I just need some words of encouragement.

[Anonymous]

So I know most people here won't care that I'm down and feel like crying my eyes out, but hopefully someone will. I don't have anyone to talk to... So I came here.

Today as I was chasing a girl down trying to catch her so I could talk to her I didn't catch her. Watched her get in her car and drive away. She's in one of my classes and every night I pray she will sit somewhere close so I can talk to her. Sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn't. When we do talk we always have a good time. I was so mad I didn't catch her in time.

I finally realized I have to stop sitting around hoping for something to happen and actually do SOMETHING! The thing is, I feel like I'm going to come off as creepy if I sit next to her all the time and start talking to her a lo more than I have been. Is it just in my head or would that be creepy?

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I guess I should have mentioned, that situation isnb why I feel like crying. I feel like crying because I have no one to talk to and no one that believes in me. I've been dealing with it for years and I guess tonight it just hurts more than usual for some reason

[MissAM]

You are not alone. Everyone gets lonely. There are times when there is no one available that we can talk to. It happens but don't let it get you down. You will be okay. :-)

For me writing it out helps the most if I can't talk to anyone for whatever reason...

It's not creepy to like someone or enjoy thier company and want to talk to them. It might seem unusual if you don't interact with people very much or at all but it isn't. If she seems happy to see you (great sign) and talks with you; talk more. It won't hurt anything.

Don't follow her or anything wild like that and you will not come off as creepy!

Good luck mr.

[tropicshade]

If there is something deeper bothering you, you should talk to someone you can trust like a cousin or a counsellor. If you feel uncomfortable with yourself, make it a priority to work on those issues. You cannot expect people to feel comfortable around you if you don't feel comfortable with yourself. Once you raise your mood you'll be more confident and talking to girls will much easier. Join a club or N activity you like, it will help build you up and get you to socialise. Remember you are young and life can only get better because its just getting started! Wish you luck x

[BCRanger10]

Something I've learned is that some of these fears are totally ungrounded. I've learned that the hard way more than once. If she enjoys hanging out with you, you don't really have much reason to assume she'd be creeped by you sitting by her in class. If it helps, ask her if she minds if you sit with her next time you have class together.

[VAgirl]

well, first off, since you talk to her and she seems to enjoy your conversations, it won't seem creepy, I would be flattered actually that you are making an effort. and I think right now, you should focus on finding friedns, get involved and social. you probably feel like this, since it doesn't sound like you're a party out-going guy, you have emotions for someone and its the only thing you have. trust me, I'm very much the same way, when I get the slightest feelings for someone, I go in deep and lose my since of thinking. but if you ever need support or people to talk too, there are many people here who genuinly want to help, including me :) and hopefully, you can find those people in real life.

[PlayFair]

Why do you feel like crying your eyes out over a girl? That you hardly know? Don't let her mean so much to you already. Your setting yourself up for heartbreak. How do you even know you like her if you have never even talked to her? Maybe you should try to get to know her first and see where it goes from there.

[Asker]

Sorry, that was unrelated. I felt like crying for a different reason. And I do know this girl and have talked to her before. I'm not that crazy...

[PlayFair]

If you know her well enough to know you like her (not just physical attraction), than why would she be uncomfortable with you sitting next to her? If she catches syou following her though you mightstart to creep her out. just sit down and talk to her, you might end up looking like a bigger weirdo by being nervous.

[Asker]

I don think she'd be uncomfortable with it. I just meant I don't want to start coming off too strong by ALWAYS sitting next her and talking to her every chance I get. Wouldn't that be kind of creepy? I don't really know. I haven't had much to do with people throughout my life.

[PlayFair]

How old are you? You haven't had much social interaction?

[Asker]

Almost 19. And nope.

[3xotica]

No its not creepy at all. We want guys to go out of there zone for us,makes us feel special. ;) talk to her more, figure her out get to know each other more,then invite her to eat or something...If it happens GREAT if it doesn't, don't beat yourself up for it.

[CatholicVirginia]

I'm sorry you're feeling so down. We all go through those times.

With her, if you try TOO hard, then yes, you will be creepy. Being friendly will not be creepy, but you sound a bit like you're obsessed. You pray every night that she'll sit by you? Take a step back. She's not the only girl in the world, and probably not even the best. Have a more casual approach.

[omgwtflol]

You should sit next to her, I wouldn't think it was creepy if a guy did that to me, especially if we have a good time talking.

[Anonymous]

Yea.. ihave the same problem. Why don't they believe in you. And what do you wish they understood?

[Asker]

I don't know why. My family never has believed in me. Never given them a reason not to. I always finish what I start and do what I say. They just like puttin me down I guess.

[Opinion Owner]

Have you thought of what they are saying and honestly looked at yourself and examined who you are? Are they right? in some ways? I think our families usually want what's best for us. I wan tto believe most families mean well. But they are judging you from their lives, their minds, their thinking. Only you know what is in your heart and in your head. Most people don't have the patience to figure out what is in you, to understand. Maybe they don't understand you, but don't be upset.

[Asker]

Yes I have. I think I've pretty much picked myself apart trying to see what they mean, but I don't see it. Maybe they do mean well, doesn't feel like it though.

[Opinion Owner]

It will never feel like they mean well, until you believe they mean well. If it gets bad, do what I do. Stay away and repeat in your head 'they mean well, they just don't understand me'. I'm an adult now and do not need their approval. What would help you to feel like they believe in you?

[Asker]

For them to at least act like it. They don't even act like they want me around.

[Opinion Owner]

Just believe in yourself. Keep doing what you do, whether they believe you or not. Don't let criticism discourage you. Be a motivating person and try to not criticize other people. Just keep on keeping. everything will be okay.