Honestly... when they complain about women.. because then they just remind me of women who complain about men.
Also some rude men. Not all because some you can tell do it out of some hidden frustration, but others are like actual women haters who trigger me or turn me off altogether.
Sexually? Obviously a gay or bi man. I need me a straight hunk :)
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Lie, cheat, not affectionate, mean/cold, doesn't put effort in the relationship, non commital, has double standards when comes to women.
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I know not all women are going to have the same answer/perspectives here. But let’s look at two scenarios with two identical guys
Scenario 1
Guy acts loud and seemingly “confident”. That turns you on. But you notice some red flags but you try try to overlook them. But AFTER he’s already got in your pants he’s everything you don’t like i. e. rude, loud, arrogant, selfish, etc.
Scenario 2
Guy genuinely acts polite and nice. Has manners and shows genuine interest in your life. But he’s a bit shy and introverted. You see that as underconfidence and decide to friend zone him thinking a “friendship” lightens the blow It actually leaves him in horrible self loathing and slowly makes him more misogynistic
Now which guy above is more likely to have long term issues and will quit listening to what women “say” they want? The aggressive asshole you gave it up to but later dumped? Or the polite nice guy you friend zoned and never gave a chance to?
The selfish asshole might one day have a self reckoning because he can’t stay in a long term meaningful relationships and needs to improve bid behavior. But all along the journey he was getting his biológical needs met. But the nice guy was rarely getting his needs met.
So how do you think men are going to respond to your complaints when we see what you having (initial) feelings for vs. what you don’t?
Well... I am speaking by experience as I grew older... so far with ALL Women... really I mean all.. I am not a pessimistic person. I tell you what I witness and experience
1. Not saying the "Right" things. (I don't know what that means for women but okay...).
2. Not acting someone I am not aka force a joke, be funny, be flirty. Forcing it all. With the correct gestures and face expression. Like a well-paid actor
3. Not impressing her with anything. It could be a demanding job (doctor, lawyer), or it could be a hobby/passion (Professional singer like Nate Dogg). And whatever...
4. Not agreeing with her. Like if she says: "wanna go to that place?" But then you actually have an appointment that is very important:
"I am so busy, I can't. But I will let you know as soon as possible :)". You truly mean that and you are excited to see her again, you genuinely like her and all of a sudden she ghosts.
5. Not justifying your single status or your life. "How are you still alone? Why are you single? Why are you happily single and are so fully satisfied? What about a girl?". LMFAO GIRL !!!
6. When you clothes don't match your style. You have to be a model.
7. Not being experienced in relationships. Like you are supposed to bed 900 women, 12 relationships to be attractive.
8. Being pure at heart, a good human being. Not so attractive... eeeeeeeeehhhwwww!!! Bad boys for the win baby.
We men feel forced to do something in your presence. Like being funny, being cool, being flirtatious (ohh chiki chikiiii 😏😏)... we can't be normal, being authentic. If we do, reject. Because that's boring.
I need adult, mature women. That's why I hit on 45 year olds.
- #1 Stinky
- Arrogant
- Unhygienic/slob
- reeks of alcohol and smoke 😷
- no ambition/goals
- thinks of me as sugar mommy 😂
- rude
- thinks his dick size is a gift to women 😑
- All he talks about is sex…
- talks about himself a lot
- DMs me here as a GIRL. Asking for nudes 🤣
The ones that refuse to adapt but then whine about how nobody changes for them are the most screechy. Like nails on a chalkboard.
Otherwise you just kindly point out what bugs you and most men will compromise. Just expect them to share their nitpicks of you back. lol That’s a real relationship though. Give and take.
Act like they're superior; like they're a gift to human kind and I must spread my legs and feel overjoyed...
Arrogance
Bad hygiene
Effectively lives for being negative
Constantly complains about every little thingCan't think of anything specific to being male, but I guess things like pissing over toilet seat (my ex used to not lift the seat up and piss over it. Not really a turn off but SO annoying, especially if I'd go after him and sit on that). Generally being disgusting in public like spitting, burping, farting, adjusting their thing. Poor hygiene. Loud laughing (my older brother used to do this on purpose and he had a really loud, deep voice. It was very annoying). Not cleaning the bathroom after shaving/trimming (also something my ex did, his beard hair would be all over the sink). Well all these things are just annoying, I wouldn't say there's anything specific to males that turn me off, otherwise I wouldn't be heterosexual. There are however plenty of things PEOPLE generally do that turn me off, but that was not a question.
Arrogance in looks or in general. (Major turn off.)
Constant whining and complaining.
Always saying everyone is stupid.
Constant shaming of others for the way they look or dress.
Ego driving.
Always acting like a tough guy.
Basically don't be an asshole. You can be a masculine man without needing to do these things. Just fyi. 😁Makes misogynistic, homophobic, racist or transphobic remarks.
Uses his money to try and attract partners.
Speaking ill of others
Arrogance
Exaggeration/dishonesty
Weaponized incompetence
Lacking in emotional maturity
Poor hygiene
Lacking empathy
Being a hypocrite
Objectify themselves or others, I had three guys make up lies about me after I rejected them because they felt they were entitled to me after spending time and money on me, not a lot of money, a couple car rides or a few meals at fast food places.
1. If they don't respond to my text messages
2. If they don't listen to me when I talking and we're sitting right next to each other
3. If all they do is stare at their phone or some other screen when their supposed to be paying attention to me
When they give you silent treatment instead of talking it out , I hate that
When he laughs too much. Like, it’s not even funny -_- When he teases me too much, I’m definitely dry by then lol. When he pretends he doesn’t know what I want and makes me beg for it…
-rude to others
-smokes drugs/drinks alcohol
-Talks Loud
-agressiveness
-acts feminine
-bad hygiene
-desperate for female attention
-plays video games
I do not have the time or the energy to waste on this. I’m already in a bad mood.
Bad hygiene, slow replies in texting, "I mainly want physical affection" as an excuse for not replying to texts or calls. Being overly touchy. Being obnoxious and loud. "jokes" that aren't jokes.
When they pick up any long cylindrical object and hold it up to their groin for laughs.
Not letting me carry my own stuff or fix my own things.
Not letting me drive on trips.
The biggest thing that turns me off is if he is a racist and says stuff like x race of women is superior to all. Guys with a fetish for oriental girls do it all the time. I also hate misogynists and unhygienic guys.
1) Speak the truth
2) Fail to be simps
3) Not make enough money, even if it’s triple what you make.
4) Have morals, so you can’t blame us for your failings.
Let me mention some things that drive my SO nuts...
Leaving the toilet seat up
Getting dirt on the towel that we dry the dishes with
Wearing the same clothes two days in a row
Depends on the lady. For some it's if we are not attentive enough, scope out or flirt with other women while with her, are rude or condescending. For others it seems like our very existence turns them off. Or maybe it's just mine.
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