What if you have done everything to try and loose weight and nothing works should I just live with my body?

[Anonymous]

I did weight watchers for months and only dropped 15 pounds then stopped losing. I am considered obese for my high even though I don't look it. My ex said I was fat so I was working hard to try to get the weight off watching what I ate and going hard at the gym. My body gives me such a hard time loosing weight unless I starve myself which is very hard because I'm always hungry. I am only 4'9 it sucks and I'm so depressed about my weight. Should I just live with my weight and let guys call me fat and think I'm ugly.

[TheDigitalSaint]

Your first step is to understand that there are many factors that are at play when it comes to weight other than food. Genetics, level of exercise, age, sleep habits and so forth will all play a role.

Here are some suggestions if you haven't done so already:

- See a doctor. Have him run a blood test on you to see if you have any deficiencies. Also, have them check your hormone levels to make sure your body isn't producing an abnormal level of testosterone or estrogen, both of which can throw off your weight. If you do have a hormonal issue, I really recommend Nature's Way DIM supplements, as they can help you regulate them, which sometimes leads to weight loss.

- When the body becomes overweight, it always wants larger portions of food to maintain what fat you already have. The stomach literally becomes larger. Talk with your doctor about whether or not he thinks that might be a good option for you to try a laparoscopic adjustable gastric band to curtail your stomach. This can help you get your appetite in check such that you can eat less without feeling hungry all the time.

- At 4'9", you're a small girl. Loosing weight is hard with such a small frame because it isn't likely you have much muscle overall, and muscle helps burn fat. Have you been doing some weight lifting at the gym? In addition to cardio, get in some resistance training to build up your muscles a bit. Also, try mixing up your workouts. If you've been doing the same routine for a while, the body refuses to often lose more weight. Keep mixing it up, join a group fitness class or talk with a personal trainer for more ideas and emotional support.

- I encourage all women who are overweight to avoid dating. Men that are secure and stable themselves prefer a girl who is of average weight. More often than not, guys that hit on girls who are overweight are very insecure and sometimes even abusive themselves. You don't need that while you're trying to lose weight. If you have a male friend, fine. If you have female friends who are making a serious effort about their own health, great too. Avoid other overweight people that are making bad lifestyle choices, as they can take a physical and emotional toll on you.

- Last but not least, keep getting second opinions. You're still a fairly young woman. Now will be the easiest time of your life to lose the weight and will be much harder when you're older. Healthier people are happier people and you owe it to yourself to be happy for many years to come.

Good luck!

[Asker]

I have had many tests and my parents even took me to some of the most expensive doctors in the country they said that there was nothing wrong with me. I go to the gym every day for over an hour and try to burn 500 cal and my brother helps me lift weights which also did not help. I eat a balanced diet and like I said I did weight watchers which did not do the trick. The doctors also said I'm not big enough for lipo or anything like that. Well I am what can I do I derseve to fall in love too

[TheDigitalSaint]

They've done hormonal test as well? Thyroid tests? I'm not a specialist on this matter, but when you have a medical issue that is proving troublesome to tackle, you can't get enough second opinions. It just seems really odd that they haven't been able to pinpoint the problem more. If your caloric intake is less than what you're burning, you might not starve completely, but you will be very hungry.

[Asker]

Ya those were the tests they did. The only way I saw a bit of weight come off was when I ate nothing for days and that's just something I can't do.

[TheDigitalSaint]

I'm truly at a loss as to what it could be. My only remaining advice to you would be to continue to see new doctors to find someone who has a radical idea or treatment that can help you. I'm sorry I couldn't be more help.

[Asker]

Its OK its just nice to talk to someone about it. Thanks.

[TheDigitalSaint]

Glad to lend a ear and good luck, don't give up seeking help!

[xzinax2]

if you're gonna feel miserable about it,then no,of course not. and no,you shouldn't starve either. you just need to try harder. only eat healthy foods,don't try fad diets,go for a lifestyle change-go vegan,use very little oil,salt and sugar-but cook,you need to make your food delicious so you don't get cravings for pizza and crap like that. and of course-only drink water (or unsweetened fresh juice). and eat smaller meals,don't binge on anything,even fruit-it has a lot of sugar. and exercise every day,if you feel sore-don't work those muscles,switch to another muscle group,but don't just lay around. don't quit at any point,even if you're at a plateau stage-don't quit,it'll become a lifestyle soon enough. if you don't lose weight after a year-see a doctor,but you did lose 15 pounds so it's probably just a matter of quitting. and remember link 15 is something

[Asker]

You don't know how good I eat its funny how everyone tells me try harder all I eat is fruit and veggies I go to the gym hardcore every day for over an hour. I already saw a doctor and they said there is nothing wrong actually my parents took me to a team of doctors because they thought something was up because I can only loose weight if I go without food for over 2 days.

[xzinax2]

don't do that-starving isn't an option. don't quit on your diet and workouts-keep all that,if you can't change-accept your body,but keep it healthy,don't just go ''i'm fat so I might as well eat a whole cake''. even if you don't lose weight-at least you're healthy

[ImperfectDVM]

Your Ex sounds mean.

You lose weight for YOU! Not him! You are fine the way you are if YOU'RE happy!

This reminds me of my first ex! He was very abusive and mean.

Some words of advice, live YOUR life!

By what standards are you finding yourself ugly anyway!?

[Asker]

Well I was trying to loose weight before he came alone and in the process he liked putting me down.

[ImperfectDVM]

Are you two still together?

[Asker]

No we are just friends now.

[ImperfectDVM]

Whew ... good shot!

[Asker]

Its more like me making sure he does not do anything bad to himself.

[ImperfectDVM]

= ( Awe ... is he okay?

[Asker]

Very depressed :(

[ImperfectDVM]

IS because you two broke up?

I think it's cool you care, even though you two have been through a lot. = )

[Asker]

Oh no its for many reasons mostly stupid ones like he can't find a hot girl to have sex with. Ya I try to care about people now I just need to find a guy who cares about me.

[ImperfectDVM]

Oh, I believe you will. Times like these, teasing and flirting are fun.

[bosox188]

If you eat healthy and exercise regularly nothing more can be expected of you, don't be too hard on yourself. There will be plenty of guys out there who like you for who you are, don't beat yourself up because your ex was a d*** to you.