Have you ever broken up with your girlfriend/boyfriend because you were too busy to have one?

[Anonymous]

For example, school, work, or school sports getting in the way

or did you use it as an excuse to not hurt your gf/bf

thanks. :)

[daygirl]

i have been the person that my boyfriend said we were both too busy for the relationship to work. and at first I sort of agreed but then it didn't make sense because if you love someone enough you should be able to make it work. and then I find out its because his feelings changed. and that he didn't plan to break up with me until a few days prior and then later I find out he wanted to do it like a month earlier and that he didn't want to break up with me earlier because I was already going through a lot of sh*t. and then he starts dating someone a month after he breaks up with me (we dated for a year and a half) and he tells me he started liking her when we broke up and promises me that's not why we broke up. so I'm lead to believe he doesn't no what he wants and I lost all respect for him. because I thought he was different than that. so "busy" is just an excuse. (sorry for my rambling)

[Asker]

No, its okay =].

I had a slutty ass ex girlfriend throw me that line so I can relate to you.

Hope everythings good with you now.

[daygirl]

It still hurts he sits beside me in one of my classes. and its the hardest thing to do is sit beside him and see him every day with his new gf. and the worst thing is , I asked him how he could be dating so soon and he's like I don't no I just am. he doesn't get what he's doing . it makes me feel like I was worthless to him and what we had together was nothing. but I'm slowly getting better I do have a new crush. so that's a start

[Asker]

That must be really hard! If I had to go through that I would go crazy.

Your not worthless. sometimes I think something is wrong with me, but honestly like you said he doesn't know what he wants.

If a guy doesn't like you back its screw you and then there's plenty of people out there.

[daygirl]

Thats so true. like I planned my whole g12 year with him, like I hoped wed go to prom together and all this stuff. like just before he broke up with me I bought him his xmas gift and then he broke up with me and I had to return it :( so like now I have no one to go to prom with. I hope some guy asks me especially the one I'm crushing on. but who knows. and you seem like a pretty decent guy .

[Anonymous]

I actually really did that but it wasn't just an excuse. I had a family member get really sick and I had to spend every weekend out of town taking care of them. So yeah, I was probably gonna break up with him sooner or later and never being around gave me a real reason, it wasn't an excuse so much as a bonus reason to get it over with already. If I had known ahead of time I wouldn't have even gone out with him so if the work load didn't change, it's probable just an excuse but it may not be in some cases.

[Anonymous]

People that say they are "too busy" are using that as an excuse to try and let the person down gently.

[Asker]

True.