Interesting. Every family is different.
I'm very sorry about the abuse you endured. I'm glad you were able to overcome it.
It happens, the key is to learn to adapt.
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I'm not saying you have to hug strangers. I'm referring to hugs in general, whether it's strangers or not.
I didn't say strangers - them I never hug. People I don't know well it's awkward. People I do, I like but not too often. There's a balance.
The reason why, is probably because I was abducted and brutalized as a child.
I'm very sorry to hear that.
Exactly - it's only weird if you make it weird. By the way, what's MDMA?
You know ecstasy/molly
Oh. I'd avoid that stuff if I were you. I've heard that stuff is dangerous.
Not really if used responsibly and in moderation it's pretty safe. In the UK they were only 3 overdoses from mdma. Most people who die from it is either from dehydration or mixing it with some other shit. Even then it was about 30 something people a year.
With false accusations being a possibility, it may make certain people hesitant to hug.
very true. i guess i never looked at it from that stand point. i have a habit of hugging people even when i first meet them (of course not in professional settings) and people have told me that it makes me come off as a happier/good person.
I'd rather be a happier person, like you. Feeling down can really hurt a person mentally. I think a lot of people have proven just that. I can understand those that don't want a hug from a creep/pervert. If I could wipe the creepiness/perversion off the face of this earth, I'd do it.
Be careful what phobias like Howard Hughes they we can become too much down the road
and y'all had boners :D
@Other_Tommy_Wiseau How would you know? Are you Aenetoo or his dad? I would guess no.
and how do you know he didn't? :P
Let's see... It was at his father's funeral. Wanna make fun of that? You're lowlifes.
I wasn't making fun of you, FYI.
Sorry. It was the other guy. I just kinda blew up. It was a special moment, between father and son. Actualy, my wife made me do it. She said, "Your dad needs a hug." I said, "Nobody hugs my dad." She looked at me and said, "Your dad needs a hug! And you're the one who's gonna do it!" Yikes! Talk about being trapped between a rock and a hard place! Nobody'd ever hugged my dad before. Uffda!
He did not hug me back. I don't think he knew how.
No worries. I've hugged my dad. I think people tend to forget that hugs are meant to show love and care for someone, even in a platonic way. Some people tend to see it as more of a romantic type of behavior.
Okay. That's understandable.
That definitely makes sense.
Nice one - the typo, I mean :D
That's why I included platonic hugs.
Exactly. It doesn't even necessarily need to be a hug. It could be a handshake.
Depends on the family. Some do, some don't.
Mine do when greeting like being picked up at the airport or at Christmas parties meeting other relatives
That's understandable. What about those that you do know?
Dont care honestly
You do realize hugs don't require strings to be attached, correct?
i do. i just dont get why i would hug some1 whos just a friend. why not just shake hands?
Shaking hands is just fine. The thing is that you can get more better mental health when you hug. That's assuming you or the other person isn't being creepy/"pervy" about it.
i have severe mental health issues. hugs aren't gonna fix that. a female friend hugs me when we meet even thou i told her not to. she's not being creepy just slightly invasive.
I didn't say they would cure it. I just said it would get better.
then i guess im a "no physical contact" type of person
How is it not awkward, if other people are around they're just gonna watch u two huge and do nothing and how exactly do each person's arms interlock, if one is taller then they have to reach down or hug just shoulders, and of course the age old question how long do u hold the hug, it gets more awkward the longer it is no matter what
Why would it matter if others see you hug? As for the arms, I typically forward myself towards the left and they do the same. That's typically how a hug goes. Granted, there can be varying kinds of hugs (hug just the shoulders and such). You can hug for as long as you both are comfortable. Then if one of you is done hugging, then you can let the other know. Say, "OK, I'm good". Or "I'm done now". Or you can tap on the person's shoulder. Some people get the hint then.
Your arms go around the back. If it's a bear hug link your hands and squeeze.
@MarketData "Your arms go around the back." That's part of the hug process. And not all people do bear hugs. Although, I could understand why they can be uncomfortable (when people are too tight).
Not even your parents or siblings or nieces/nephews?
Parents are a little to dead to hug me. Sibling? Nope. Nieces/nephews--if they are still children. Otherwise, nope. Just do not like being touched by humans.