I’m trying to improve myself so I’m not as quiet when I’m there, do you think getting in shape would help?
Most Helpful Girl
Even if you lose weight you might still feel insecure
But if you work on your mental health as well, you will build one strong body and mind
Most Helpful Guys
no, not in the long run. the way i see it, confidence and being talkative is different. yes you may or may not gain confidence from gaining muscles or losing weight at the gym depending on how you train. having confidence is like you have the balls to go up to people and ask questions, you're not afraid to try to do things that the average people would think it's impossible to do even if you know it'll be embarrassing if you fail and you become mentally stronger to never give up.
but being quiet and trying to become talkative is different. if by personality and your nature, you're not a very talkative person, then exercising, losing weight, or whatever isn't going to change anything. if you're just trying to be more talkative, you should be working on your communication skills, and learn how to do small talk instead.
so in the end, let's just say, even though you've gained confidence from exercising and losing weight. you now have the balls to go up to people now. but if you don't have the verbal skills to carry a conversation, then you'll just end up being quiet again and then there's going to be that awkward silence moment.
Gaining confidence includes being happy with who you are. If losing weight is the only thing then yes, you will gain confidence. But if there are more things in your life that you feel ashamed about, first ask yourself if it wrong to do these things, if not, then don't get rid of them, own it. Be your total self and be proud of it, only then will you gain true and permanent confidence.