Wow, I'm a beautiful black woman with pretty light skin, brown eyes, extremely smooth skin, lovely plump lips, long black curly hair, will be obtaining my B.A soon in psychology this May from a very prestigious university and I am on my way to becoming all that God wants me to be. I am not so many of these ridiculous stereotypes listed below. Loud, ghetto, associating with gangsters, uneducated, rude, demanding, surrounded by big black men, mean fathers...omg. My father is the nicest and most respectful man I have ever met. I grew up in the suburbs and attended a great school. This is just crazy; these answers I mean. It's like nothing I've ever heard before.. I am none of that and I had no idea so many men thought that way about my race. It really opens my eyes to how I must be viewed when I'm simply walking down the street...
I've had three boyfriends. One black, one Caucasian, and the one I'm engaged to now is Italian and Caucasian and he treats me like a princess and I make sure I give him the same treatment, if not better because I love him for who he is and he loves me who I am. He Loves the way I look, feel, smell, sound, think, etc. Sure we have a little extra on our backsides, but I've never met a man who despised that. I've always been told I look like Amerie the singer but I never accepted such a spectacular compliment because that woman is gorgeous! Just look at her. How can you not like that!?
Reading these answers...I am simply appalled and flabbergasted at how ignorant so many people in this world are. I know for a fact that I'm a beautiful black woman and I don't care if anyone thinks otherwise and neither should the person asking this question. I really don't understand how some of you men cannot be attracted to all these beautiful women...you know what. maybe I should list a few.
Tyra Banks, Gabrielle Union, Raven Symone, Megalyn echikunwoke, Rihanna, Lauren London, Alicia Keys, Beyonce, Halle Berry, Dorthy Dandrige, Taraji P Henson, Diana Ross, Jada Pinkett-smith, Vivica A. Fox, Tia and Tamera Mowry, Naomi Campbell, Iman, Jennifer Hudson, Meagan Good, Toni Braxton, Mariah Carey, Amerie, Katerina Graham, Leona Lewis, Janet Jackson, Michelle Obama...and the list can go on and on. These are just the women off the top of my head and I've met as equally physically and mentally beautiful black women in person as well.
All beautiful black women. Intelligent women. Lovely, classy, nice women...Black Girls Rock! Just give the right ones a try, don't judge us all by the ones who you have met. :-)
I'm Caucasian, I've seen many, many absolutely beautiful black women living on the West coast. I truly believe that what it comes down to is numbers. What do I mean?
Think about it: no matter which ethnicity you're a part of, those that are considered 'Attractive' of that ethnicity, by any standards, are in the 99th percentile. Sadly, I think, most of the world's population don't live up to various societies' rigidly high standards of beauty, thus labeling them unattractive.
So it doesn't matter at all which ethnicity you are, only a few will have the 'correct' combination of bone structure, metabolism, skin tone, social background and mannerism that lands one in the "pretty" category. That being the case, if you're exposed to less attractive white women all your life, you're 'used' to that 'type' of ugly, and you don't notice it as much. Whereas when judging the overall beauty of the women (or men) of a different ethnicity, people may tend to not
overlook those less attractive in that category, as they do with whichever ethnicity they're more familiar when deciding whether or not those kinds of girls are ugly.
So, are black women less desirable than women of another ethnicity? Absolutely not. It's all about who you are and where you come from, what ethnic version of "ugly" you used to.
Many on this thread mentioned racism as a reason, and I agree. Uber-stupid bigots are responsible for much of the anti-black sentiment that's come across in the world today. It's disgusting and anti-human to be so god-damn, freaking idiotic, the stupid swine. (I hate racists)
Also, the 'black culture', was mentioned as a reason, and this I say is not racist, but intellectualist. I see people of any color wearing 'gangsta' clothes, listening to rap and I immediately think they're posers. White, black, latino and asian people do this, and I think such people equally silly.
Agh, I hate that black women, who ARE beautiful, receive such insults. Black women ARE beautiful, and ALL women from any ethnicity deserve the respect, honor and chivalry that is so absent in our many different cultures today.
P.S., from a scientific point of view, one could argue that Black women are Superior because more pigmentation (darker skin) in the skin protects against harmful UV rays much better. And Zoe Saldana is one the most beautiful women I've ever seen, and I love Avatar, because she did a voice in it.
Be proud of being black, and the fact that you've noticed such ridiculous biases means you're a forward thinking person!
Oh honey, don't let this get to you. I think you need to understand that there is a difference for a man between being attracted to a woman physically and being attracted to a woman where you want to date her.
Some of the white guys around you would loss their minds at the thought of having sex with you. Men love variety. They really are curious what all women look like naked. So a man can be immensely attracted to a woman, regardless of race, but he may not ever pursue a relationship with her.
Men hate rejection. Women do too but men have to face it more since they are the ones asking out the other person. So what happens? Men become very logical about what choices they have to make. A guy may see you, think you are beautiful, but logically he thinks you only date black guys or their is a "cultural difference" (even if you grew up in the same culture) or he thinks that you may not be attracted to him. Men go for women they think they can get. Black women are very hard for most men to approach because they are stereotypically strong, confident, ball busters. And a lot of men, especially those in white culture, don't know how to handle it.
A perfect example of this is my best friend and her sister. They are half black and live in a white community. Everyone says they look alike so physically they really aren't too different. And before you assume they are both models, they aren't. They are both pretty but average also. But my friend has been asked out by white men, Mexican men, black men, and Asian men. And she is currently with a Jewish guy. While her sister has never been asked out. Why? Because my friend is sweeter in personality. She is kind and gentle and compassionate. When we go out together, I just see her flash that sweet smile and those doe eyes at a guy and he melts. He doesn't care if she is purple, you can tell he is thinking up how he can pick up on her cause he thinks he has a chance now. But her sister is a hard ass. Guys are afraid to ask her out.
I'm not saying you should change your personality. Just understand that a lot of the guys that know you may think you would never date them in a million years even if they find you stunning.
So hang in there. One day a guy who is brave enough will step up.
First of all, I want to say that I'm a 20 year old white male, and that I'm NOT a racist. By that, I mean that I treat people no matter what race the same. It all comes down to character.
So, being a racist has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with sexual desires, what so ever.
It is important that people get this straight, because I get really tired of reading accusations of white guys being racists- based on what they find sexually attractive.
To all girls realding this, the harsh reality is that men focus on a woman's physical appearance at the early stages of bonding intimately with her, or even before considering taking things to the "next level" with her. That's just how we men are.. don't blame us, just blame f***in nature.. I'm not saying that personality isn't important, but to most men, what catches the eye first is VERY crucial...
When it comes to femininity, I know that femininity is relative.. but the way I understood things, the creator of this thread wanted a reason to why "black girls are the least desireable for non black guys".
So as a non black guy I will answer to why I find white women more attractive. Though many men will share my opinion, I must mention that this is a personal answer. Of course, other non blacks will have different opinions than me. As staded a billion times before in this thread, white women TEND to have more feminine features than black women. Like hair texture, pitch of voice, skin texture, general body shape and so on.. they also tend to have a ligther, sweeter body odor. (body odor is very underrated.. if a woman smells good, it's a big BIG plus.. I bet most guys agree with me here...) And there is also something about fair skin. It just appears to be more feminine to me. Wide noses, frizzy hair, rugged skin, bulky body structures, dark voices and so on just doesn't appear SEXY to me. It doesn't give me a hard on... So if anyone want's to call me a racist, you're free to do so. But if you do, I would say that you don't see the big picture..
Just because I don't find a woman sexually appealing, does not mean that I will have a racist attitude towards her! Come on, that's ridiculous..
I know a couple of girls that have great personalities, and on the other hand look butt ugly.. Why the hell whould I treat these girls badly just because I don't find them attractive? Just because I don't want to take a girl with me to bed, doesn't mean that I won't treat her with respect, as a fellow human being! As I said, it all comes down to character..
maybe a little off topic here towards the end.. but still...
i completely respect your opinion but maybe it's a little warped? not all black women have a low tone of voice or "rugged skin" as you put it. neither do all have thick bodies. in fact, just like any other race, the black race is mixed with slim figured ladies, high-pitched voices, and soft skin. women within the black race vary as well so consider that for a second. although, I do understand that majority may have some characteristics as you descrived.
Whats a dark voice?! LOOOL also, I'm black and have very smooth skin, slim limbs and no ass, I don't have B.O or a strong smell and my nose is not wide either... don't make generalisations all black women are different, and your sense of what is and is not femine is very subjective...
Just to let you know, not all black women have "wide noses, frizzy hair, rugged skin and bulky body features" as you describe them. you may not be a racist but you need to stop stereotyping.
im only 16. and you really, really, really do disgust me. I am so happy that I live in London away from racists like you. Do you know what racism is? Racism is when you believe negative things about a person simply because of their race. Discrimination is when you act on such prejudice. So by calling you a racist - I ma not saying that you would go around with the KKK, I am saying that you are racist towards black women. I have more to say but my characters have run out [part one]
First of all, who told told you that black women are ugly?! You do not let anyone else tell you what you are, you simply and proudly be who and what you want to be.
It is true that mostly what you see on t.v. is mostly white women, but that is the racist neglect of Hollywood. However, neither should Hollywood dictate to you how beautiful you are.
If others can not deal with the strength and beauty that black women have that is their problem.
Certainly there are black women who do not take care of themselves, that is very unattractive, however, I have seen it in every race, and it is just as unattractive.
From the lightest of the light to the darkest of the dark skinned black women, from their beautiful sexy hair and their fine sculpted bodies which God gave only to black women. Black women are simply gorgeous.
You can throw out most of this trash these people are talking about, especially Taylor 4000, who is he Doctor Ruth Jr. He sounds extremely stupid. Black women have very soft skin and in every facet he mentioned the tonal qualities and color are based upon genetic make up. So therefore, why hold something against someone beyond their control, heck, you not going to see those areas but a few moments at a time anyway. WORD! Just because you listen to R&B does not mean you are not a racist, R&B music is just something you may tolerate. Nothing defines any of us, except the way we treat others.
I believe God did a masterful job on all women, but, for me, He put something in a black woman that no other woman has. I can not put my finger on it, I just know that I love it.
Now, I will say that over all, I have heard a many conversations from all sorts of women and unfortunately black women are the least likely to do whatever it takes to please their man. Now, I am not talking about being a fool for someone, I am simply saying that when you really love someone and it is mutual, there are no limits to what both parties ought to do to satiate each other. But, more often than not, black women tend not to compromise as easily as other races. Attitude will make or break any and every facet of life.
I am a light skinned black man. I have been married to my beautiful black wife for seventeen years. We have a beautiful marriage. I have never cheated on her and I never will. Remember, you have to make a conscience choice to cheat. It does not happen by accident, that is how I can say I never will, because I do not desire to.
We do have disagreements, but we do not get loud and bash each other, we always show respect under all circumstances.
Well, in conclusion, I love my blackness, I love my black women (in general), I think all race of women are beautiful. I LOVE LIFE.
I hope this gives you some positive insight from another perspective.
GOOD LUCK
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African American women, more often than not listen to terrible garbage for music. It's hard to be around someone who listened to awful noise. And especially when it is not only the preferred music, but the only music they listen to. I mean really. R&B is trash. Kanye is trash. African American women also tend to be very loud and boisterous. Some men don't like strong willed, loudly opinionated women. African American women tend to embody this whilst Asian women (the most typically preferred) are known for being quiet and submissive. We still live in a society where men typically want a submissive woman who doesn't challenge them. African American women are very strong willed and will challenge someone they disagree with. Often loudly. It's also common to see African American women acting belligerent and sassy. Again, most men don't want to be challenged or threatened by a woman. African American women tend to be thicker and larger on average than women of other races. This isn't as desirable to Asian or white males although to some it can be the primary reason African American women Te attractive. But the term exaggerated curves seems to fit sometimes and I think the extremity of the curvaceousness of most African American women is too much for some. African American women have larger bone structure, which to white or Asian or even sometimes Hispanic males can be construed as masculine. It's less often to find the typical western/Asian traits of femininity in African American women whose bone structure isn't as delicate. The jaw lines and forehead shape are stronger than women of other races. Lastly two reasons that are much more rarely admitted publicly that I have heard from many white, Asian and Hispanic males are that African American women tend to have a stronger scent (body odor or pharamones or melanin) than women with fairer skin and that the darker alone time around the pubic region is less pleasing to some as it might look "unclean". Personally I find women of all races and colors attractive based on their own demeanor and character. But these are the facts I have been given by many male friends and acquaintances over the years.
So many have responded but I won't shy away from contributing because you're obviously searching for feedback.
As an American born Nigerian, I can say that this society is highly obsessed with race (which was created around the mid 1800's by whites to maintain a sense of social order meaning it's a standard that was invented aka imaginary) and it's sad because the stereotypes that come with each color can be limiting. With that said, you claim there are many negative things being put in the media, noting the aforementioned, who controls most of the media? Naturally, aren't they going to portray black females as the antithesis of everything beautiful and attractive? With that said, it's not that hard to figure out why the non-blacks who have never come in contact with black females wouldn't want to and those who have the chance, approach with caution. The ones who do cross the line are the ones who learn for themselves what is fact and fiction when it comes to black females.
If you disregard the comments from those who obviously are basing their impressions of black females on slanted/bias mainstream media (and maybe a little BET) you'll find that those who have given black females a try either like or dislike them based on their PERSONALITY (yes, some are going on looks ok =] ). You admit to having low self esteem and if it's pervasive in person as it is in your comments, then more than likely, guys detect that and may be turned off by it. I can't tell you to be a stronger person because it's not enough to instruct someone to do something, they have to recognize the need for change.
You go to a school where you are the minority and I can only imagine how draining it must be to try to conform yet never fit in must be but take heart. You can still be you and be A OK. You appear to be in an environment that lacks balance and being from New York City, diversity is everywhere so I'm never really overwhelmed with one race over another and it's a beautiful thing and as a result there isn't one particular standard per se. Short of being able to change your environment, I think you should talk to your parents, and turn to your family for strength and affirmations that you are a beautiful individual as I'm sure you are.
Not to joke but put India Arie's Brown Skin on repeat each morning if you need a reminder of how beautiful your assets are ... take care =] Feel free to message me privately.
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One thing that I don't quite understand is that black males are also portrayed negatively in the media but they still have women of all races lining up to date them. The same can't be said for black women. Yeah of course there are many black women that are so beautiful that they can attract anyone, but why does the media have a more negative effect on black women?
I can't talk to my parents about anything because my mom also has self esteem issues and my father isn't black.
Well before I even start to say anything, let me tell you one thing I can tell about you: You are very smart. I can tell by the way you articulate yourself. You're smart. If you find your self confidence, you will be appealing to men, because a smart, confident girl IS pretty.
Okay, with that being said, I should chime in and say I will never and could NEVER date a Black woman. I'm bi-racial (B/W) and I don't find Black women attractive in any way. I can say that it is not because of the "media", as both of my parents taught me not to be indoctrinated into being a media brainwashed child. I don't hate my mom (a Black woman) and I don't hate myself.
I don't understand why it's a problem. And before I say why I won't date a Black woman, let me explain that I know that generalizations don't apply to everyone and not everyone fit stereotypes. When I look at Black women overall, as a whole, I see masculinity. Dark skin is masculine to me, big lips are masculine, having a high muscle mass is masculine to me and I'm not attracted to it. I don't want to look at a woman who looks like ME (not because I "self-hate" but because I'm a MAN), and I don't want to look at a woman who looks like my mother (not because I hate her but because she's my MOM). I don't understand how you tell that one guy "Spartwallis" that he's wrong because he's Black and "he has the same features that are a turn off". Online, I see a lot of Black girls saying that to Black men who don't want a Black girl. Think of it like this: Don't no man want a girl with a PENIS right? Is it self hate? No. I have heavy chest hair, should I get a woman with heavy chest hair so I don't self-hate? Naw it doesn't work like that.
Other than that, it's just that indescribible sexual attraction. I don't have any of that for Black girls. The vaginas look so offputting and the dark nipples, dark labia. The look in their eyes when you are close and intimate isn't the same as with other girls, even their hair and the way they just look when they are intimate is such a turn off. I'm not tryin to be vulgar but I can't get aroused with them. It's not a racial thing though because I'd date anything but a Black woman, I'd go for Asians or Whites or Latinas or Middle Easterners or anything other than a Black girl. It's not that Black girls aren't pretty, it's just that they don't turn ME on ever.
Not to mention the "strong Black woman" problem that has some how found its way from the inner city ghetto to the mainstream and suburban Black society. Notice all these people in here agreeing about Black women havin the most stank attitudes and acting masculine and boorish and aggressive. Even looking at smart, upstanding, educated Black women, the attitude is the same - dominating, aggressive, lack of femininity, so much disdain towards men. Yes, it even applies to those who are not ghetto. I ran out of space, but this is my overall take on Black women. Not all, of course.
First I have to say that every statement you made after "before I even start to say anything" just blows my mind every time. I am similar to the author of the question and I don't understand why I keep getting told that I seem smart and articulate like its a surprise lol. I won't even comment on eveything else you said aka the "strong black woman problem" which we only happened to develop after years of our men being sold and killed. Everything is genetic and evolution.
I understand, that this question was geared to Caucasion males for which we can have a better understanding as to why we are viewed as the least attractive. I don't think it is racisist for the most part because a lot of the gentlemen here have valid points (how they view their off springs to be a replica of themselves and a lot of it has a lot to do with how they where raised, for some also it is just a simple preference no different from liking short women compared to tall women).
I feel what you are saying to a certain point but the whole dark vagina areola thing is just a deeply seated perversion you have. Who thinks about some sh*t like that. I'm sorry its not your fault that you are the way you are but for you to be so descriptive like that damnn you do have issues, Not because you're not aroused by black girls but the reasons ar mere excuses and perversion about pink p****** you propbably saw in p*rn movies.If your girl can't look like your mom you hate your mom!
you are actually sick in the head... no black woman has chest hairs.. and if dark skin is masculine to you then that's dark skin. but you forget that black comes in all shapes an sizes. I am the color of caramel [nigerian and brazillian] - that does not make me masculine. if a black woman has more muscle, that is just a muscly woman - not because she's black. I haven't even seen muscular black women - so I don't know where you get your dumb ass sh*t from. Your parents really didn't raise you right.
I have to respond though. A lot of these responses are kinda racist and based on stereotypes that I find to be mostly untrue or built on total misunderstandings or people being brainwashed by standard culture.
Girl, let me help you out. I'm a black woman. I grew up in "the ghetto," learned to talk white, act white, went to an Ivy League school, and learned to schmooze with professionals, politicians, and wealthy people. That BS was a betrayal of who I am. So I didn't last long in that world.
Yet I find that now, now that I'm true to myself, I tend to be universally liked. I have no trouble attracting men of all colors. I'm not telling you this to brag but to make a point, so hear me out. I'm thirty and I can tell you straight up: I am nobody but myself, I don't CARE what anybody thinks of me, and THAT is what makes me attractive. Believe me, it took me a very long time, a lot of soul-searching, and a lot of painful transformations to reach this point. But when what other people thought stopped mattering to me--that's when I became the girl everybody wanted.
Eventually, I stopped "talking white" (code-switching) for other peoples' benefit. I wear my own style, wear my hair however I feel like wearing it, straight or curly--it doesn't matter, and act, well, like me. Simply put, I do whatever makes ME feel good, because we are far past the time when black women should be letting others decide how we look and act.
Yoko Ono and John Lennon once said "woman is the n*gger" of the world," without realizing that there is something worse than being a "n*gger" and that's being a "n*gger" woman. The burden on black womens' backs is greater than any burden in the world. We are the most oppressed demographic in the US, yet we have incredible strength. Black women contribute more proportionally to our communities, and we are often the matriarchs of our families. In addition, we deal with attitudes like the ones expressed in this forum, attitudes that are designed to make us feel inferior. Recognize that those attitudes are wrong. Recognize your own strength.
Don't EVER, EVER, EVER let someone not wanting to date you destroy your self esteem. That is utter bull. Be yourself. Be you. Above all, LOVE yourself because, my dear, you deserve it. Look at the answers here and ask yourself if you would even WANT to date men like this. Who think these things about black women. Who would judge you this way. You wouldn't. I don't put any stock in it, but I've heard men say they prefer white women because white women are easier to control. C'mon. This is ALL some misogynistic, racist crap. Forget it. Throw it out.
Seriously. I know it sounds cliche, but please, please, be yourself, surround yourself with people who will be themselves, find a fellow who will be himself. Be an individual and seek a partner who is an individual. Don't ask fools on the internet for their opinion on who you are. You are sacred.
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I'm just gonna say this and be finished...
I'm black...I have green eyes, I'm slender, smart (Studying to be an elementary ed teacher with concentrations in English and Art), social, and funny.
I'm not loud (I'm actually quite shy until I'm comfortable in my surroundings, and even then you can't hear me from across a room), I don't have this "body odor" that some guys claim black women have. I get more white men hitting and flirting with me than my own race.
I have really soft skin/hair that I take care of because it's the only body I have.
I hate sweat pants and dress up every day in nice clothing.
I don't listen to the typical "black people" (Stress the quotes) music. In fact I listen to indie, trance, classical and experimental music.
I didn't date until my sr year of high school and my first boyfriend was white and native American.
My second boyfriend (we just recently broke up, and I was engaged with) was fully white, brown hair, blue eyes.
All my boyfriends (the only two I've had) have been white...and I've gotten no complaints in bed about being "larger/looser" down there (as some anon said)
It's all personal preference.
Black women and Indian women, imo are the most beautiful women around.
I think white women are just plain and average and lack the unique features that are found in black women and all my friends are white. Also, I've seen red and blond (with freckles) natural haired black women.
I myself am an example of an "un-ordinary" (and I stress the quotes) trait seen in black women...with my green eyes...but realize, Africa is the home of all races, there is more genetic difference there than anywhere else on the globe. Everyone is an individual, and black women should not be categorized under such stereotypical bias.
There are those loud obnoxious black "ghetto" women that make me so upset because they create bad names for my race. I hate it, and I don't associate myself with those women because they are embarrassing. Then I hear from women of my own race that I think I'm "better than them," that's not the case...I just don't like their attitudes and the way they carry themselves and I refuse to be lumped in with them.
As for hair, I love my hair, I wear extensions (clip ins) and I wear my natural hair, which is collarbone length. And I love getting my hair played with.
GUYS WHO THINK THAT BLACK WOMEN ARE THE ONLY ONES WHO WEAR EXTENSIONS ARE BLIND AS F***. I've seen more white women wear extensions than black women.
GUYS WHO SAY WE CAN'T COMPETE WITH BRUNETTES...wtf? Most African American women are brunettes...
Another thing, if not for the media and our history, other races wouldn't be so brain washed about black people in general. We are beautiful...we are artist, poets, business men/women, and successful...we are not ALL the same.
Go out and meet the right people, and maybe you'll think differently.
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i think it comes from personal experience...i admire rihanna and beyonce and think theyre are stunning and gorgeous with amazing personalities...i also think michelle obama is an awesome first lady I like how she carries herself...
but I live in new york where there is a ton of multiculture widely accepted...no racism nothing...everyone is a different race...and happy...
but when you get to down comparing races or different cultures, you do end up generalizing them from your personal experience...
i have nothing against black people or black women, but I've always had a bad experience with them for some reason...i work in a retail store being a college student...and compared to women of other races, asian, indian, white, hispanic, etc black women have been so rude to me, they are sometimes violent and not sincere, they can be overcontrolling, and treat me like crap for no reason...they don't have manners sometimes and I'm trying to say this in the most harmless and yet honest way from my own personal experience...but theyre just different from what populations are usually used to. I work in a clothing store, and whenever a black woman comes asking me for help, I have to actually be prepared to deal with her, or she just makes me nervous because I feel like she's gonna make a scene again.
i also went to public school, and while other raced girls were studying, doing good in school, happy with friends, just being normal kids, I saw blck girls get in fights in the hallway, get suspended, get hit by boys, theyre just so loud and obnoxious sometimes and whereever they go and do they end up making a scene.
its just not something people are used to and they feel scared by them...at least I do...however there are some black women who are totally opposite and sweetest things I've ever seen!
im sorry to offend anyone, I just speak from my personal experience, I've been a victim for the first time in my life, when in the same store I work at, a black woman came up to me out of nowhere trying to buy a $30 shirt asking me to lower the price and I coulnt, I would lose my job, and she accused me of being racist and just because she was black I wouldn't risk losing my job in order for her to spend less money on a shirt.
and this isn't the first time, I have lots of experiences and only black women have made me upset.
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Black women are my favorites hands down!! Yes I like white women but my favorite taste is chocolate.
My prom date in high school happened to be a black girl and we dated for 22 months after that and heck if she hand't moved across the country we'd be married long time now. I haven't gone back since and I have no real intention to do so because I find black ladies just gorgeous in general, from their beautiful personalities to their killer smiles you ladies ROCK!!!
I believe the reason black women/girls are perceived as "undesirable" is because Hollywood and the entertainment industry promotes and glamorizes the negative stereotypes of black women and black folks in general. The media then feeds these stereotypes to the general public and then we the people go out into the world with these misconceptions of what other people are all about with little to no exposure to them in real life. We tend to allow society and celebrities dictate and influence how we should live our lives and what lifestyles we choose to live instead of thinking for ourselves outside the box.
I get asked all the time "how did you get the black girl?" from my friends who are white males so their is defiantly an interest out there for you beautiful ladies, but both parties (white boys and black girls) seem to think or fear that the other has no interest in them so they pay them little to no attention and often miss out on golden opportunities for romance. We simply need to show more openness to each other and stop blowing each other off from negative stereotypes or myths that have been ingrained into our minds by society and communities.
I dated another black women who happened to have two kids and she was beautiful and an excellent mother. However her baby daddies soon grew super jealous of us because she was very happy in the relationship and one of them happened to be a former gang member so he started treating her and it only escalated once I stood up to him and told him off so we had to end our relationship and she moved out of state BUT we still keep in touch and I'm proud to say she is now engaged to be married. From my experiences a lot of baby daddies seem to get super jealous when the black women who he took for granted gets into a happy and healthy relationship, especially if it's with a white man and they start threatening them as a way to scare them away from dating out or dating quality men in general.
I am proud of my attraction to black women! You ladies rock!!!
I am pissed the F off and I'm going to say why. Quite honestly nothing annoys me more in these types of discussions than the "not all black women are like that" cop out. That's really all it is, a cop out. It doesn't have to be ALL black women..the keyword is MOST black women and yes that's an awful freaking lot who fit into the reasons why no man will go near them including black ones.
First things first, black women need to get over this stupid "I need a black man this, I need a black man that, black men black men black men!" You never hear any, and I mean ANY other race of woman talk like this. Black women are so narrow minded which men like myself find very unattractive. I get that you are really attracted to men who share a similar ethnic background as you but why does that have to be the be all end all as far as who you'll date? Then in an effort to be with this so called "good black man" you pick some jackass whose been incarcerated and has 5 kids with 4 different women.
Second thing, and I don't know if anyone reading this noticed this, but the black women who take super good care of themselves by showering and relaxing their hair to look supermodel pretty almost ALWAYS go for white guys only unless she meets a pro athlete black man. And unfortunately, as others here have said, white guys generally don't want black women because of the stares/comments from ignorant black people and stupid narrow minded white people.
The third point I'd like to make is something black women never want to admit. They treated everyone like sh*t during their grade school years. Do you think any black woman was going crazy over Tiger Woods before he became rich and famous? Psh no. They wanted someone dark skinned, thuggish, tall, and preferably dumb as hell. Any intelligent black guy growing up, he was ignored and made fun of for being smart and "white washed". White guys, ignored. Asian guys, ignored. Looking back on that treatment throughout the years as a kid/teenager, why would any guy be attracted to someone who ridiculed him ignored him throughout his growing up years?
Fourth and last point, let's talk about the looks. Some guys like the natural look, some like the relaxed hair look. I personally like the relaxed hair because women with short hair look dyke-ey and manly. Unfortunately that is more so the case for black women because they and their men share the same facial features and short hair can make it a little uncomfortable to figure out if it's a man or a woman. Never ever ever wear those stupid blue contacts, it looks retarded. Your red and blond weaves look equally as retarded.
Learn to take care of yourselves and be feminine, black girls, and maybe more men will not think twice about approaching you. I could go on and on about the attitudes but I think that's been said enough here. Black women are the least attractive because they market themselves as unattractive.
but you can't say " most black women" even because you have only met a small portion of the black female population...there are literally HUNDREDS of millions of Black women on this planet and to say most is just foolish...Black women are as diverse as they come, you'll find a variety of phenotypes, a variety of cultures, languages, personalities and religions...so if you're only interacting with low class black women, then maybe you're the problem and you need to rethink why you can't attract good bw.
What's so wrong about having preferences? I'm just not attracted to them, period, end of story. Of course, most attraction is on a subconscious level. Of course you're going to call me a 'racist' simply because I don't date black girls. I just don't. You can't force anyone to like something that they're not attracted to, I can't make all girls around the world like Asian men, just as you can't make all men around the world like black girls. It's just that simple.
If race is truly a social construct, so let's say a white man and a white woman have a child. The baby comes out black. Now there would be two reasons: The wife cheated on her husband with a black man (most likely), or there is no such thing as race, as you have said before. Because if race is truly a social construct, then two white people, then there is a 50/50 chance that the child will either come out white or come out non-white.
Now, there are plenty of African albinos (meaning that they are racially black but have white skin). I'm not attracted to African albinos either, because they have many of the same features as black people, the only difference is their skin color. In any case, there is much more to race than just skin color.
Just because I hold a conservative opinion does not mean you can bash me on the basis of some type of racial insensitivity.
To answer your question, I just have no idea why. It's just the vibes, my intuition, my subconscious.
You can't force anyone to like a specific race, just because you happen to disagree with me on the basis of egalitarianism.
Guys are picky. Girls are picky. They're both picky when it comes to a lot of things, especially what they find attractive. It may sound racist, it may sound prejudicial, but that's their choice. In the end, we're all human with different tastes and differences. If we're all the same, we'd be robots. These differences, even genetic differences, makes a person what he is. So I don't have to sing kumbaya with you, because I choose not to. You can't force anyone to sing kumbaya against their will.
All I have to say now is that I am happy to be myself, that I'm not part of the sheeple.
I'm not calling you racist but do you realize that you were conditioned to believe that no black women are attractive? Your comment about unattractive African features says it all. I am 100% sure that I can find an attractive man in every race.How you feel about black women is exactly how those in control want everyone to feel about black people in general.
Wow, some of you people are finding it very difficult to read and comprehend. I never said anything was wrong with having preferences. Just because some things happen on a subconscious level doesn't mean we can't use our brains on a conscious level to think rationally and logically (we do it with many other things, but I guess this is an exception huh?). You're right I can't force anyone to like something that they're not attracted to, just as I can't cure a racist from his warped judgment.
You still haven't proved how race is a social construct. You're just looking at skin color. Tell me, what makes a person black?
I wasn't talking about African albinos. There are black people that have light skin, but you wouldn't know that because your thoughts are based on stereotypes. You think all black people have west african features.
When did I ever bash you?
Unfortunately, you are part of the sheeple whether you choose to acknowledge it or not
Race is not a social construct. There are recessive and dominant traits present and unique to certain races. Asians don't just have yellow skin, half of them can't digest alcohol due to natural selection selecting against an allele that helps digest aldehydes. There are plenty of scientific sources that state that race is not a social construct, but as how far people have diverged from one another. There are plenty of genes that distinguish races. I don't see you as black, I see you as mulatto.
When I mean by allele, I mean that the allele makes a protein that helps the person metabolize aldehydes. 50% of Asian people can't digest aldehydes and they produce this 'Asian flush' whenever they drink alcohol. I think that you must be a creationist or someone who believes in all this intelligent design mumbo-jumbo. All human races, depending on race or ethnic group, have some of their genes turned on, turned off, or just change. Can you please explain why there is no race?
There aren't any traits that are exclusive to any race. If a group of asians moved to Africa for centuries they would begin to have a lot of the same characteristics that Africans have. Take a look at indians, they have a lot of the same features as caucasians but I bet you wouldn't say that they are caucasian. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OjBlZl8RON8&feature=related
The whole concept of race is flawed. If I'm mulatto (I could understand if you said hapa) then most african-americans are also
,,,,mulatto. Technically, I am asian because one of my parents is full asian while the other is only part black, but because race is a social construct I am black. Ask any white person what they think I am and they will say I'm black. I don't really have enough space to go into a long discussion but scientifically there is no such thing as race, but here are some sources.
Race is a scientific fact, whether you liberals like it or not. In order for racism to not exist, everyone should mix and hug each other and say kumbaya. I guess you're calling me a racist just because of my conservative views. Hearsay is nothing compared to analysis. No, Indians are certainly caucasian, but there were already many different ethnicities in India. You clearly lack knowledge about the diverse subcontinent of India. There are some Indians that look quite caucasian to me.
Websites don't do sh*t. I want a scientific article from a peer-reviewed journal. There are plenty of scientists who state that race is a scientific fact, but you'd probably bash them and call their works 'racist'. This is exactly the typical black liberal opinion, anything regarding race that they disagree with is automatically 'racist' and should be condemned. You are obviously listing the sites of liberals that agree with you.
Why don't you do research on race and race-related genes? It's a fact that nearly all pure-blooded africans lack the MCPH1 gene, which could explain their low IQ.
And there are plenty of genes where that came from. You don't believe in race because you are a mixed-blood liberal, that was praised by other liberals for being mixed race and that will stop racism.
Wtf lol, who brought liberal / conservative into this? Since when did being liberal become bad and since when did being black become being liberal?
Then after that, "prejudice" means to "pre-judge", so if you admit to prejudging based on race, I don't know where you draw the line between that and racism.
As for your article, the abstract doesn't make any generalizations to what the that brain-size gene actually did and if it made anybody "smarter" or not (IQ is unrelated to brain size).
Who said anything about politics. You just assume the girl who asked the question is "liberal". Its true few people who are black vote Republican but a lot of Democrats are conservative, a lot of black people are conservative, they are the most religious race But you assume, that mixed race people are liberal. So in your mind all black or mixed race people are "liberal" and you obviously don't like liberals so you don't like black people, so your racist. Sounds like you also don't know an
This guy is clearly ignorant. there is an overwhelming consensus in the scientific community that race is not biological. having different physical appearances isn't enough to differentiate human dna from one group to another as entirely different "races." 99.9% of all human dna is identical. race as we know it is a social construct. phenotypes are the physical appearances and adaptations to the environment as early humans migrated out to different regions if I'm not mistaken.
I'm mixed Hispanic and white and I have dated a few black girls before marrying a Hispanic female with black features. :)
Attitude kills it. There are many Black females that make it bad for the rest. It's the really ghetto ones that go all cobra in public and humiliate a man. These certain woman also disrespect men and are overbearing. It's a large percentage of Black American women. Foreign black women often do not share these traits. All my black male friends don't like the drama or BS. This generalization that looms around all Black American women will remain until there is a major shift in the culture. It's a shame that this flag goes up for all black women, even foreign ones. The Meme that drives it needs to be severed but is highly unlikely that this will ever change. The way I see this changing is when the American mixing pot is stirred so much there is no black or white and everyone is just different shades of brown.
My advice to you is to travel. Acculturate yourself to as many cultures as possible. Travel to Africa and experience the people. If that's not possible for you at this time meet people online. Too many years of bitterness is caused by the byproduct of slavery generations ago. Growing up Black in America can jade someone I imagine, it's time to shed all that mess.
Now that attitude is addressed next would be aesthetics. I've always liked black women to look black. Blond hair? Really?... Don't wear blue contacts. Don't over do ornamentation. Keep it classy and carry yourself like you're worth $1M. Maintain your skin, cocoa butter stinks with sweat so use something else. Don't look like Little Kim in 90s. I love me the Kelly Rawlings look. If you can't grow long hair then don't, and don't fake it. If you have a voluptuous rump don't hang it out, accentuate it with some properly fitted pants that cover yet accentuate.
Bottom line, Classy and Dignified. Always keep your cool. Don't Cobra.
Oh and try different kinds of dudes. Why not, this is the 21st century.
Ok here's a good way to look at it. It's logical that if black girls are less successful in the dating world than non-black girls, then males (of whatever color) are less attracted to them. Let's be real here. Let's be scientific, objective, observe the populations as a whole, leave our own personal preferences aside, and not be so concerned about the human factor (sensitivity and political correctness). It sucks, but the reality is that black girls are less desirable. The original question was "I would like to know what it is about black girls that's so unattractive?", not something like "Do YOU think black girls are attractive?". The person asking the question is already living through this situation, hence she is asking us this.
So the answer to the question - Black girls are relatively unattractive because homo sapiens prefer lighter skin and features in their mates. Let me go further with this. Traditionally, as animals, men are the hunters. Women don't have to worry about this. Being hunters, men are out in the field or the jungle getting dirty, getting physical, in order to acquire resources. That's why white women prefer a "tan" and strong white man, because it indicates that they are out in the sun. On the other hand, women should be fair of skin, since they are physically weaker and take care of offspring, and thus not out in the sun. Men also prefer thinner (but not too thin) women due to a similar concept; a fat woman indicates an abundance of resources, and thus no dependence on a man to 'hunt' for her.
I believe that's the answer. About your self esteem, don't be blue about it, though it will be hard sometimes. The color of your skin is never going to change. In my opinion, the best thing you can do is work hard and educate yourself. Become valuable to society in whatever way you want. There's a lot of other negative stereotypes about the black community (men and women) that still exist. There are a lot of well respected black women out there in the United States and all over the world. Strive to become one of them, and dating will be easier. You can always say that it isn't fair that white women will have easier lives. But life's not fair. And you have a much better life filled with opportunities than many of your African counterparts. You have the right idea about staying focused on academia. All you can do is change yourself, and if enough members of the black community step up then the world around them will hopefully finally accept them as social and economic equals.
i left the post above but under a different name..but tell me ,how is it that I'm racist? I have nothing against black people other than I prefer to date white girls.it's called preference.how do you define preference as being racist? you'd best check the dictionary.i explained that I date who I'm completely comfortable with.not dating black women before,i'd feel bit unusual and so I stick with what I've dated in the past..preference!you have an unintelligent view of social structure
Another person who commented mentioned poor hygiene and another commented on the attitudes of black women. I think hygiene and attitude are attributable to the fact that black women are the least desired women, but there are other reasons as well. The vast majority of black women are jealous of and despise white women and that reflects in their attitude. In the movie, "Precious," the morbidly overweight dark skinned black girl looks in the mirror and fantasizes she's white, thin, blond haired, blue eyed. That was a moment of truth for black women everywhere. Suggest that to any black woman and she will fly into a ghetto rage or raise her hand and adopt the typical black girl ghetto attitude of "listen to the hand". Black women vehemently deny that they are unattractive and that even their own men prefer white women over black women. That's not to say black men and other men won't have sex with black women, but it's usually for sex only with no hint of a relationship. Black women live in denial even tho' the vast majority will never experience having a loving husband and legitimate children. The whole world knows this but black women will fly into rage if anyone suggests this. Black women will NOT accept the truth. Rather than work on their appearance, lose weight, practice hygiene (I have never heard anyone say black women smell good), become educated so they can carry on an intelligent conversation, they choose to stay the same. White women and women of other races work on improving their appearance and toning their physiques. They educate themselves about good hygiene, makeup, etc. and if they have an unpleasant odor about them, they will go to a doctor to find a cure for the odor. Black women in general have defensive, combative dispositions. The majority are loud and unlady-like. Many black girls physically fight, hit, punch, slap. Even black mothers do this to their children. All of those attributes and demonstrations are usually associated with male behavior and with men rather than women. Black women exhibit masculine traits. Because ALL males have egos, men in general prefer women of other races who have been taught to respect themselves, to be kind, to be feminine -- and all of those traits compliment the male ego rather than compete with it. No man wants to be married to a woman who looks, acts, talks and smells like a man. It's more a matter of what men, in general, need from a woman that they can't find in the average black woman.
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I honestly don't know where this poor hygiene thing is coming from. Other than one of the comments on here I've never heard anyone say that black women have poor hygiene, but perhaps this idea comes from the fact that most of us don't wash our hair everyday. The reason for that is because we can afford not to wash our hair everyday because we don't produce as much sebum as other races, but just because many of us may not wash our hair everyday doesn't mean we don't bathe/shower everyday.
I agree that out of all other races black men do seem to go out of their race more, but you can't ignore the fact that the vast majority of black men still date/marry black women. So you're wrong about black men not wanting their own women. I've never seen this "Precious" but I think most non-white (not just black girls) girls have at some point wanted to be white because white women are the standard of beauty currently, and white women have it a lot easier than minority women.
So if a black girl gets angry it's a "ghetto rage"? Black women are definitely getting their educations and climbing the corperate ladder. There are more black women in higher education now than ever before. White women have no room to talk about black women being fat because they're not too far behind themselves. Americans are fat in general. On a global scale white women are fatter than black women. Personally I wear makeup but I think it's great that many black women do not wear makeup.
Men do not like women that wear a lot of makeup. Natural is always best.
Your answer just seems very extreme...I can't even properly reply to it because it makes absolutely no sense. I understand that many women (not just black) can be as you described in your answer but I seriously think that your opinion is biased. You obviously have a strong disdain for black women and black women only. You answer isn't very kind at all...so I guess that makes you masculine by your logic.
Honestly, I am speaking with all honesty here and I know this might come off as racist but...
the ones who really find black women undesirable, are many black men.
Black men, influenced by Kanye West, Snoop Dogg and other famous, influential black men have taken their influence and decided to discard even the most beautiful black women in favor of any white girl they can get their hands on, they see having a black girl with them as something to bring them down, while a white girl is meant to show that they're a "real man"
Personally I'm a white guy, I have pale skin, my hair shines blonde when in the sun but usually it looks brown, my eyes are a really light shade of blue and I LOVE black girls, when I see a black girl at the night club, I can barely keep my eyes off her, and when I might be confident while talking to an Asian or white girl, my knees get weak and I start stuttering when talking to a black girl.
Anyway, the only ones who willfully disregard black women and say black women are ugly are black MEN, us non-black men... either we think you're attractive or we don't, that all comes down to preference, we hold no animosity to you, the vast majority of us wouldn't join a forum just to call black girls ugly, if you're a nice girl, with a nice smile and a healthy body, you'll have white, asian, Indian etc... all kinds of guys clambering over each-other just to be with you, while black men are off chasing some overweight white girl.
Unattractive?... I have known many black (and white women) in my time. When I went to school, I even dated a few ladies, who happened to be black. And I can tell you this: In our cruel world, there are some hard truths, and one of these is the whole race issue.
But as far as I am concerned, I never judge any person on this basis. If I liked a girl, it was because she was hot. I don't care if she was white, black or purple. I think race, unfortunately gets too much attention in our Society.
For instance, who Doesn't like Denzel? He's one of the greatest actors of our time. Yet, I can't stand some of these rapper-punks, because they are not gentleman.
What kinda guy can't admit that Ms. Beyonce Knowles isn't just delicious?! My God, I would give my right arm to share a pair of whiskeys with her...
On the other hand, Paris Hilton? Are you freakin' kidding me? The woman looks like she got hit in the ass with a shovel!
No, it's all about class, not skin color. I say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And I like to occasionally steal a glance or two at a healthy, sexy young black chick, when my wife isn't lookin...
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I liked your answer and I agree with everything you said. It really made me smile.
Chin up, Ass up, you are (very) probably a beautiful woman... I would bet from your palaver, anyway. Don't let the whole Black & White issue plague your thoughts. Honestly, when you least thing it, perhaps when you least even want it, a MAN will walk up and express interest in you .
What is it about black girls that's so unattractive? I wouldn't know, as I am so hot for a lot black gals I know.
I do understand what this is all about though... When messing around on HotOrNot, I noticed that great looking black gals who would be an 8 or 9 in my books will tend to score a 6 or 7 (rated by predominately white male audience). There is definitely some difference between how my friends and I view the level of attractiveness for most black women. I see hot white gal, my friends see hot white gal. I see hot black gal, my friends are like, NO.
Far from holding my head up high as a white man and being uppity about the white race on how we have such high quality women among our ranks and high standards for the women we want to be with, I want to take this opportunity to call my friends out for being the morons they are. To me, it doesn't necessarily show they have great taste in gals by having the hots for women who are almost exclusively white (Asian occasionally), but it definitely shows they are missing out on a lot of great gals... Black gals!
Black ladies, many you are so very fine in my eyes.
LOL thanks for the compliment. I feel you on the friends thing. I've dated all races (white included) and my friends are cool and agree with how hot a guy is except when it comes to white guys. They say that they don't "prefer" white guys. I prefer a guy that is respectful, funny and cute no matter his color. :-)
Thanks for understanding. Well of course a lot of white men are holding their head up high because all races of guys like white women. The only difference is, white, asian and hispanic men will stand up for their women. Black men, not so much. I'm around asian guys a lot and they always defend asian women even though they know a lot of them prefer white guys.
I was listening to this guy on youtube and was saying that no one likes black women, not even black men. :(
actually, Asian guys will tell you that Asian girls prefer an attractive Asian guy over all white guys. they will tell you that the Asian girls who SAY they prefer white guys are the ones with low self-esteem who are bitter over how Asian guys don't find them attractive. this is one of the reasons why the Asian girls you see with white guys are noticeably lower quality than the ones with Asian guys.
oh, and they're also tell you that majority of Asian girls are unattractive anyways lol
I'm not black or white so I guess I'm qualified for this. I think physically, there's too much of everything, big nose, big ill shaped lips, dark eyes over black skin, the majority are overweight. And there's also the hair. Then there's the caracter, black women are often not educated, strong and all that. You can of course find the same thing in white people, but less. But If I had to choose between the average whitie and the average blacke, I would probably chose black as they are generally more loving and appreciative, wich is closer to my culture
@TheHusband As a guy, you're unqualified to tell girls what girls look for in guys. And what the fuck is wrong with you? You don't describe humans as "lower quality" or "higher quality", you piece of shit.
@Makellen what planet are you own makellen. As of 2016 black women are the most educated group of people in the us, including white men and women. The majority are not overweight, if you studied any medicine or science, moron, you will know that black women have bigger hips than white women. that is how anthropoligist and coroner's know if bones belong to a white or black person. Our hair is different but the same, soft , fine, thick or course as white people. I know white people with hair so nappy they have to perm it to comb it ( a lot). And finally our skin, which does not wrinkle nor age as white people are the envy of white women. I am 58 and look 40. donald jr. you are ignorant.
@pamelaj 😂😂😂😂😂 what planet are you on?
You forgot to mention most of you have all your hair when you're 90 because its fake... you sound just as racist and nasty as donald jr lol
I also wonder why you're more educated? I would like to see numbers of black women that went to school and had it paid for. Maybe with scholarships and students loans or having 500 kids and coasting through life with her hair done and nails compliments of tax payers.
I can't believe i read that trash out of a geriatric womans mouth... well educated doesn't mean anything when you talk like that... ignorance can carry a degree too!
@anonymous dont listen to pamela.. Those boys are just that boys! Also probably scared. How do you know they dont think the same about you? Maybe they think black girls only date black guys? Stop worrying about it and they come. Own being one of the few black girls 😆
Oh and I've seen black girls built like a white girl so i guess if they were murdered they would be confused as white? Get the fuck out of here... So tired of hearing this shit.
You know pamelaj it is extremely funny how accuse them of sounding like Donald Trump jr., while you sound like Donald Trump himself, due to the fact that all you are doing right now is consistantly hating on black women. By the way you are also profiling based on race because I am extremely educated through my parents' money, and have never worn a weave or fake nails in my life, so do us all a favor and pipe yourself down, thank you.
Are you kidding me? I am white male I grew up in a white area and had a lot of racial influence around me, However I always fancied a black girl on my estate I thought she was the most beautiful girl in the whole world. But I never dared approach her because of my friends were mostly prejudiced. However when I grew up and moved away I became my own person and now have a beautiful black African girlfriend. Maybe I am bias but I certainly think black girls and 10 times more beautiful that white girls. Ok so to prove my point... Google black girl and nearly every girl on the image search is beautiful. Now google white girl and the quality in beauty is like 40% less attractive. Now if you do the same search and put most beautiful black girl in the world. Then compare again to most beautiful white girl you can see that the difference is quality. You will always get a better quality pretty black girl than a pretty white girl. Not to mention the body. My opinion but I think I am right
I got sad when I see things like that, I always loved black girls, in my opinion, they are a hundred times most beatiful than white girls, not just because of the color of the skin, but in every trait, like the mouth, the hair, the body. But, when I'm with my friends and they see a black girl, if the see 10, they will say that nine are very ugly and the only one they said that isn't ugly, doesn't have a skin as dark as the others. When I was younger, I always used to see a beautiful black girl and share my opinion with my friends, but I didn't used to share cause if I do, my friends will laugh in my face. When I grew up, I have lost th shame, they can laugh as much as they want, I don't care. Happily, I started to talk about with my closest friends, and they have started to understand and be more acceptive with black girls and don't judge someone who think that they are beautiful.
Today, I'm happy with my girlfriend, she is black and she is the most beautiful girl in the world!
Ps: I'm from Brazil, and people here are more acceptive with black women, but just one kind of black women. To be here, be black and be beautiful, you need to have a standard appearance and this is ridiculous!!!
Here the samba in carnival is very popular, and the the women who dance in the samba schools are mostly black, this is cool, but the problem is that it have created a standard black women and if you are black and don't follow this standard, you're ugly. I can't explain this standard to you, but, I can try, to be black and be beautiful, you have to be tall, have a big and curly hair that isn't so "afro", if I can't say that way, and the most ridiculous one: Your skin can't be so dark as a African girl... This is RIDICULOUS!
My problem is that I think that a simple black girl from the favelas are more beautiful than the white girls of the TV and even more than the standard black ones, that's why my friends used to judge me.
@glowgirl3 I think it is because they are thicker and the females have more testosterone than other races. We all have a "type" and it's not about skin color, it's more about facial features. It's not a racial thing if it's our sexual urges that we have no control over. Homosexuals and pedophiles cannot control who they are attracted to and neither can non black males.
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Wow, I'm a beautiful black woman with pretty light skin, brown eyes, extremely smooth skin, lovely plump lips, long black curly hair, will be obtaining my B.A soon in psychology this May from a very prestigious university and I am on my way to becoming all that God wants me to be. I am not so many of these ridiculous stereotypes listed below. Loud, ghetto, associating with gangsters, uneducated, rude, demanding, surrounded by big black men, mean fathers...omg. My father is the nicest and most respectful man I have ever met. I grew up in the suburbs and attended a great school. This is just crazy; these answers I mean. It's like nothing I've ever heard before.. I am none of that and I had no idea so many men thought that way about my race. It really opens my eyes to how I must be viewed when I'm simply walking down the street...
I've had three boyfriends. One black, one Caucasian, and the one I'm engaged to now is Italian and Caucasian and he treats me like a princess and I make sure I give him the same treatment, if not better because I love him for who he is and he loves me who I am. He Loves the way I look, feel, smell, sound, think, etc. Sure we have a little extra on our backsides, but I've never met a man who despised that. I've always been told I look like Amerie the singer but I never accepted such a spectacular compliment because that woman is gorgeous! Just look at her. How can you not like that!?
Reading these answers...I am simply appalled and flabbergasted at how ignorant so many people in this world are. I know for a fact that I'm a beautiful black woman and I don't care if anyone thinks otherwise and neither should the person asking this question. I really don't understand how some of you men cannot be attracted to all these beautiful women...you know what. maybe I should list a few.
Tyra Banks, Gabrielle Union, Raven Symone, Megalyn echikunwoke, Rihanna, Lauren London, Alicia Keys, Beyonce, Halle Berry, Dorthy Dandrige, Taraji P Henson, Diana Ross, Jada Pinkett-smith, Vivica A. Fox, Tia and Tamera Mowry, Naomi Campbell, Iman, Jennifer Hudson, Meagan Good, Toni Braxton, Mariah Carey, Amerie, Katerina Graham, Leona Lewis, Janet Jackson, Michelle Obama...and the list can go on and on. These are just the women off the top of my head and I've met as equally physically and mentally beautiful black women in person as well.
All beautiful black women. Intelligent women. Lovely, classy, nice women...Black Girls Rock! Just give the right ones a try, don't judge us all by the ones who you have met. :-)
Kay, I'm done. :-)
I'm Caucasian, I've seen many, many absolutely beautiful black women living on the West coast. I truly believe that what it comes down to is numbers. What do I mean?
Think about it: no matter which ethnicity you're a part of, those that are considered 'Attractive' of that ethnicity, by any standards, are in the 99th percentile. Sadly, I think, most of the world's population don't live up to various societies' rigidly high standards of beauty, thus labeling them unattractive.
So it doesn't matter at all which ethnicity you are, only a few will have the 'correct' combination of bone structure, metabolism, skin tone, social background and mannerism that lands one in the "pretty" category. That being the case, if you're exposed to less attractive white women all your life, you're 'used' to that 'type' of ugly, and you don't notice it as much. Whereas when judging the overall beauty of the women (or men) of a different ethnicity, people may tend to not
overlook those less attractive in that category, as they do with whichever ethnicity they're more familiar when deciding whether or not those kinds of girls are ugly.
So, are black women less desirable than women of another ethnicity? Absolutely not. It's all about who you are and where you come from, what ethnic version of "ugly" you used to.
Many on this thread mentioned racism as a reason, and I agree. Uber-stupid bigots are responsible for much of the anti-black sentiment that's come across in the world today. It's disgusting and anti-human to be so god-damn, freaking idiotic, the stupid swine. (I hate racists)
Also, the 'black culture', was mentioned as a reason, and this I say is not racist, but intellectualist. I see people of any color wearing 'gangsta' clothes, listening to rap and I immediately think they're posers. White, black, latino and asian people do this, and I think such people equally silly.
Agh, I hate that black women, who ARE beautiful, receive such insults. Black women ARE beautiful, and ALL women from any ethnicity deserve the respect, honor and chivalry that is so absent in our many different cultures today.
P.S., from a scientific point of view, one could argue that Black women are Superior because more pigmentation (darker skin) in the skin protects against harmful UV rays much better. And Zoe Saldana is one the most beautiful women I've ever seen, and I love Avatar, because she did a voice in it.
Be proud of being black, and the fact that you've noticed such ridiculous biases means you're a forward thinking person!
-J
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Oh honey, don't let this get to you. I think you need to understand that there is a difference for a man between being attracted to a woman physically and being attracted to a woman where you want to date her.
Some of the white guys around you would loss their minds at the thought of having sex with you. Men love variety. They really are curious what all women look like naked. So a man can be immensely attracted to a woman, regardless of race, but he may not ever pursue a relationship with her.
Men hate rejection. Women do too but men have to face it more since they are the ones asking out the other person. So what happens? Men become very logical about what choices they have to make. A guy may see you, think you are beautiful, but logically he thinks you only date black guys or their is a "cultural difference" (even if you grew up in the same culture) or he thinks that you may not be attracted to him. Men go for women they think they can get. Black women are very hard for most men to approach because they are stereotypically strong, confident, ball busters. And a lot of men, especially those in white culture, don't know how to handle it.
A perfect example of this is my best friend and her sister. They are half black and live in a white community. Everyone says they look alike so physically they really aren't too different. And before you assume they are both models, they aren't. They are both pretty but average also. But my friend has been asked out by white men, Mexican men, black men, and Asian men. And she is currently with a Jewish guy. While her sister has never been asked out. Why? Because my friend is sweeter in personality. She is kind and gentle and compassionate. When we go out together, I just see her flash that sweet smile and those doe eyes at a guy and he melts. He doesn't care if she is purple, you can tell he is thinking up how he can pick up on her cause he thinks he has a chance now. But her sister is a hard ass. Guys are afraid to ask her out.
I'm not saying you should change your personality. Just understand that a lot of the guys that know you may think you would never date them in a million years even if they find you stunning.
So hang in there. One day a guy who is brave enough will step up.
First of all, I want to say that I'm a 20 year old white male, and that I'm NOT a racist. By that, I mean that I treat people no matter what race the same. It all comes down to character.
So, being a racist has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with sexual desires, what so ever.
It is important that people get this straight, because I get really tired of reading accusations of white guys being racists- based on what they find sexually attractive.
To all girls realding this, the harsh reality is that men focus on a woman's physical appearance at the early stages of bonding intimately with her, or even before considering taking things to the "next level" with her. That's just how we men are.. don't blame us, just blame f***in nature.. I'm not saying that personality isn't important, but to most men, what catches the eye first is VERY crucial...
When it comes to femininity, I know that femininity is relative.. but the way I understood things, the creator of this thread wanted a reason to why "black girls are the least desireable for non black guys".
So as a non black guy I will answer to why I find white women more attractive. Though many men will share my opinion, I must mention that this is a personal answer. Of course, other non blacks will have different opinions than me. As staded a billion times before in this thread, white women TEND to have more feminine features than black women. Like hair texture, pitch of voice, skin texture, general body shape and so on.. they also tend to have a ligther, sweeter body odor. (body odor is very underrated.. if a woman smells good, it's a big BIG plus.. I bet most guys agree with me here...) And there is also something about fair skin. It just appears to be more feminine to me. Wide noses, frizzy hair, rugged skin, bulky body structures, dark voices and so on just doesn't appear SEXY to me. It doesn't give me a hard on... So if anyone want's to call me a racist, you're free to do so. But if you do, I would say that you don't see the big picture..
Just because I don't find a woman sexually appealing, does not mean that I will have a racist attitude towards her! Come on, that's ridiculous..
I know a couple of girls that have great personalities, and on the other hand look butt ugly.. Why the hell whould I treat these girls badly just because I don't find them attractive? Just because I don't want to take a girl with me to bed, doesn't mean that I won't treat her with respect, as a fellow human being! As I said, it all comes down to character..
maybe a little off topic here towards the end.. but still...
i completely respect your opinion but maybe it's a little warped? not all black women have a low tone of voice or "rugged skin" as you put it. neither do all have thick bodies. in fact, just like any other race, the black race is mixed with slim figured ladies, high-pitched voices, and soft skin. women within the black race vary as well so consider that for a second. although, I do understand that majority may have some characteristics as you descrived.
Whats a dark voice?! LOOOL also, I'm black and have very smooth skin, slim limbs and no ass, I don't have B.O or a strong smell and my nose is not wide either... don't make generalisations all black women are different, and your sense of what is and is not femine is very subjective...
Just to let you know, not all black women have "wide noses, frizzy hair, rugged skin and bulky body features" as you describe them. you may not be a racist but you need to stop stereotyping.
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im only 16. and you really, really, really do disgust me. I am so happy that I live in London away from racists like you. Do you know what racism is? Racism is when you believe negative things about a person simply because of their race. Discrimination is when you act on such prejudice. So by calling you a racist - I ma not saying that you would go around with the KKK, I am saying that you are racist towards black women. I have more to say but my characters have run out [part one]
@anonymousbeetch
First of all, who told told you that black women are ugly?! You do not let anyone else tell you what you are, you simply and proudly be who and what you want to be.
It is true that mostly what you see on t.v. is mostly white women, but that is the racist neglect of Hollywood. However, neither should Hollywood dictate to you how beautiful you are.
If others can not deal with the strength and beauty that black women have that is their problem.
Certainly there are black women who do not take care of themselves, that is very unattractive, however, I have seen it in every race, and it is just as unattractive.
From the lightest of the light to the darkest of the dark skinned black women, from their beautiful sexy hair and their fine sculpted bodies which God gave only to black women. Black women are simply gorgeous.
You can throw out most of this trash these people are talking about, especially Taylor 4000, who is he Doctor Ruth Jr. He sounds extremely stupid. Black women have very soft skin and in every facet he mentioned the tonal qualities and color are based upon genetic make up. So therefore, why hold something against someone beyond their control, heck, you not going to see those areas but a few moments at a time anyway. WORD! Just because you listen to R&B does not mean you are not a racist, R&B music is just something you may tolerate. Nothing defines any of us, except the way we treat others.
I believe God did a masterful job on all women, but, for me, He put something in a black woman that no other woman has. I can not put my finger on it, I just know that I love it.
Now, I will say that over all, I have heard a many conversations from all sorts of women and unfortunately black women are the least likely to do whatever it takes to please their man. Now, I am not talking about being a fool for someone, I am simply saying that when you really love someone and it is mutual, there are no limits to what both parties ought to do to satiate each other. But, more often than not, black women tend not to compromise as easily as other races. Attitude will make or break any and every facet of life.
I am a light skinned black man. I have been married to my beautiful black wife for seventeen years. We have a beautiful marriage. I have never cheated on her and I never will. Remember, you have to make a conscience choice to cheat. It does not happen by accident, that is how I can say I never will, because I do not desire to.
We do have disagreements, but we do not get loud and bash each other, we always show respect under all circumstances.
Well, in conclusion, I love my blackness, I love my black women (in general), I think all race of women are beautiful. I LOVE LIFE.
I hope this gives you some positive insight from another perspective.
GOOD LUCK
African American women, more often than not listen to terrible garbage for music. It's hard to be around someone who listened to awful noise. And especially when it is not only the preferred music, but the only music they listen to. I mean really. R&B is trash. Kanye is trash. African American women also tend to be very loud and boisterous. Some men don't like strong willed, loudly opinionated women. African American women tend to embody this whilst Asian women (the most typically preferred) are known for being quiet and submissive. We still live in a society where men typically want a submissive woman who doesn't challenge them. African American women are very strong willed and will challenge someone they disagree with. Often loudly. It's also common to see African American women acting belligerent and sassy. Again, most men don't want to be challenged or threatened by a woman. African American women tend to be thicker and larger on average than women of other races. This isn't as desirable to Asian or white males although to some it can be the primary reason African American women Te attractive. But the term exaggerated curves seems to fit sometimes and I think the extremity of the curvaceousness of most African American women is too much for some. African American women have larger bone structure, which to white or Asian or even sometimes Hispanic males can be construed as masculine. It's less often to find the typical western/Asian traits of femininity in African American women whose bone structure isn't as delicate. The jaw lines and forehead shape are stronger than women of other races. Lastly two reasons that are much more rarely admitted publicly that I have heard from many white, Asian and Hispanic males are that African American women tend to have a stronger scent (body odor or pharamones or melanin) than women with fairer skin and that the darker alone time around the pubic region is less pleasing to some as it might look "unclean". Personally I find women of all races and colors attractive based on their own demeanor and character. But these are the facts I have been given by many male friends and acquaintances over the years.
The fuck?
So many have responded but I won't shy away from contributing because you're obviously searching for feedback.
As an American born Nigerian, I can say that this society is highly obsessed with race (which was created around the mid 1800's by whites to maintain a sense of social order meaning it's a standard that was invented aka imaginary) and it's sad because the stereotypes that come with each color can be limiting. With that said, you claim there are many negative things being put in the media, noting the aforementioned, who controls most of the media? Naturally, aren't they going to portray black females as the antithesis of everything beautiful and attractive? With that said, it's not that hard to figure out why the non-blacks who have never come in contact with black females wouldn't want to and those who have the chance, approach with caution. The ones who do cross the line are the ones who learn for themselves what is fact and fiction when it comes to black females.
If you disregard the comments from those who obviously are basing their impressions of black females on slanted/bias mainstream media (and maybe a little BET) you'll find that those who have given black females a try either like or dislike them based on their PERSONALITY (yes, some are going on looks ok =] ). You admit to having low self esteem and if it's pervasive in person as it is in your comments, then more than likely, guys detect that and may be turned off by it. I can't tell you to be a stronger person because it's not enough to instruct someone to do something, they have to recognize the need for change.
You go to a school where you are the minority and I can only imagine how draining it must be to try to conform yet never fit in must be but take heart. You can still be you and be A OK. You appear to be in an environment that lacks balance and being from New York City, diversity is everywhere so I'm never really overwhelmed with one race over another and it's a beautiful thing and as a result there isn't one particular standard per se. Short of being able to change your environment, I think you should talk to your parents, and turn to your family for strength and affirmations that you are a beautiful individual as I'm sure you are.
Not to joke but put India Arie's Brown Skin on repeat each morning if you need a reminder of how beautiful your assets are ... take care =] Feel free to message me privately.
One thing that I don't quite understand is that black males are also portrayed negatively in the media but they still have women of all races lining up to date them. The same can't be said for black women. Yeah of course there are many black women that are so beautiful that they can attract anyone, but why does the media have a more negative effect on black women?
I can't talk to my parents about anything because my mom also has self esteem issues and my father isn't black.
Well before I even start to say anything, let me tell you one thing I can tell about you: You are very smart. I can tell by the way you articulate yourself. You're smart. If you find your self confidence, you will be appealing to men, because a smart, confident girl IS pretty.
Okay, with that being said, I should chime in and say I will never and could NEVER date a Black woman. I'm bi-racial (B/W) and I don't find Black women attractive in any way. I can say that it is not because of the "media", as both of my parents taught me not to be indoctrinated into being a media brainwashed child. I don't hate my mom (a Black woman) and I don't hate myself.
I don't understand why it's a problem. And before I say why I won't date a Black woman, let me explain that I know that generalizations don't apply to everyone and not everyone fit stereotypes. When I look at Black women overall, as a whole, I see masculinity. Dark skin is masculine to me, big lips are masculine, having a high muscle mass is masculine to me and I'm not attracted to it. I don't want to look at a woman who looks like ME (not because I "self-hate" but because I'm a MAN), and I don't want to look at a woman who looks like my mother (not because I hate her but because she's my MOM). I don't understand how you tell that one guy "Spartwallis" that he's wrong because he's Black and "he has the same features that are a turn off". Online, I see a lot of Black girls saying that to Black men who don't want a Black girl. Think of it like this: Don't no man want a girl with a PENIS right? Is it self hate? No. I have heavy chest hair, should I get a woman with heavy chest hair so I don't self-hate? Naw it doesn't work like that.
Other than that, it's just that indescribible sexual attraction. I don't have any of that for Black girls. The vaginas look so offputting and the dark nipples, dark labia. The look in their eyes when you are close and intimate isn't the same as with other girls, even their hair and the way they just look when they are intimate is such a turn off. I'm not tryin to be vulgar but I can't get aroused with them. It's not a racial thing though because I'd date anything but a Black woman, I'd go for Asians or Whites or Latinas or Middle Easterners or anything other than a Black girl. It's not that Black girls aren't pretty, it's just that they don't turn ME on ever.
Not to mention the "strong Black woman" problem that has some how found its way from the inner city ghetto to the mainstream and suburban Black society. Notice all these people in here agreeing about Black women havin the most stank attitudes and acting masculine and boorish and aggressive. Even looking at smart, upstanding, educated Black women, the attitude is the same - dominating, aggressive, lack of femininity, so much disdain towards men. Yes, it even applies to those who are not ghetto. I ran out of space, but this is my overall take on Black women. Not all, of course.
First I have to say that every statement you made after "before I even start to say anything" just blows my mind every time. I am similar to the author of the question and I don't understand why I keep getting told that I seem smart and articulate like its a surprise lol. I won't even comment on eveything else you said aka the "strong black woman problem" which we only happened to develop after years of our men being sold and killed. Everything is genetic and evolution.
you just have issues
I understand, that this question was geared to Caucasion males for which we can have a better understanding as to why we are viewed as the least attractive. I don't think it is racisist for the most part because a lot of the gentlemen here have valid points (how they view their off springs to be a replica of themselves and a lot of it has a lot to do with how they where raised, for some also it is just a simple preference no different from liking short women compared to tall women).
I feel what you are saying to a certain point but the whole dark vagina areola thing is just a deeply seated perversion you have. Who thinks about some sh*t like that. I'm sorry its not your fault that you are the way you are but for you to be so descriptive like that damnn you do have issues, Not because you're not aroused by black girls but the reasons ar mere excuses and perversion about pink p****** you propbably saw in p*rn movies.If your girl can't look like your mom you hate your mom!
All I have to say is whatever.
Big lips are masculine? When have you ever seen a man with big lips? Something's wrong with you, kid.
you are actually sick in the head... no black woman has chest hairs.. and if dark skin is masculine to you then that's dark skin. but you forget that black comes in all shapes an sizes. I am the color of caramel [nigerian and brazillian] - that does not make me masculine. if a black woman has more muscle, that is just a muscly woman - not because she's black. I haven't even seen muscular black women - so I don't know where you get your dumb ass sh*t from. Your parents really didn't raise you right.
Wow, how did I stumble onto this page?
I have to respond though. A lot of these responses are kinda racist and based on stereotypes that I find to be mostly untrue or built on total misunderstandings or people being brainwashed by standard culture.
Girl, let me help you out. I'm a black woman. I grew up in "the ghetto," learned to talk white, act white, went to an Ivy League school, and learned to schmooze with professionals, politicians, and wealthy people. That BS was a betrayal of who I am. So I didn't last long in that world.
Yet I find that now, now that I'm true to myself, I tend to be universally liked. I have no trouble attracting men of all colors. I'm not telling you this to brag but to make a point, so hear me out. I'm thirty and I can tell you straight up: I am nobody but myself, I don't CARE what anybody thinks of me, and THAT is what makes me attractive. Believe me, it took me a very long time, a lot of soul-searching, and a lot of painful transformations to reach this point. But when what other people thought stopped mattering to me--that's when I became the girl everybody wanted.
Eventually, I stopped "talking white" (code-switching) for other peoples' benefit. I wear my own style, wear my hair however I feel like wearing it, straight or curly--it doesn't matter, and act, well, like me. Simply put, I do whatever makes ME feel good, because we are far past the time when black women should be letting others decide how we look and act.
Yoko Ono and John Lennon once said "woman is the n*gger" of the world," without realizing that there is something worse than being a "n*gger" and that's being a "n*gger" woman. The burden on black womens' backs is greater than any burden in the world. We are the most oppressed demographic in the US, yet we have incredible strength. Black women contribute more proportionally to our communities, and we are often the matriarchs of our families. In addition, we deal with attitudes like the ones expressed in this forum, attitudes that are designed to make us feel inferior. Recognize that those attitudes are wrong. Recognize your own strength.
Don't EVER, EVER, EVER let someone not wanting to date you destroy your self esteem. That is utter bull. Be yourself. Be you. Above all, LOVE yourself because, my dear, you deserve it. Look at the answers here and ask yourself if you would even WANT to date men like this. Who think these things about black women. Who would judge you this way. You wouldn't. I don't put any stock in it, but I've heard men say they prefer white women because white women are easier to control. C'mon. This is ALL some misogynistic, racist crap. Forget it. Throw it out.
Seriously. I know it sounds cliche, but please, please, be yourself, surround yourself with people who will be themselves, find a fellow who will be himself. Be an individual and seek a partner who is an individual. Don't ask fools on the internet for their opinion on who you are. You are sacred.
I'm just gonna say this and be finished...
I'm black...I have green eyes, I'm slender, smart (Studying to be an elementary ed teacher with concentrations in English and Art), social, and funny.
I'm not loud (I'm actually quite shy until I'm comfortable in my surroundings, and even then you can't hear me from across a room), I don't have this "body odor" that some guys claim black women have. I get more white men hitting and flirting with me than my own race.
I have really soft skin/hair that I take care of because it's the only body I have.
I hate sweat pants and dress up every day in nice clothing.
I don't listen to the typical "black people" (Stress the quotes) music. In fact I listen to indie, trance, classical and experimental music.
I didn't date until my sr year of high school and my first boyfriend was white and native American.
My second boyfriend (we just recently broke up, and I was engaged with) was fully white, brown hair, blue eyes.
All my boyfriends (the only two I've had) have been white...and I've gotten no complaints in bed about being "larger/looser" down there (as some anon said)
It's all personal preference.
Black women and Indian women, imo are the most beautiful women around.
I think white women are just plain and average and lack the unique features that are found in black women and all my friends are white. Also, I've seen red and blond (with freckles) natural haired black women.
I myself am an example of an "un-ordinary" (and I stress the quotes) trait seen in black women...with my green eyes...but realize, Africa is the home of all races, there is more genetic difference there than anywhere else on the globe. Everyone is an individual, and black women should not be categorized under such stereotypical bias.
There are those loud obnoxious black "ghetto" women that make me so upset because they create bad names for my race. I hate it, and I don't associate myself with those women because they are embarrassing. Then I hear from women of my own race that I think I'm "better than them," that's not the case...I just don't like their attitudes and the way they carry themselves and I refuse to be lumped in with them.
As for hair, I love my hair, I wear extensions (clip ins) and I wear my natural hair, which is collarbone length. And I love getting my hair played with.
GUYS WHO THINK THAT BLACK WOMEN ARE THE ONLY ONES WHO WEAR EXTENSIONS ARE BLIND AS F***. I've seen more white women wear extensions than black women.
GUYS WHO SAY WE CAN'T COMPETE WITH BRUNETTES...wtf? Most African American women are brunettes...
Another thing, if not for the media and our history, other races wouldn't be so brain washed about black people in general. We are beautiful...we are artist, poets, business men/women, and successful...we are not ALL the same.
Go out and meet the right people, and maybe you'll think differently.
i think it comes from personal experience...i admire rihanna and beyonce and think theyre are stunning and gorgeous with amazing personalities...i also think michelle obama is an awesome first lady I like how she carries herself...
but I live in new york where there is a ton of multiculture widely accepted...no racism nothing...everyone is a different race...and happy...
but when you get to down comparing races or different cultures, you do end up generalizing them from your personal experience...
i have nothing against black people or black women, but I've always had a bad experience with them for some reason...i work in a retail store being a college student...and compared to women of other races, asian, indian, white, hispanic, etc black women have been so rude to me, they are sometimes violent and not sincere, they can be overcontrolling, and treat me like crap for no reason...they don't have manners sometimes and I'm trying to say this in the most harmless and yet honest way from my own personal experience...but theyre just different from what populations are usually used to. I work in a clothing store, and whenever a black woman comes asking me for help, I have to actually be prepared to deal with her, or she just makes me nervous because I feel like she's gonna make a scene again.
i also went to public school, and while other raced girls were studying, doing good in school, happy with friends, just being normal kids, I saw blck girls get in fights in the hallway, get suspended, get hit by boys, theyre just so loud and obnoxious sometimes and whereever they go and do they end up making a scene.
its just not something people are used to and they feel scared by them...at least I do...however there are some black women who are totally opposite and sweetest things I've ever seen!
im sorry to offend anyone, I just speak from my personal experience, I've been a victim for the first time in my life, when in the same store I work at, a black woman came up to me out of nowhere trying to buy a $30 shirt asking me to lower the price and I coulnt, I would lose my job, and she accused me of being racist and just because she was black I wouldn't risk losing my job in order for her to spend less money on a shirt.
and this isn't the first time, I have lots of experiences and only black women have made me upset.
Black women are my favorites hands down!! Yes I like white women but my favorite taste is chocolate.
My prom date in high school happened to be a black girl and we dated for 22 months after that and heck if she hand't moved across the country we'd be married long time now. I haven't gone back since and I have no real intention to do so because I find black ladies just gorgeous in general, from their beautiful personalities to their killer smiles you ladies ROCK!!!
I believe the reason black women/girls are perceived as "undesirable" is because Hollywood and the entertainment industry promotes and glamorizes the negative stereotypes of black women and black folks in general. The media then feeds these stereotypes to the general public and then we the people go out into the world with these misconceptions of what other people are all about with little to no exposure to them in real life. We tend to allow society and celebrities dictate and influence how we should live our lives and what lifestyles we choose to live instead of thinking for ourselves outside the box.
I get asked all the time "how did you get the black girl?" from my friends who are white males so their is defiantly an interest out there for you beautiful ladies, but both parties (white boys and black girls) seem to think or fear that the other has no interest in them so they pay them little to no attention and often miss out on golden opportunities for romance. We simply need to show more openness to each other and stop blowing each other off from negative stereotypes or myths that have been ingrained into our minds by society and communities.
I dated another black women who happened to have two kids and she was beautiful and an excellent mother. However her baby daddies soon grew super jealous of us because she was very happy in the relationship and one of them happened to be a former gang member so he started treating her and it only escalated once I stood up to him and told him off so we had to end our relationship and she moved out of state BUT we still keep in touch and I'm proud to say she is now engaged to be married. From my experiences a lot of baby daddies seem to get super jealous when the black women who he took for granted gets into a happy and healthy relationship, especially if it's with a white man and they start threatening them as a way to scare them away from dating out or dating quality men in general.
I am proud of my attraction to black women! You ladies rock!!!
I am pissed the F off and I'm going to say why. Quite honestly nothing annoys me more in these types of discussions than the "not all black women are like that" cop out. That's really all it is, a cop out. It doesn't have to be ALL black women..the keyword is MOST black women and yes that's an awful freaking lot who fit into the reasons why no man will go near them including black ones.
First things first, black women need to get over this stupid "I need a black man this, I need a black man that, black men black men black men!" You never hear any, and I mean ANY other race of woman talk like this. Black women are so narrow minded which men like myself find very unattractive. I get that you are really attracted to men who share a similar ethnic background as you but why does that have to be the be all end all as far as who you'll date? Then in an effort to be with this so called "good black man" you pick some jackass whose been incarcerated and has 5 kids with 4 different women.
Second thing, and I don't know if anyone reading this noticed this, but the black women who take super good care of themselves by showering and relaxing their hair to look supermodel pretty almost ALWAYS go for white guys only unless she meets a pro athlete black man. And unfortunately, as others here have said, white guys generally don't want black women because of the stares/comments from ignorant black people and stupid narrow minded white people.
The third point I'd like to make is something black women never want to admit. They treated everyone like sh*t during their grade school years. Do you think any black woman was going crazy over Tiger Woods before he became rich and famous? Psh no. They wanted someone dark skinned, thuggish, tall, and preferably dumb as hell. Any intelligent black guy growing up, he was ignored and made fun of for being smart and "white washed". White guys, ignored. Asian guys, ignored. Looking back on that treatment throughout the years as a kid/teenager, why would any guy be attracted to someone who ridiculed him ignored him throughout his growing up years?
Fourth and last point, let's talk about the looks. Some guys like the natural look, some like the relaxed hair look. I personally like the relaxed hair because women with short hair look dyke-ey and manly. Unfortunately that is more so the case for black women because they and their men share the same facial features and short hair can make it a little uncomfortable to figure out if it's a man or a woman. Never ever ever wear those stupid blue contacts, it looks retarded. Your red and blond weaves look equally as retarded.
Learn to take care of yourselves and be feminine, black girls, and maybe more men will not think twice about approaching you. I could go on and on about the attitudes but I think that's been said enough here. Black women are the least attractive because they market themselves as unattractive.
Yes indeed, only in America
I Agree
lol. you're funny. Not.
but you can't say " most black women" even because you have only met a small portion of the black female population...there are literally HUNDREDS of millions of Black women on this planet and to say most is just foolish...Black women are as diverse as they come, you'll find a variety of phenotypes, a variety of cultures, languages, personalities and religions...so if you're only interacting with low class black women, then maybe you're the problem and you need to rethink why you can't attract good bw.
What's so wrong about having preferences? I'm just not attracted to them, period, end of story. Of course, most attraction is on a subconscious level. Of course you're going to call me a 'racist' simply because I don't date black girls. I just don't. You can't force anyone to like something that they're not attracted to, I can't make all girls around the world like Asian men, just as you can't make all men around the world like black girls. It's just that simple.
If race is truly a social construct, so let's say a white man and a white woman have a child. The baby comes out black. Now there would be two reasons: The wife cheated on her husband with a black man (most likely), or there is no such thing as race, as you have said before. Because if race is truly a social construct, then two white people, then there is a 50/50 chance that the child will either come out white or come out non-white.
Now, there are plenty of African albinos (meaning that they are racially black but have white skin). I'm not attracted to African albinos either, because they have many of the same features as black people, the only difference is their skin color. In any case, there is much more to race than just skin color.
Just because I hold a conservative opinion does not mean you can bash me on the basis of some type of racial insensitivity.
To answer your question, I just have no idea why. It's just the vibes, my intuition, my subconscious.
You can't force anyone to like a specific race, just because you happen to disagree with me on the basis of egalitarianism.
Guys are picky. Girls are picky. They're both picky when it comes to a lot of things, especially what they find attractive. It may sound racist, it may sound prejudicial, but that's their choice. In the end, we're all human with different tastes and differences. If we're all the same, we'd be robots. These differences, even genetic differences, makes a person what he is. So I don't have to sing kumbaya with you, because I choose not to. You can't force anyone to sing kumbaya against their will.
All I have to say now is that I am happy to be myself, that I'm not part of the sheeple.
I'm not calling you racist but do you realize that you were conditioned to believe that no black women are attractive? Your comment about unattractive African features says it all. I am 100% sure that I can find an attractive man in every race.How you feel about black women is exactly how those in control want everyone to feel about black people in general.
Wow, some of you people are finding it very difficult to read and comprehend. I never said anything was wrong with having preferences. Just because some things happen on a subconscious level doesn't mean we can't use our brains on a conscious level to think rationally and logically (we do it with many other things, but I guess this is an exception huh?). You're right I can't force anyone to like something that they're not attracted to, just as I can't cure a racist from his warped judgment.
You still haven't proved how race is a social construct. You're just looking at skin color. Tell me, what makes a person black?
I wasn't talking about African albinos. There are black people that have light skin, but you wouldn't know that because your thoughts are based on stereotypes. You think all black people have west african features.
When did I ever bash you?
Unfortunately, you are part of the sheeple whether you choose to acknowledge it or not
Race is not a social construct. There are recessive and dominant traits present and unique to certain races. Asians don't just have yellow skin, half of them can't digest alcohol due to natural selection selecting against an allele that helps digest aldehydes. There are plenty of scientific sources that state that race is not a social construct, but as how far people have diverged from one another. There are plenty of genes that distinguish races. I don't see you as black, I see you as mulatto.
When I mean by allele, I mean that the allele makes a protein that helps the person metabolize aldehydes. 50% of Asian people can't digest aldehydes and they produce this 'Asian flush' whenever they drink alcohol. I think that you must be a creationist or someone who believes in all this intelligent design mumbo-jumbo. All human races, depending on race or ethnic group, have some of their genes turned on, turned off, or just change. Can you please explain why there is no race?
I mean whether you are "racist" or not, you definitely sound like you got some prejudices...
"I can't make all girls around the world like Asian men..."
"... just as you can't make all men around the world like black girls."
What exactly are these statements supposed to mean lol?
There aren't any traits that are exclusive to any race. If a group of asians moved to Africa for centuries they would begin to have a lot of the same characteristics that Africans have. Take a look at indians, they have a lot of the same features as caucasians but I bet you wouldn't say that they are caucasian. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OjBlZl8RON8&feature=related
The whole concept of race is flawed. If I'm mulatto (I could understand if you said hapa) then most african-americans are also
,,,,mulatto. Technically, I am asian because one of my parents is full asian while the other is only part black, but because race is a social construct I am black. Ask any white person what they think I am and they will say I'm black. I don't really have enough space to go into a long discussion but scientifically there is no such thing as race, but here are some sources.
https://diversityinc.com/content/1757/article/3062/
https://understandingrace.org/about/statement.html
https://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/1998-10/WUiS-GSRD-071098.php
"The best way to be anti-racist, is to be anti-race"
Race is a scientific fact, whether you liberals like it or not. In order for racism to not exist, everyone should mix and hug each other and say kumbaya. I guess you're calling me a racist just because of my conservative views. Hearsay is nothing compared to analysis. No, Indians are certainly caucasian, but there were already many different ethnicities in India. You clearly lack knowledge about the diverse subcontinent of India. There are some Indians that look quite caucasian to me.
Websites don't do sh*t. I want a scientific article from a peer-reviewed journal. There are plenty of scientists who state that race is a scientific fact, but you'd probably bash them and call their works 'racist'. This is exactly the typical black liberal opinion, anything regarding race that they disagree with is automatically 'racist' and should be condemned. You are obviously listing the sites of liberals that agree with you.
Why don't you do research on race and race-related genes? It's a fact that nearly all pure-blooded africans lack the MCPH1 gene, which could explain their low IQ.
https://www.sciencemag.org/cgi/content/abstract/309/5741/1717
https://www.sciencemag.org/cgi/content/abstract/309/5741/1720
And there are plenty of genes where that came from. You don't believe in race because you are a mixed-blood liberal, that was praised by other liberals for being mixed race and that will stop racism.
Wtf lol, who brought liberal / conservative into this? Since when did being liberal become bad and since when did being black become being liberal?
Then after that, "prejudice" means to "pre-judge", so if you admit to prejudging based on race, I don't know where you draw the line between that and racism.
As for your article, the abstract doesn't make any generalizations to what the that brain-size gene actually did and if it made anybody "smarter" or not (IQ is unrelated to brain size).
Lol. Blacks are typically Liberal.
Who said anything about politics. You just assume the girl who asked the question is "liberal". Its true few people who are black vote Republican but a lot of Democrats are conservative, a lot of black people are conservative, they are the most religious race But you assume, that mixed race people are liberal. So in your mind all black or mixed race people are "liberal" and you obviously don't like liberals so you don't like black people, so your racist. Sounds like you also don't know an
This guy is clearly ignorant. there is an overwhelming consensus in the scientific community that race is not biological. having different physical appearances isn't enough to differentiate human dna from one group to another as entirely different "races." 99.9% of all human dna is identical. race as we know it is a social construct. phenotypes are the physical appearances and adaptations to the environment as early humans migrated out to different regions if I'm not mistaken.
I'm mixed Hispanic and white and I have dated a few black girls before marrying a Hispanic female with black features. :)
Attitude kills it. There are many Black females that make it bad for the rest. It's the really ghetto ones that go all cobra in public and humiliate a man. These certain woman also disrespect men and are overbearing. It's a large percentage of Black American women. Foreign black women often do not share these traits. All my black male friends don't like the drama or BS. This generalization that looms around all Black American women will remain until there is a major shift in the culture. It's a shame that this flag goes up for all black women, even foreign ones. The Meme that drives it needs to be severed but is highly unlikely that this will ever change. The way I see this changing is when the American mixing pot is stirred so much there is no black or white and everyone is just different shades of brown.
My advice to you is to travel. Acculturate yourself to as many cultures as possible. Travel to Africa and experience the people. If that's not possible for you at this time meet people online. Too many years of bitterness is caused by the byproduct of slavery generations ago. Growing up Black in America can jade someone I imagine, it's time to shed all that mess.
Now that attitude is addressed next would be aesthetics. I've always liked black women to look black. Blond hair? Really?... Don't wear blue contacts. Don't over do ornamentation. Keep it classy and carry yourself like you're worth $1M. Maintain your skin, cocoa butter stinks with sweat so use something else. Don't look like Little Kim in 90s. I love me the Kelly Rawlings look. If you can't grow long hair then don't, and don't fake it. If you have a voluptuous rump don't hang it out, accentuate it with some properly fitted pants that cover yet accentuate.
Bottom line, Classy and Dignified. Always keep your cool. Don't Cobra.
Oh and try different kinds of dudes. Why not, this is the 21st century.
Ok here's a good way to look at it. It's logical that if black girls are less successful in the dating world than non-black girls, then males (of whatever color) are less attracted to them. Let's be real here. Let's be scientific, objective, observe the populations as a whole, leave our own personal preferences aside, and not be so concerned about the human factor (sensitivity and political correctness). It sucks, but the reality is that black girls are less desirable. The original question was "I would like to know what it is about black girls that's so unattractive?", not something like "Do YOU think black girls are attractive?". The person asking the question is already living through this situation, hence she is asking us this.
So the answer to the question - Black girls are relatively unattractive because homo sapiens prefer lighter skin and features in their mates. Let me go further with this. Traditionally, as animals, men are the hunters. Women don't have to worry about this. Being hunters, men are out in the field or the jungle getting dirty, getting physical, in order to acquire resources. That's why white women prefer a "tan" and strong white man, because it indicates that they are out in the sun. On the other hand, women should be fair of skin, since they are physically weaker and take care of offspring, and thus not out in the sun. Men also prefer thinner (but not too thin) women due to a similar concept; a fat woman indicates an abundance of resources, and thus no dependence on a man to 'hunt' for her.
I believe that's the answer. About your self esteem, don't be blue about it, though it will be hard sometimes. The color of your skin is never going to change. In my opinion, the best thing you can do is work hard and educate yourself. Become valuable to society in whatever way you want. There's a lot of other negative stereotypes about the black community (men and women) that still exist. There are a lot of well respected black women out there in the United States and all over the world. Strive to become one of them, and dating will be easier. You can always say that it isn't fair that white women will have easier lives. But life's not fair. And you have a much better life filled with opportunities than many of your African counterparts. You have the right idea about staying focused on academia. All you can do is change yourself, and if enough members of the black community step up then the world around them will hopefully finally accept them as social and economic equals.
i left the post above but under a different name..but tell me ,how is it that I'm racist? I have nothing against black people other than I prefer to date white girls.it's called preference.how do you define preference as being racist? you'd best check the dictionary.i explained that I date who I'm completely comfortable with.not dating black women before,i'd feel bit unusual and so I stick with what I've dated in the past..preference!you have an unintelligent view of social structure
Another person who commented mentioned poor hygiene and another commented on the attitudes of black women. I think hygiene and attitude are attributable to the fact that black women are the least desired women, but there are other reasons as well. The vast majority of black women are jealous of and despise white women and that reflects in their attitude. In the movie, "Precious," the morbidly overweight dark skinned black girl looks in the mirror and fantasizes she's white, thin, blond haired, blue eyed. That was a moment of truth for black women everywhere. Suggest that to any black woman and she will fly into a ghetto rage or raise her hand and adopt the typical black girl ghetto attitude of "listen to the hand". Black women vehemently deny that they are unattractive and that even their own men prefer white women over black women. That's not to say black men and other men won't have sex with black women, but it's usually for sex only with no hint of a relationship. Black women live in denial even tho' the vast majority will never experience having a loving husband and legitimate children. The whole world knows this but black women will fly into rage if anyone suggests this. Black women will NOT accept the truth. Rather than work on their appearance, lose weight, practice hygiene (I have never heard anyone say black women smell good), become educated so they can carry on an intelligent conversation, they choose to stay the same. White women and women of other races work on improving their appearance and toning their physiques. They educate themselves about good hygiene, makeup, etc. and if they have an unpleasant odor about them, they will go to a doctor to find a cure for the odor. Black women in general have defensive, combative dispositions. The majority are loud and unlady-like. Many black girls physically fight, hit, punch, slap. Even black mothers do this to their children. All of those attributes and demonstrations are usually associated with male behavior and with men rather than women. Black women exhibit masculine traits. Because ALL males have egos, men in general prefer women of other races who have been taught to respect themselves, to be kind, to be feminine -- and all of those traits compliment the male ego rather than compete with it. No man wants to be married to a woman who looks, acts, talks and smells like a man. It's more a matter of what men, in general, need from a woman that they can't find in the average black woman.
I honestly don't know where this poor hygiene thing is coming from. Other than one of the comments on here I've never heard anyone say that black women have poor hygiene, but perhaps this idea comes from the fact that most of us don't wash our hair everyday. The reason for that is because we can afford not to wash our hair everyday because we don't produce as much sebum as other races, but just because many of us may not wash our hair everyday doesn't mean we don't bathe/shower everyday.
I agree that out of all other races black men do seem to go out of their race more, but you can't ignore the fact that the vast majority of black men still date/marry black women. So you're wrong about black men not wanting their own women. I've never seen this "Precious" but I think most non-white (not just black girls) girls have at some point wanted to be white because white women are the standard of beauty currently, and white women have it a lot easier than minority women.
So if a black girl gets angry it's a "ghetto rage"? Black women are definitely getting their educations and climbing the corperate ladder. There are more black women in higher education now than ever before. White women have no room to talk about black women being fat because they're not too far behind themselves. Americans are fat in general. On a global scale white women are fatter than black women. Personally I wear makeup but I think it's great that many black women do not wear makeup.
Men do not like women that wear a lot of makeup. Natural is always best.
Your answer just seems very extreme...I can't even properly reply to it because it makes absolutely no sense. I understand that many women (not just black) can be as you described in your answer but I seriously think that your opinion is biased. You obviously have a strong disdain for black women and black women only. You answer isn't very kind at all...so I guess that makes you masculine by your logic.
Honestly, I am speaking with all honesty here and I know this might come off as racist but...
the ones who really find black women undesirable, are many black men.
Black men, influenced by Kanye West, Snoop Dogg and other famous, influential black men have taken their influence and decided to discard even the most beautiful black women in favor of any white girl they can get their hands on, they see having a black girl with them as something to bring them down, while a white girl is meant to show that they're a "real man"
Personally I'm a white guy, I have pale skin, my hair shines blonde when in the sun but usually it looks brown, my eyes are a really light shade of blue and I LOVE black girls, when I see a black girl at the night club, I can barely keep my eyes off her, and when I might be confident while talking to an Asian or white girl, my knees get weak and I start stuttering when talking to a black girl.
Anyway, the only ones who willfully disregard black women and say black women are ugly are black MEN, us non-black men... either we think you're attractive or we don't, that all comes down to preference, we hold no animosity to you, the vast majority of us wouldn't join a forum just to call black girls ugly, if you're a nice girl, with a nice smile and a healthy body, you'll have white, asian, Indian etc... all kinds of guys clambering over each-other just to be with you, while black men are off chasing some overweight white girl.
Simply going to say this is very true.
awwwwwwwwwww :)
Unattractive?... I have known many black (and white women) in my time. When I went to school, I even dated a few ladies, who happened to be black. And I can tell you this: In our cruel world, there are some hard truths, and one of these is the whole race issue.
But as far as I am concerned, I never judge any person on this basis. If I liked a girl, it was because she was hot. I don't care if she was white, black or purple. I think race, unfortunately gets too much attention in our Society.
For instance, who Doesn't like Denzel? He's one of the greatest actors of our time. Yet, I can't stand some of these rapper-punks, because they are not gentleman.
What kinda guy can't admit that Ms. Beyonce Knowles isn't just delicious?! My God, I would give my right arm to share a pair of whiskeys with her...
On the other hand, Paris Hilton? Are you freakin' kidding me? The woman looks like she got hit in the ass with a shovel!
No, it's all about class, not skin color. I say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And I like to occasionally steal a glance or two at a healthy, sexy young black chick, when my wife isn't lookin...
I liked your answer and I agree with everything you said. It really made me smile.
Chin up, Ass up, you are (very) probably a beautiful woman... I would bet from your palaver, anyway. Don't let the whole Black & White issue plague your thoughts. Honestly, when you least thing it, perhaps when you least even want it, a MAN will walk up and express interest in you .
Very Well Spoken
And thank you, Mlle.
What is it about black girls that's so unattractive? I wouldn't know, as I am so hot for a lot black gals I know.
I do understand what this is all about though... When messing around on HotOrNot, I noticed that great looking black gals who would be an 8 or 9 in my books will tend to score a 6 or 7 (rated by predominately white male audience). There is definitely some difference between how my friends and I view the level of attractiveness for most black women. I see hot white gal, my friends see hot white gal. I see hot black gal, my friends are like, NO.
Far from holding my head up high as a white man and being uppity about the white race on how we have such high quality women among our ranks and high standards for the women we want to be with, I want to take this opportunity to call my friends out for being the morons they are. To me, it doesn't necessarily show they have great taste in gals by having the hots for women who are almost exclusively white (Asian occasionally), but it definitely shows they are missing out on a lot of great gals... Black gals!
Black ladies, many you are so very fine in my eyes.
LOL thanks for the compliment. I feel you on the friends thing. I've dated all races (white included) and my friends are cool and agree with how hot a guy is except when it comes to white guys. They say that they don't "prefer" white guys. I prefer a guy that is respectful, funny and cute no matter his color. :-)
Thanks for understanding. Well of course a lot of white men are holding their head up high because all races of guys like white women. The only difference is, white, asian and hispanic men will stand up for their women. Black men, not so much. I'm around asian guys a lot and they always defend asian women even though they know a lot of them prefer white guys.
I was listening to this guy on youtube and was saying that no one likes black women, not even black men. :(
actually, Asian guys will tell you that Asian girls prefer an attractive Asian guy over all white guys. they will tell you that the Asian girls who SAY they prefer white guys are the ones with low self-esteem who are bitter over how Asian guys don't find them attractive. this is one of the reasons why the Asian girls you see with white guys are noticeably lower quality than the ones with Asian guys.
oh, and they're also tell you that majority of Asian girls are unattractive anyways lol
I'm not black or white so I guess I'm qualified for this. I think physically, there's too much of everything, big nose, big ill shaped lips, dark eyes over black skin, the majority are overweight. And there's also the hair. Then there's the caracter, black women are often not educated, strong and all that. You can of course find the same thing in white people, but less. But If I had to choose between the average whitie and the average blacke, I would probably chose black as they are generally more loving and appreciative, wich is closer to my culture
@TheHusband As a guy, you're unqualified to tell girls what girls look for in guys. And what the fuck is wrong with you? You don't describe humans as "lower quality" or "higher quality", you piece of shit.
@Makellen what planet are you own makellen. As of 2016 black women are the most educated group of people in the us, including white men and women. The majority are not overweight, if you studied any medicine or science, moron, you will know that black women have bigger hips than white women. that is how anthropoligist and coroner's know if bones belong to a white or black person. Our hair is different but the same, soft , fine, thick or course as white people. I know white people with hair so nappy they have to perm it to comb it ( a lot). And finally our skin, which does not wrinkle nor age as white people are the envy of white women. I am 58 and look 40. donald jr. you are ignorant.
@pamelaj 😂😂😂😂😂 what planet are you on?
You forgot to mention most of you have all your hair when you're 90 because its fake... you sound just as racist and nasty as donald jr lol
I also wonder why you're more educated? I would like to see numbers of black women that went to school and had it paid for. Maybe with scholarships and students loans or having 500 kids and coasting through life with her hair done and nails compliments of tax payers.
I can't believe i read that trash out of a geriatric womans mouth... well educated doesn't mean anything when you talk like that... ignorance can carry a degree too!
@anonymous dont listen to pamela..
Those boys are just that boys! Also probably scared. How do you know they dont think the same about you? Maybe they think black girls only date black guys? Stop worrying about it and they come. Own being one of the few black girls 😆
Oh and I've seen black girls built like a white girl so i guess if they were murdered they would be confused as white? Get the fuck out of here...
So tired of hearing this shit.
You know pamelaj it is extremely funny how accuse them of sounding like Donald Trump jr., while you sound like Donald Trump himself, due to the fact that all you are doing right now is consistantly hating on black women. By the way you are also profiling based on race because I am extremely educated through my parents' money, and have never worn a weave or fake nails in my life, so do us all a favor and pipe yourself down, thank you.
Ugh I mean Punki2719 sorry pamelaj.
Are you kidding me? I am white male I grew up in a white area and had a lot of racial influence around me, However I always fancied a black girl on my estate I thought she was the most beautiful girl in the whole world. But I never dared approach her because of my friends were mostly prejudiced. However when I grew up and moved away I became my own person and now have a beautiful black African girlfriend. Maybe I am bias but I certainly think black girls and 10 times more beautiful that white girls. Ok so to prove my point... Google black girl and nearly every girl on the image search is beautiful. Now google white girl and the quality in beauty is like 40% less attractive. Now if you do the same search and put most beautiful black girl in the world. Then compare again to most beautiful white girl you can see that the difference is quality. You will always get a better quality pretty black girl than a pretty white girl. Not to mention the body. My opinion but I think I am right
I got sad when I see things like that, I always loved black girls, in my opinion, they are a hundred times most beatiful than white girls, not just because of the color of the skin, but in every trait, like the mouth, the hair, the body. But, when I'm with my friends and they see a black girl, if the see 10, they will say that nine are very ugly and the only one they said that isn't ugly, doesn't have a skin as dark as the others. When I was younger, I always used to see a beautiful black girl and share my opinion with my friends, but I didn't used to share cause if I do, my friends will laugh in my face. When I grew up, I have lost th shame, they can laugh as much as they want, I don't care. Happily, I started to talk about with my closest friends, and they have started to understand and be more acceptive with black girls and don't judge someone who think that they are beautiful.
Today, I'm happy with my girlfriend, she is black and she is the most beautiful girl in the world!
Ps: I'm from Brazil, and people here are more acceptive with black women, but just one kind of black women. To be here, be black and be beautiful, you need to have a standard appearance and this is ridiculous!!!
Here the samba in carnival is very popular, and the the women who dance in the samba schools are mostly black, this is cool, but the problem is that it have created a standard black women and if you are black and don't follow this standard, you're ugly. I can't explain this standard to you, but, I can try, to be black and be beautiful, you have to be tall, have a big and curly hair that isn't so "afro", if I can't say that way, and the most ridiculous one: Your skin can't be so dark as a African girl... This is RIDICULOUS!
My problem is that I think that a simple black girl from the favelas are more beautiful than the white girls of the TV and even more than the standard black ones, that's why my friends used to judge me.
@glowgirl3 I think it is because they are thicker and the females have more testosterone than other races. We all have a "type" and it's not about skin color, it's more about facial features. It's not a racial thing if it's our sexual urges that we have no control over. Homosexuals and pedophiles cannot control who they are attracted to and neither can non black males.
@565658854 When has Donald trump ever said anything racist against blacks?
@red5555 He hasn't. Most people here lack a high school degree though, it seems.
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