GOd, that's just like me, but when I talk I don't say mean stuff, but I have trouble meeting his eye whiling talking too.. well if she is like me, I would say she is way into you...> AND is also very selfconscious... she might think that you don't like her.. ok?
deff. overall she seems to be a hard read. I say with people like that you need to be straight forward. You might think that you are putttig her under pressure , but trust me if she can break away from being shy and tell you what is wrong then maybe she will open up a little more. I can tell by you saying that she talks more around u, that she is into u. But communication is key. You need to be asking her , "hey is it kewl if I come see you today." Some girls might get annoyed by tht constant trying to see her thing all the time. You should still go and see her and talk to her .. she seems a lot like me lol. and the fact that she is very open with things and to me when I do tht its because I want that person to get to know me and I want to feel like I have a bond with tht person. ( If that makes sense =) ) ... Time is deff. a virtue. so take it slow. I hope that I was a help.. if you need more help message me. good luck=)
i think that she it could be self confidence issues, or it might be that she may not be interested so she's coming off as distant and shy. like when I know a guy likes me but I don't like them(and don't wanna be rude) I noticed that I come off shy and weird. its either that or she likes you, has low self confidence and maybe has had guy trouble in her past...
you should do whatever feels right. however, if you really, really like her then continue to see her everyday and work on becoming friends. chances are she will slowly become less nervouse around you as she gets to know you better and feels secure. let her know that ur there for her and taht she can trust you.
I have an similar issue, this girl only talks to the other people in my group, when I say anything she doesn't look my direction, but she is listening because she will say something about what I just said. This girl used to talk to me like the rest until I told her I liked her. Then her behavior did a 180. Blocked me on fb for awhile then unblock then block again... strange, I can't figure it out
it sounds to me that she really likes you. I used to be the same around guys that I liked. I over analysed everything that I did, this was probably the opposite to what I should have done because I usually just ended up making a huge idiot of myself. lol. just try and make her feel as comfortable as possible around you. seeing her often may help with this because you become more familiar to her and she'll see you as a normal everyday part of her life.
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Whoa you cut her off by saying that, you two just met and you ask her out at that spot. That's too fast! Of course she will say no. Well, just take it slow then. If you two meet again never mention about hanging out with you anymore. Just wait a while like 2-3 weeks from now. Don't be overly friendly, you'll make her loose interest in you. Just be casual. Do you know is she's single?
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No, we knew each other for longer than a month. We've talked privately. She told she stuff about her family, and I told what I'm doing. She's moving because she doesn't like it here and I'm only living out here until September. But we still chat anyways. She'll look at me and smile and I do the same back. She asks what I'm buying.
I just felt I should ask her if she wanted to do something. I didn't at all expect her to say no.
Ask her directly why she doesn't wanna hang out with you... So when she said no, just ask like oh why not? I thought we're friends. If she says she's busy and all that and never can make the time for you, move on. It means she doesn't have interest in you. No matter how busy someone is, they should have free time for their friends like even only an hour in a month or two or a year, whatever the point is they can make the time if they thought you're important. It's not like you 2 live far rite?
I honestly thought she really liked it. She told me personal things about her life and her aspirations. Whatever, maybe she is just really flirty. All I did was ask, Would you like to do something with me and I got a flat out, No. I think I asked Why not and she just said no. All shed say is No. I don't think she's a flirty person, I don't know, maybe she is, she never appears to be very happy at work. We are within a few miles of each other. I'm not sure if she's single. But I think so, she works late hours. Hell, she tells me what time she gets off.
i think if you stop trying to talk with her for sometimes and see what will be her reflex action !...
but from what you are saying she doesn't try to make any moves or initiate a move by any means, she even doesn't show interest ...so you'd better move on or come straight to the point and tell her you like her and see what will be her response
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I kinda let her go for a little bit. Just not to let her see me too much. Its like she is even more intimidated by me but its kinda like she gives me extra attention without looking at me. Now, she doesn't really look at me like she used to but she makes extra comments to keep the conversation going. But we're always around people I can't seem to just get her by herself.
you have to make a move, so you'd either keep things going in the next step or you just stop trying to get the girl if she is not ready to be committed in a relationship with you !!
Could it be she's just nervous? Or playing hard to get? I really don't get it. After customers went through she was asking me questions about this and saying how she loves Dove chocolate.
Yeah it maybe true she is nervous but not trying to play hard to get this might be out of nervousness so she is ruining her chances and then like "ooooh, what is that hell I had done" and so she returned back to talk frankly to get things back right ....
No, all this talk was before I asked her. She was taking what I was buying and asking me questions about it (it was some fancy chocolates). She said she just prefers Doves. She loves them. Then I sprung that question on her. She just turned away like "Uhhh" and said "No". Didn't matter what I said afterwards. I was NOT expecting that answer. Then again I wasn't the smoothest so oh well. I asked if she was sure and she kind just shyed away. So I smiled and said allright and left.
Being flirty might be part of her personality and she is just trying to hide something that was rude towards you and things like that .....
and yeah start from now on to ignore her and so on and if you make any different with her be sure she will contact you to see what has happened and what is going on with you and why did you change, if she didn't do so then leave her and find someone who deserves you
In mu opinion she likes you and doesn't know what you say or how to act so she just talks about whatever. Poor thing she is probably trying to make herself more appealing by talking to you about things but doesn't realize what she is doing .
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Did you reads ome of the comments below? I asked if she wanted to do something sometime and she said, "no".
Sounds like she likes you but doesn't know what to do or how to approach it. She may be very shy or maybe you're not letting her know that you like her in return, so she's trying not to make it seem like she likes you.
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Well I asked her out, how much more obvious do I need to make it?
We were talking about the chocolates I was buying. She grabbed and asked what they were, I had to reach over and point what it was (she kinda does that with stuff I buy). But we never met formally so I introduced myself and said I didn't know her name (written on her name tag). I was nervous and kinda cut her off and asked if she wanted to do something with me. She immediately tuned away, kinda smiling/laughing and said "No". Definately didn't think she was saying flat no. I smiled said allright
Even I do the same when I like a guy, trying hard to be a different me. She being nervous in front of you means you mean more to her. Try giving your attention to some other girl you'll get all the answers.
It sounds like she likes you. Otherwise why would she be nervous?
However, it REALLY sounds like she's projecting this image of a "perfect guy" onto you and then gets mad when you don't fit into that mold. I would probably stay away.
Maybe she is nervous? I mean we are only human and maybe compulsion and criticism is her way of calming her nerves. I think that she may be a little insecure and that she may need you to tell her you like her a million times so that she can relax around her. If you like her you'll help her realize her worth. She is probably thinking why does he like me. You just can't quit on her because she is nervous.
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I don't think you read the comments below, I've been updating this post the last couple of days. I asked if she wanted to do something with me the other day and she said, "No".
Oh, well then maybe she likes flirting with you or rather practicing on you. Maybe you give her the time and attention she wants and then when you initiate something more she gets nervous and starts talking herself against you. Maybe she likes to flirt with you doesn't actually like you. It sounds mean but maybe she wouldn't deserve you anyway. There are plenty of other fish in the sea that you can't not ask out.
You aren't silly, you liked her. That is okay. Maybe she is silly for not liking you back. But then again it is her prerogative not to. But it was irresponsible of her to lead you on.
I was almost certain. I mean, she told me all this personal stuff about her, like moving, school.. I've known her about a month, said when she works. She always acts squirrelly around me. One of those "nice girls", kinda uncomfortable with herself. She's always asking about what I'm buying and why I buy it but with other customers she can't stand them. Sometimes she'll look me right in the eye and smile, I'd look back and smile. I didn't even notice her until she started asking me stuff
Like I said you might have a really agreeable disposition. You make her feel confident until things get serious and she realizes she can't handle that type of dialogue. Like she doesn't think about her actions before she acts. It isn't you it is her.
That's too bad, she isn't the kind of girl I go for but I really wanted to know her. Hope all those things she wanted works out. Maybe I thought she just needed a little boost in her confidence :)
So, do I just ignore her from now on? Like you wrote, "You just can't quit on her because she is nervous"
Continue to be the nice person you seem like. Try to develop a friendship with her so that you can help her with her self-esteem. You can continue to get to know her and she can perhaps grow to like you in the way that you possibly like her. If she doesn't and she sees you as a friend that is okay too. The key is not to be too pushy when it comes to dating her.
Well, I'm only living in this state until September (possibly December). She said she's moving in the fall, when I said that's too bad she corrected to say, well maybe winter. So I just feel rushed to get to know even a little bit about her as soon as possible. It would be just really great to talk to her outside of the store, something longer than 15 seconds to 2 minutes. So I had to ask if she wanted to do something (I thought a coffee shop would be nice).
I don't have much to buy (now that I think of it, I don't have much reason to go in there). Should I make obvious? Like go up to her counter and say, "I don't have anything to buy but I thought I'd see how you are?" (I've done this before and she's blushed).
You can say "Hey I was in the neighborhood and wanted to say hey" and then that will start the conversation leading you to say "A friend of mine told me about this really good coffee place and I have been meaning to go, If you aren't doing anything later would you like to come?" then when you notice her getting tense about being asked out you say "As friends of course, I just hate getting coffee by myself" or something silly like that. If you keep what you are say as unromantic as...
Well, what do I do about it? Do I still go to see her? I just wanted to be friends and see if we can do something, or at least know her outside of the store.
Well, I really don't have a lot to buy. Think it would be okay if I went up to her counter, just say "I don't have anything to buy, but I thought I'd see how you're doing?"
I've done that once. She told me about how she was up late reading a good book.
Try getting her number and texting her, or talking to her on facebook or whatever, she'll find it easier to talk to you and become more comfortable around you. Also try getting her when you're both on your own, she won't be so worried about what other people will think of her then
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Thanks. I asked her today. She commented on some chocolates and how she likes Dove. I asked if she wanted to do something and she kinda was taken back and was like "No" but I percieved as, "Definately no." I don't know?
I bet she has a big crush on you... but the thing is that she seems to be TERRIBLY SHY, which makes she act so weird around you. She likes you, but she is afraid that she will act stupid or sound stupid, so she ends up looking weird, cause she is too afraid of what you will think of her that she tries hard to don't do anything "stupid".
well its probably because she likes you and doesn't know how to react because she does like you.. or maybe she's just weird lol. maybe if she is acting weird maybe don't talk to her for a day or so and then see if she comes and talk's to you.. if she likes you she will come talk to you because she would be wondering why your not talking to her and then by her approching you she may not be so nervous cause she would already know what she is going to say.. just a segestion :) good luck bud
that girl sounds a lot like me...im really shy. to make her really want yo maybe try not really talk to her for a day then she will be thinking about you. It may not seem like she doesn't really like you but she probobly does. I'm the same way. I just don't know what to say to a guy. whatever you do font be a jerk. you may think its just flirting but its really a big turnoff.
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GOd, that's just like me, but when I talk I don't say mean stuff, but I have trouble meeting his eye whiling talking too.. well if she is like me, I would say she is way into you...> AND is also very selfconscious... she might think that you don't like her.. ok?
deff. overall she seems to be a hard read. I say with people like that you need to be straight forward. You might think that you are putttig her under pressure , but trust me if she can break away from being shy and tell you what is wrong then maybe she will open up a little more. I can tell by you saying that she talks more around u, that she is into u. But communication is key. You need to be asking her , "hey is it kewl if I come see you today." Some girls might get annoyed by tht constant trying to see her thing all the time. You should still go and see her and talk to her .. she seems a lot like me lol. and the fact that she is very open with things and to me when I do tht its because I want that person to get to know me and I want to feel like I have a bond with tht person. ( If that makes sense =) ) ... Time is deff. a virtue. so take it slow. I hope that I was a help.. if you need more help message me. good luck=)
i think that she it could be self confidence issues, or it might be that she may not be interested so she's coming off as distant and shy. like when I know a guy likes me but I don't like them(and don't wanna be rude) I noticed that I come off shy and weird. its either that or she likes you, has low self confidence and maybe has had guy trouble in her past...
you should do whatever feels right. however, if you really, really like her then continue to see her everyday and work on becoming friends. chances are she will slowly become less nervouse around you as she gets to know you better and feels secure. let her know that ur there for her and taht she can trust you.
I have an similar issue, this girl only talks to the other people in my group, when I say anything she doesn't look my direction, but she is listening because she will say something about what I just said. This girl used to talk to me like the rest until I told her I liked her. Then her behavior did a 180. Blocked me on fb for awhile then unblock then block again... strange, I can't figure it out
it sounds to me that she really likes you. I used to be the same around guys that I liked. I over analysed everything that I did, this was probably the opposite to what I should have done because I usually just ended up making a huge idiot of myself. lol. just try and make her feel as comfortable as possible around you. seeing her often may help with this because you become more familiar to her and she'll see you as a normal everyday part of her life.
Whoa you cut her off by saying that, you two just met and you ask her out at that spot. That's too fast! Of course she will say no. Well, just take it slow then. If you two meet again never mention about hanging out with you anymore. Just wait a while like 2-3 weeks from now. Don't be overly friendly, you'll make her loose interest in you. Just be casual. Do you know is she's single?
No, we knew each other for longer than a month. We've talked privately. She told she stuff about her family, and I told what I'm doing. She's moving because she doesn't like it here and I'm only living out here until September. But we still chat anyways. She'll look at me and smile and I do the same back. She asks what I'm buying.
I just felt I should ask her if she wanted to do something. I didn't at all expect her to say no.
There can be a lot of possibilities of why she behaves that way:
1) She doesn't wanna admit she likes you althou she might feel that way (she doubt herself for liking you)
2) She just have a little crush on you so it's not enough to bring to the next level so just staying friends will be best option
3) She does like you but she thought she's moving and you're moving, how you two gonna meet if something does happen between u2
4) She's a flirty person
Thee best thing is to ask her directly y
Ask her directly why she doesn't wanna hang out with you... So when she said no, just ask like oh why not? I thought we're friends. If she says she's busy and all that and never can make the time for you, move on. It means she doesn't have interest in you. No matter how busy someone is, they should have free time for their friends like even only an hour in a month or two or a year, whatever the point is they can make the time if they thought you're important. It's not like you 2 live far rite?
I honestly thought she really liked it. She told me personal things about her life and her aspirations. Whatever, maybe she is just really flirty. All I did was ask, Would you like to do something with me and I got a flat out, No. I think I asked Why not and she just said no. All shed say is No. I don't think she's a flirty person, I don't know, maybe she is, she never appears to be very happy at work. We are within a few miles of each other. I'm not sure if she's single. But I think so, she works late hours. Hell, she tells me what time she gets off.
i think if you stop trying to talk with her for sometimes and see what will be her reflex action !...
but from what you are saying she doesn't try to make any moves or initiate a move by any means, she even doesn't show interest ...so you'd better move on or come straight to the point and tell her you like her and see what will be her response
I kinda let her go for a little bit. Just not to let her see me too much. Its like she is even more intimidated by me but its kinda like she gives me extra attention without looking at me. Now, she doesn't really look at me like she used to but she makes extra comments to keep the conversation going. But we're always around people I can't seem to just get her by herself.
This is confusing !!.....
you have to make a move, so you'd either keep things going in the next step or you just stop trying to get the girl if she is not ready to be committed in a relationship with you !!
Thanks. I asked her today if she wanted to do something. She was taken back and said "no".
Then you just move on and never regret because she doesn't appreciate your love so she didn't deserve it ...
Could it be she's just nervous? Or playing hard to get? I really don't get it. After customers went through she was asking me questions about this and saying how she loves Dove chocolate.
Yeah it maybe true she is nervous but not trying to play hard to get this might be out of nervousness so she is ruining her chances and then like "ooooh, what is that hell I had done" and so she returned back to talk frankly to get things back right ....
No, all this talk was before I asked her. She was taking what I was buying and asking me questions about it (it was some fancy chocolates). She said she just prefers Doves. She loves them. Then I sprung that question on her. She just turned away like "Uhhh" and said "No". Didn't matter what I said afterwards. I was NOT expecting that answer. Then again I wasn't the smoothest so oh well. I asked if she was sure and she kind just shyed away. So I smiled and said allright and left.
Okaaay, I got it
then from my own point of view she has no interest in this relationship ......you have to move on and search for someone who cares for you
Okay, thanks. Why does she act kinda flirty and give me a bit more attention than others? Should I just avoid her from now on?
Being flirty might be part of her personality and she is just trying to hide something that was rude towards you and things like that .....
and yeah start from now on to ignore her and so on and if you make any different with her be sure she will contact you to see what has happened and what is going on with you and why did you change, if she didn't do so then leave her and find someone who deserves you
So I can't win her over?
In mu opinion she likes you and doesn't know what you say or how to act so she just talks about whatever. Poor thing she is probably trying to make herself more appealing by talking to you about things but doesn't realize what she is doing .
Did you reads ome of the comments below? I asked if she wanted to do something sometime and she said, "no".
Oh I sure didn't read that. Then maybe she is just a high energy type of girl who likes to talk. Need more detail
Sounds like she likes you but doesn't know what to do or how to approach it. She may be very shy or maybe you're not letting her know that you like her in return, so she's trying not to make it seem like she likes you.
Well I asked her out, how much more obvious do I need to make it?
Well maybe she doesn't like you. I can only guess what her deal is. What did she say when you asked her out?
We were talking about the chocolates I was buying. She grabbed and asked what they were, I had to reach over and point what it was (she kinda does that with stuff I buy). But we never met formally so I introduced myself and said I didn't know her name (written on her name tag). I was nervous and kinda cut her off and asked if she wanted to do something with me. She immediately tuned away, kinda smiling/laughing and said "No". Definately didn't think she was saying flat no. I smiled said allright
Even I do the same when I like a guy, trying hard to be a different me. She being nervous in front of you means you mean more to her. Try giving your attention to some other girl you'll get all the answers.
I can bet she thinks about you all day.
It sounds like she likes you. Otherwise why would she be nervous?
However, it REALLY sounds like she's projecting this image of a "perfect guy" onto you and then gets mad when you don't fit into that mold. I would probably stay away.
Maybe she is nervous? I mean we are only human and maybe compulsion and criticism is her way of calming her nerves. I think that she may be a little insecure and that she may need you to tell her you like her a million times so that she can relax around her. If you like her you'll help her realize her worth. She is probably thinking why does he like me. You just can't quit on her because she is nervous.
I don't think you read the comments below, I've been updating this post the last couple of days. I asked if she wanted to do something with me the other day and she said, "No".
Oh, well then maybe she likes flirting with you or rather practicing on you. Maybe you give her the time and attention she wants and then when you initiate something more she gets nervous and starts talking herself against you. Maybe she likes to flirt with you doesn't actually like you. It sounds mean but maybe she wouldn't deserve you anyway. There are plenty of other fish in the sea that you can't not ask out.
Yeah. I just liked her though. Oh well for me. I'm such a silly boy.
You aren't silly, you liked her. That is okay. Maybe she is silly for not liking you back. But then again it is her prerogative not to. But it was irresponsible of her to lead you on.
I was almost certain. I mean, she told me all this personal stuff about her, like moving, school.. I've known her about a month, said when she works. She always acts squirrelly around me. One of those "nice girls", kinda uncomfortable with herself. She's always asking about what I'm buying and why I buy it but with other customers she can't stand them. Sometimes she'll look me right in the eye and smile, I'd look back and smile. I didn't even notice her until she started asking me stuff
Like I said you might have a really agreeable disposition. You make her feel confident until things get serious and she realizes she can't handle that type of dialogue. Like she doesn't think about her actions before she acts. It isn't you it is her.
That's too bad, she isn't the kind of girl I go for but I really wanted to know her. Hope all those things she wanted works out. Maybe I thought she just needed a little boost in her confidence :)
So, do I just ignore her from now on? Like you wrote, "You just can't quit on her because she is nervous"
Continue to be the nice person you seem like. Try to develop a friendship with her so that you can help her with her self-esteem. You can continue to get to know her and she can perhaps grow to like you in the way that you possibly like her. If she doesn't and she sees you as a friend that is okay too. The key is not to be too pushy when it comes to dating her.
Well, I'm only living in this state until September (possibly December). She said she's moving in the fall, when I said that's too bad she corrected to say, well maybe winter. So I just feel rushed to get to know even a little bit about her as soon as possible. It would be just really great to talk to her outside of the store, something longer than 15 seconds to 2 minutes. So I had to ask if she wanted to do something (I thought a coffee shop would be nice).
I don't have much to buy (now that I think of it, I don't have much reason to go in there). Should I make obvious? Like go up to her counter and say, "I don't have anything to buy but I thought I'd see how you are?" (I've done this before and she's blushed).
You can say "Hey I was in the neighborhood and wanted to say hey" and then that will start the conversation leading you to say "A friend of mine told me about this really good coffee place and I have been meaning to go, If you aren't doing anything later would you like to come?" then when you notice her getting tense about being asked out you say "As friends of course, I just hate getting coffee by myself" or something silly like that. If you keep what you are say as unromantic as...
Im thinking she really likes you.
Not all girls are super flirty and easygoing around guys.
Some are more shy and nervous. I say keep trying to get to know her..she'll apreciate it.
I asked her out the other day and she said no. So, no means no right?
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It could, or it could mean she's still nervous or not looking for a relationship.
it might not mean she doesn't like you.
Well, what do I do about it? Do I still go to see her? I just wanted to be friends and see if we can do something, or at least know her outside of the store.
Keep showing interest, without looking needy or obbsessed
Well, I really don't have a lot to buy. Think it would be okay if I went up to her counter, just say "I don't have anything to buy, but I thought I'd see how you're doing?"
I've done that once. She told me about how she was up late reading a good book.
Thats good, cause she's not pushing you, and that's actually a very good thing to say, it lets her know that your considerate and caring.
Well, she knows how I feel now. So I don't want to come off as stalking.
I think she's just proper into you.
Try getting her number and texting her, or talking to her on facebook or whatever, she'll find it easier to talk to you and become more comfortable around you. Also try getting her when you're both on your own, she won't be so worried about what other people will think of her then
Thanks. I asked her today. She commented on some chocolates and how she likes Dove. I asked if she wanted to do something and she kinda was taken back and was like "No" but I percieved as, "Definately no." I don't know?
That's how I act... Yes, I know it sucks and in the name of all girls who do this, I'm sorry! ^^'
Of course, that's how I act when I have a crush on someone...
I bet she has a big crush on you... but the thing is that she seems to be TERRIBLY SHY, which makes she act so weird around you. She likes you, but she is afraid that she will act stupid or sound stupid, so she ends up looking weird, cause she is too afraid of what you will think of her that she tries hard to don't do anything "stupid".
She SURE likes you!
Haha! I bet she is just nervous. Don't compelety give up on her yet. :P
Maybe if you say something stupid or just be kinda' like loose then she will feel more like she can loosen up. :)
well its probably because she likes you and doesn't know how to react because she does like you.. or maybe she's just weird lol. maybe if she is acting weird maybe don't talk to her for a day or so and then see if she comes and talk's to you.. if she likes you she will come talk to you because she would be wondering why your not talking to her and then by her approching you she may not be so nervous cause she would already know what she is going to say.. just a segestion :) good luck bud
that girl sounds a lot like me...im really shy. to make her really want yo maybe try not really talk to her for a day then she will be thinking about you. It may not seem like she doesn't really like you but she probobly does. I'm the same way. I just don't know what to say to a guy. whatever you do font be a jerk. you may think its just flirting but its really a big turnoff.
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