I have been through this exact situation repeatedly
I will elaborate more later
but
For right now
don't treat him ANY differently just because he is sick
and that means, asking him more often if he needs anything, or how he is feeling or expressing your feelings..
and the way you let him know that you don't care that he has all these conditions is by showing him, not telling him
keep acting the same way as you have and let him figure out how HE wants to handle it..
I am sure he has lost friends many times through his health battles and most of it is due to the way someone treats him different, approaches with a sad face
OR
how bad he feels at times when he see's people in pain or upset because of HIS condition..
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You are so compassionate and nice. The fact that you show your there for him is more than enough. You don't need to do something extra, just have patience and be there. Also if he refrains from touching you, don't get upset. He is going through a lot. I wanted to ask you this question, are you sure about this? I don't want to sound mean or rude (forgive me if I do), but cancer is not a one time thing? If he gets better (I wish he does), there is no garauntee the tumor won't grow again? You have a whole life ahead of you -marriage, kids, and old age-, maybe these feelings are sympathy. I hope I helped :-)
this is one of those times when I d say its OK to be annoying and nosy and head butt your way (not literally lol) into his business.
i haven't had cancer but I ve been sick for long periods of time, there were times when I felt so lonely and isolated, and really needed help but I didn't want to ask because I didn't want to impose myself or be a burden on anyone...and very few people reach out by themselves because no one knows what to do in these situations.
having been through that, if I saw a friend suffering similarly, I would definitely make it my business to reach out to them, even if I had to be annoying and pushy to get through to them.
I don't really know any advice for you but I am so impressed by you. You seem like such a beautiful person.
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I've have a friend that dealt cancer. ( Male friend (no, I don't get down like that!))
My mother also died of a terminal disease.
Don't push. Being a companion probably means A LOT to him. His emotions are probably very fried. Just imagine having to face your mortality on a daily basis. Perhaps tell him, "I just want you to know, I'm here, don't feel alone. and if you do, you know I'll be there to keep you company"
We can only scratch the surface of those that have to live with the thought of dying every day.
I'm positive, he appreciates you more than you can imagine.
I hope he gets better, for the both of you. :-)Maybe it's a pride thing. Maybe he likes you and he doesn't want you to just like him out of sympathy. Maybe he wants you to think of him as a normal guy and not just as (excuse me using this word, but it best defines it) a cripple. I'm not at all saying you make him think this way, I just think maybe he does.
well... just be his very good friend... don't show sympathy or pity or make facial expressions as if he is going to drop dead just this moment. be as normal as possible... and as far as relationship is concerned..let him define its pace...
tell him, straight out. "I care about you a lot, and I'll always be here for you. You're conditions don't change my feelings for you." or something along those lines.
Talk with him, let him know that you are there for him, it may seem to simple but it is often the best way. Maybe he says that it's nothing but maybe he will need to talk tomorrow or in a week. Be there ^^
I would make a point and do it to him. Put your arms around him, grab his hand, etc. If he makes an issue of it, then ask him why and explain to him how you feel.
Well,I'm sorta in the same situation. Except we don't know anything yet-still waiting on test results. Sucky thing is-she lives 1,000 miles away so all I can do is pray for her.
i would talk to him. if you like him make sure he knows that. you need t sit him down and talk about it.
Just carry on like normal but let him know how you feel
i think you need to just leave him be for now about his medical injuries. just be there for him in other ways and let him open up to you
Let him know that you are going to be there help him and you're not going anywhere.
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he has it righttalk to him and tell him positive things :)
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