New friend has cancer?

[CupKate6]

So I've just started sixth form college, and I met this girl who I really get on with well, it's like we've known each other forever. But as soon as I saw her wearing a hat, I wondered if she might have cancer. She went to the hospital the second day of term, and on the third, I got up the courage and just asked if she had cancer. She seemed relieved that I'd brought it up to be honest! We talked about it a little bit too. I also have an illness called Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (a. k. a M. E) so it's quite "good" really, because she gets fatigue from the chemo, and I have it all the time, so we both know how to take it easy with each other. But she's due to have another round of chemo very soon, meaning I'll be left on my own at school (which I know is a bit of a selfish thought), so I wanted some tips on how to be there for her through that? I've suggested Skype and she agreed. Also, is it ok for me to ask questions about it? I want to know what type of cancer it is, but what if she doesn't want to talk about it? I like to think I'm better than most at dealing with illnesses because I've had mine for 3 years, but this is CANCER, right?

[jmr2191]

I have narcolepsy, so believe me, I understand chronic fatigue quite well. As for cancer, it's a brutal and unforgiving illness, but one of many- there are also over seven thousand rare diseases and most have no treatment or cure. Since they caught your friend's cancer not too long after it matastisized, it sounds like she'll pull through and it'll end up in remission. In addition, to narcolepsy, I have epilepsy, myoclonus, chronic headaches and a number of different immunodeficiencies. All someone who's going through a tough time medically is emotional support from his or her friends. Just because she's ill doesn't mean she's not happy, doesn't appreciate visits from friends or talking about the latest trends in fashion. Being strong and there for her emotionally is a huge thing. Never underestimate the power of the little things in life- remember, they may be some of the most important things you encounter throughout your life.

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

I don't think there's harm in asking. Like ask all your questions just once, one time and don't make her feel uncomfortable about it. If she doesn't want to talk about something then she doesn't want to talk about it and don't pry. Illness is a common thread to start from but you don't have the same illness so you still might not be speaking the same language so to say. Just remember, just because she has cancer it doesn't define her as a person.