One of my guy friends (who im kinda crushing on) smokes. I hate smoke of any kind and im trying to get him to stop. Its cigarets and pot. Help please?

[Anonymous]

He says its because of stress. He takes anxiety meds to help with stress, but he never likes to talk about what is troubling him. How can I get him to open up to me so he will tell me what is causing him to smoke.

[HyperOrphic]

Sorry honey, but YOU can't MAKE him stop. All you can do is tell him that you're worried about his health, and if says he doesn't care and he wants to continue, that's his choice and his right. You risk ruining your friendship AND your intimate chances if you start off immediately trying to change him. If it's something you don't like... sorry, you need a new guy then.

[Asker]

he's trying to stop just doesn't know how to start

[HyperOrphic]

Do some research on it WITH him then, and consider going to a doctor with him.

[Asker]

thanks:)

[9mfeo]

If he thinks you've got an agenda, he won't open up to you. Just try and get to know him better and he should open up when he feels comfortable.

[Morpheuss]

you can't make him stop if you are just his friend