I slept with my best guy friend, advice?

And it was against what I intended to ever have with a guy friend however he kept sending me mixed signals. Initially he asked if he could date and I said yeah sort of but I don't know if I have time. Somehow I dated another guy but I had to sneak around to do so since my parents block me from dating.

so NOW, I began developing feelings for him and we end up making out. he kept saying he has feelings for me but all he can offer is just to be friends with me. I started crying and he said other guys will likely want me or I won't have trouble finding another guy. I said it isn't true that I liked him.

I don't think things are going to be the same. Because we were so close, this happened. It doesn't sound like he wants to date me does he? I'm hurting but I don't want to depend on him for closure and scared. I wanted more than friends but how things turned out, I'm really upset. What's the point of talking to him? he wants to talk to me also after what happened.


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  • What do you want from us? Put in something like "sex with guy friend" and there will probably like 500 other stories about girls who sleep with their "guy friends". Just for your information, he's not a friend to you. You may have thought he was a friend but friends don't do this to each other. So you may think you have guys for friends but really you are just letting predators into your life. It'd be like letting the front door open for a rapist to come in. You got this silly idea that men and women can be friends. Well, you found out the hard way that they can't. All he wanted was to get close to you so he could get sex. NOw that he got it, he's moving on.


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What Guys Said 3

  • im not against casual sex between friends, but this case is totally different, he confused you, he didn't clarify anything. He probably knew you had feelings for him, and casual sex and feelings happen to contradict each other, yet he didn't care. He manipulated you. He is most likely not a friend .

  • What is most complicated to me is to see what you actually want. And perhaps you are unsure too. You should find that out first.

    Do you want him to be a good friend?

    Do you want him to be your boyfriend?

    Do you just want him to apologize for what he said?

    Then you can take steps.

  • "Friends" don't have sex with each other period, otherwise it's just a hookup. Some guys can wait a long time for a hookup with a "friend".

    • Friends can have sex with each other, that is the difference between hook up and friend with benefit. But what I might point out, is that in this case what he did wasn't good, because before going into soemthing like a FWB you need to make sure the other person doesn't have fillings for you. It have to be talked out first, he just confused her.

What Girls Said 1

  • It doesn't sound like he wants to date me does he? If he does he has serious confidence issues and do you want to handle that.

    What's the point of talking to him? To get back to just being and if you feel that a line has been crossed and you can't go back then end the friendship.


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