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We don't always operate on pure reason and rationality. I think that's true of both sexes.For us men, a woman crying means there is something horrible is happening that we are meant to find a solution to and solve.This is, I think an exceptionally primal reaction for guys.It's so deep-rooted in our brains that there's no escaping it.We are meant to provide for a woman that will in turn provide for our offspring. We are meant also to care for our mate, whether we've had children yet or not. It's our identity as men.What makes us react the way we do when we witness a woman cry is, I'd imagine, similar to what women go through when they hear a baby cry.Except we are hard-wired to believe that an adult woman is crying for a very good reason (not just because a diaper needs changed, for example!).An adult woman crying is more rare than an infant or a child crying, so if it happens there must be a very serious reason for it.We essentially fall to pieces, and go into a "whatever is necessary to make this bad thing stop is what we must do, right now!" mode.I know for myself, I'm pretty much powerless against this impulse.That's what makes it so bad, and why we don't like it at all.At least I think so. If I try to make rational sense of it, I can't. So I figure it's all about the biology.
The majority of men don't enjoy to see women cry because of deep-rooted psychological reasons. It's built into the male brain to take care of females as the 'lesser sex'. This isn't meant to be a sexist comment, but women in history HAVE had a more difficult time surviving than some males because our bodies aren't built to endure as much. Men don't like to see women cry because they know it means they are upset. Men don't like when women are upset because they feel like it means the woman needs protection from whatever she's crying about. Men don't mind providing protection, and they feel like its their job the majority of the time, but they want the woman to be safe. So essentially, boys don't like when a girl cries because it makes them upset. It sometimes even scares them. The only men who enjoy it when girls cry are messed up in the head and have psychological issues, because they lack empathy.
Rather than "lesser sex," I'd suggest that we are hard wired to be "providers," insuring the woman has what she needs to see the next generation grow and eventually succeed. So we're also hard-wired, when we see a woman in any kind of "distress" which is evidenced by her crying, to "solve the problem." We're also hard wired to go into serious distress ourselves anytime a woman we are attached to shows any kind of distress. We may be able to rationalize what it actually means, but that doesn't do a thing to remove the distress we feel. It's a very basic, core reaction.
That would've been a better explanation, I think. At the time which I wrote this, I couldn't think of any better phrases to use. Thanks for your input, though.
It depends on what you mean by bad or "don't like it". "Bad" as in awkward, I-don't-know-what-to-do behavior? It's because guys are told to "be a man" and not show their feelings, which in turn makes a lot of them incapable of handling said feelings... even less when it's someone else who's feeling those feelings. So they don't know what to do, and when they don't know what to do, they start feeling bad. And as many have pointed out, guys like fixing things/people. When they're unable to do so, they feel bad.And, contrary to popular belief, lot's of men are very empathetic or sympathetic. Hence, your pain becomes their pain. Most guys want girls they know to be happy (as do most humans actually) so they hate to see them cry.All in all,
oops, something happened before I got to finish. All in all, men who react like that when you cry are often good people who care about your well-being.
We feel like we're supposed to fix it. Especially if we care about her.I'd also say that since men are taught not to cry, we tend to naturally assume that crying means things are very -very- bad. I've never seen any of my friends really sob, and they've only shed the odd tear in front of me when someone died. Literally.
We think a girl crying is something we need to fix. We're natural "fixers" always wanting to fix them. Crying isn't one of those things though, and we do it anyway
It makes many boys sad of course. Another thing to consider is that many guys probably don't know how to react when they see a girl cry unless he's very close to her.
When she cries, ill be the one embrace her. When she's sad, i'll be the one to hold on tight to her. my arms is freely to those who are in need. The only place to take away all her sadness is my luv and thats what needed to assured her and make her feel safe.
Guys feel inadequate when they know they can't solve the problem of the girl or protect her.
Well, no one sane wants to see anyone cry. I dom't want to see my dad crying when his father died last week.
Because well il with my husband it hurts him to see me cry just depends on how connected the two people are
I don't like to see anyone crying. Its just depressing.
Ugh! Look @ my things!
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