’m very sad ! I really liked this guy. It seems like he isn’t interested… I better delete him at this point.

When a guys says he is too busy to reply.. does that mean he isnt interested?

Bob92220 · Accepted Answer

I have a similar situation as yours and I still don't know what to think of it.

I reconnected with a female college friend online. She lives 2,000 miles from me. She said she wants to be friends and write back and forth, via email. No phone calls or texting. She tells me when I write her an email she will respond back in several weeks or so.

I assume she is too busy to reply back sooner. But why even have that type of relationship then? I don't know what your friend is implying and I don't know what my friend is implying.

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

I think women get this confused. Men can reply. They just can't keep replying all day because they are busy. So when a man does reply women expect them to KEEP replying and that just isn't going to happen. So when a man picks up on this he simply just doesn't reply at all until he can talk to you for a bit.

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

Eh, depends.

Maybe it was just a one off or he doesn't want to distract himself during the week while you're still not really involved.

He did reach out when he said he would, and I understand the busyness of trying to get your work lined up before a vacation. I often put in extra time before a vacay to make sure it's easier for me when I return.

I'd ask him why he didn't want to text while at work, but be gentle and tactful in your ask. Take a curious tone versus a demanding one.

Sorrento-Sun · Accepted Answer

It takes literally seconds to send a message. If someone really wants you in their life, they'll always make time for you to let you know you're important to them.

If they make an excuse like they're "too busy" , it means you aren't as important to them as you think you are.

MzAsh · Answer

Do you really want to be with a guy who REPLIED that he’s “too busy to reply” ? What a silly goose that guy is. 😆 “hey here’s a reply about how I’m too busy to reply” geez Louise. You’re simply not a priority and he’s too chicken shit to say it. you can do better than this.

Anonymous · Answer

W out reading your whole post yes he’s not that interested. I don’t care how busy a man is if he’s interested he will respond. He will cancel an outing w his boys if it meant getting to be w you. I’ve driven a few hours just to be w a girl I was really into. At some point he’s sleeping, eating, showering, etc. There’s always time to text or call, he just chooses not to cause he’s not that interested. I have friends who are doctors, one of the busiest professions but they still reply. Either he met someone else or he’s not interested in a relationship ship right now. I hate to point this out as well but age wise he may not be interested.

Anonymous · Answer

Well it looks like he followed up like he said he would.

I think women believe that guys might give this bs excuse to girls women themselves often do this crap to guys. They will blow them off yet don’t want to completely cut the rope. Reason being is they don’t want the attention going away and want to keep the guy as an “orbiter” just in case they need them for something.

Guys are much less likely to do that crap. Especially guys past the age of 30. I would take what he says at face value. Most men don’t send mixed messages the same way men do.

Justarandomsadguy · Answer

Long distance relationships are always hard cos you don't know what or how they are dealing with their life. And it is easy assume that he/she has lost interest cos they don't talk with u the way they used to. It's completely fine to have these kinds doubts and feelings especially if it's someone you love cos deep within you crave their attention, you need reassurances from them and constant pampering. I don't think anyone's too busy for anything actually. It just depends on where you stand in his/her priority list. So I think if I were you, I'd ask him the question you mentioned. Sometimes you just have to open up with ur partner and tell him whatever it is that you are feeling or u need and probably figure out together. Mutual respect. If he ain't sure about you even after that, it's better you move on.

Thatbaldguy · Answer

In my opinion? Yup. No one is so busy that can’t send a quick text. Even if that text is simply saying “ busy now. Text you later “ or “get back to you later “ something. I work a very busy job. Sometimes so much so that i can’t go to the bathroom, eat lunch, and i keep an over sized water bottle at my desk because many times i can’t get away to refill it for hours. Yet i always manage to reply to those that are important to me. Even if it’s to say I’m busy and will contact later.

Smoothing · Answer

You live in two different countries with two different time zones. If you look at the globe, you are almost at opposite sides. That alone presents an enormous challenge.

He is working therefore during his work hours personal communication can be a challenge.

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Massageman · Answer

Isn't it a pity that we even have to ASK these questions? As in, wouldn't it be nice if we could all just depend on the other speaking the truth and let it go at that? Like when a deal could be struck on the strength of a handshake?

I guess I'm about a century too late.

He may not want to (all at once , everyone) "hurt her feelings" , so he just skirts the issue.

TheoPfeifle · Answer

I've always been of the mindset that a person makes time for what they think is important. Anytime I'm trying to date a woman and she says she's busy, it means I'm less important than whatever else is occupying her time. No point in getting upset or confrontational about it... I simply let that connection fade... Or she has the ability to reach out and reinforce the connection. It is simply what it is.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

He sounds interested to me. I think he’s just genuinely busy right now.

BlueScorpio · Answer

Yes he's busy, plus your long distance so schedules conflict with each other. Honestly this why long distance doesn't work for a lot people. I think the both of you would be better off finding someone in your area.

dynamicyandere · Answer

Sorry to break it to you. But, you’re not a priority to him. I’ve worked 18-hour days and STILL made time for my LDR. If he loves you… If he doesn’t have time, he will MAKE time.

Tornado92 · Answer

No one wants old Karen like u!!! We want hot sexy 21 year old woman young !!! Not old grandma n u is a. grandma!!!

Anonymous · Answer

Of course it does. Do you think he'd be "too busy" to reply if he was chatting with this girl?

But a better question is, why on EARTH you'd be in a distance "relationship" for a full year?

Pinay_ako · Answer

Honey, just move on. If there’s a will, there’s always a way. No excuses!

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Probably not interested, if he was he'd make time, at least once or twice a day. Not necessarily all day conversations, but if he is out of area on vacation, that makes sense too.

Zodiac10 · Answer

Seems to me he's communicating. He's letting you know when he's unavailable instead of disappearing which leads me to believe he's interested because he cares enough to let you know why he will be unavailable so you don't think he's not interested...

TroyDT · Answer

Pretty much. If someone is interested he will make you a priority. Now, there MIGHT be some circumstances - an illness in the family or other dire emergency - when he could be too busy. But if this is consistent, yeah, he isn't into you.

ChooChooHaha · Answer

Unless he's a gov. officer or something... yes.

burlen · Answer

I’m afraid, he is definitely not interested.

Anonymous · Answer

I'll purposely take 2-3 hours to reply if it seems like someone's trying to have a whole conversation with me through text. It's so time consuming, just call me

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