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Personally I wouldn't date a girl who is overweight. I'm a fitness freak and our lifestyles would clash. I would however encourage her to live healthier and get her weight healthy. It's as much as a health problem as it is an attraction problem for me.
I see. You cannot force attraction obviously, but as for the lifestyles clashing...you are probably right when it comes to overweight girls not wanting to lose weight. However, I've turned into a health & fitness freak, but am still overweight. So aside from his personality what I'd look for in a boyfriend is someone just as interested in health and fitness. And that's the problem. Guys into that (like you) are not attracted to overweight girls even if they're working on it. Thx 4 commenting :).
That may be true for most. It's possible to reach any fitness goal in time. Best of luck!
Thank you.
Good progress keep at it!
I absolutely will.
Oh man there are such hypocrites out there! Fat girls all put out easier than slim girls - from my own experience! Whether it is from low self esteem and the fact that a guy is actually interested in them. Or whether my theory that a girls appetite for sex is directly proportionate to her appetite for sex is true?
There are fat girls that put out easier. YES. - ALL of them? NO. Definitely not. Same goes for getting a boyfriend. I'd rather stay single for eternity than let myself be okay with someone just because he happenes to not have a problem with my weight. Thx for sharing your opinion!
Depends on the guy, really. All girls are looking for the prince charming or alpha male, whatever you want to call it. That guy comes along, pants come off.
We can say there are exceptions, but the majority will get their freak on with mr.right, right away.
But Mr Right / Prince Charming is definitely not the first guy to pay attention to a "fat girl" :D...PROBABLY not.
don't do it, even if you don't care what people think, it has bad effects on your self-esteem, plus you are also damaging her by lying to her, you don't want to be with someone unattractive neither she wants someone who is faking his attraction to her. It is an insecure act and it is foolish.
Can you fake an attraction? Hmmm...I don't think so. I DO think that the overweight girl can choose to overlook the fact that the guy is NOT attracted to her even though he tells her he is. I couldn't do that. No way. But when I say "would you date an overweight girl" I mean "could you be attracted to an overweight girl". Thx for answering! :)
yeah, just tell her you like her and be physical, you may even get use to it, but deep inside you know you don't like her at all and that you are doing this just because you want to escape your insecurities, which is absurd since you are just making yourself more insecure after doing something like that
Being the overweight girl that I am I would never ever want a guy to pretend. I'd prefer for him to tell me how it is; even if it's "sorry. no way that's gonna happen. you are too fat". But that said, there are a lot of overweight girls who want a boyfriend / want to date so badly that they don't even care if the guy is not really into them.
Yeah, that's what I said. Except that there are skinny good looking girls that also don't care if the guy is lying, so is not an overweight girls exclusive.
Agreed. :)
I wouldn't mind, I work out often but even I have body fat, and to me, a girl who has the right attitude, and a nice personality would make you blind to what's skin deep, she would demand you looked deeper and found what she was all about, and by then, you really wouldn't care how big she was, youve seen enough to want to know more already,x
"Right attitude"--> I was really hoping for someone to mention that. Even though I'm still overweight I have the drive and motivation to live healthy and to do something about my weight issue. I just wonder if guys notice the difference between an overweight girl that doesn't really care about losing weight and an overweight girl that's trying to change things or already IS living healthier, working to lose the weight. - Thx for answering!
your welcome, good luck with your weight, you sound determined, and remember, you migh5t not always see results, due to the fact that your the one who sees yourself the most, but others will, and so will the jeans you used to wear, so soak up the comments when people say, "your looking good" because sometimes you just won't see it, but remember, its slow, but its happening, x
Thank you so much. You are absolutely right. It IS happening & I've got an amazing support system. Friends and fam who tell me what I don't always see myself. :-)
Also remember, you girls are often harsh on yourselves, and often, what you regard as fat or over weight, guys often regard as perfect, and with the support you express, your going to get quite a few comments on how good you look, good luck,x
i have but now I wouldnt. id prefer girls that are healthy and look after their bodies. as long as I knew she was seriously trying to get healthy again id date her. as I've had weight problems as well. congrats on the good work keep it up. I was about 255 last year iam 192 right now. I still got some work to do but I feel great. it really is an uphill battle but its worth it for the end result
I completely understand. Sometimes I wonder if I will have the exact same opinion once I reach my normal weight / my goal. Thx for sharing your thoughts on this.
good work I'm down to about 175 now, first thought that comes into my head when really big people buy from McDonald's is that they really don't need it/ shouldn't be buying that crap but hey I don't think anybody should eat McDonald's the food is absolute sh*t. but its not my body that's being ruined, eat away is what I think
Good work! Congrats on your loss. - About the McDonald's thing: I hear you. I've just become more demanding of myself and others it seems (*McDonald's? Really?*). Second thought however: *Your life. Not my business.*
First off, good work. Personally, I think women who are too skinny are not attractive looking and I find slightly over weight far more attractive. Wayy overweight or obese, well that's a different story.
Got ya. There definitely is a difference. The more weight I lose the more I realize that myself. I feel much better and more confident about putting myself out there (flirting, dating...) even though I'm still overweight. Overweight = 250+ vs. overweight at 170 does make a difference. Thx for sharing your thoughts on this.
Exactly but don't over do. Some women over do it and look unhealthy like a holocaust survivor. Its dangerous to do that and its not attractive at all at least to me. Just go for average weight. Even some women who are overweight can still look heavy.
Weight is just a number to me, and frankly I am very attracted to girls that are modestly chubby. If you look good despite your weight, respect yourself and make sure it doesn't affect your health I'd date someone like you no question xD
Great attitude! From my perspective, aside from not wanting to be overweight for much longer, I really never wanted to be the overweight sloppy looking girl. I want & still am the overweight girl that's taking care of her appearance. So it's nice to read that guys do appreciate that instead of only looking at it the "either you are overweight or not"-way.
Likewise xD that attitude of yours already makes you datable IMO ;)
Thanks lol :)
Your weight wouldn't stop me from starting a friendship. If over time I see you're still making really good progress towards becoming a healthier you I'd open myself up to the possibility of dating you.
That's really great you're making such good progress. Keep it up and I know you'll see the woman you want to be in the mirror one day!
I already see the woman, otherwise I'd be depressed lol. But I know what you mean. :-) Soon I'll see the woman with the ideal weight I want to have in the mirror. Thanks for answering!
I think I'm done dating over-weight girls. I've dated two or three, and they're always so insecure and mistrusting that I end up breaking up with them. I'm tired of having my motives questioned. I'm tired of walking on egg-shells around insecurities I do nothing by try to sooth. I'm tired of being treated like garbage. Over-weight girls are very unappreciative and hostile beings in my experience. No desire to date that.
That's really sad. That you've had such bad experiences, that is. Sorry to hear.
ive dated both ends of the spectrum and have have seen some bbw that look good (personal limit is 210 from my experiences).
But its all in how she presents herself (being confident and dressing well), if you're big and can make it look good you shouldn't have to many problems but if you're out there lookin sloppy to us (looking like the people of walmart photos) then yeah the issues abounds.
Definitely. I mean overweight girls often tell you "I feel good; I don't need to lose weight to be confident". Truth is they don't feel good about themselves, but that doesn't mean they need to run around looking sloppy. Even when I still had 250+ I always took care of my appearance...still do. Dealbreaker! Thx for answering. :D
It depends more on the kind of person she is, and how she makes me feel. Overweight girls tend to be nicer generally -- less proud, and more accomodating!
(Btw, when we were much younger, there was this extremely plump girl working in office with us. A lot of us guys would fantasize about having sex with her. It seemed hot to us :-) She was a nice person too.)...
Run ...and fast lol! I'm not accomodating at all. Kidding! Just kidding. :)
I get what you mean. Cute office story! Did she know what was going on?
I don't think she guessed! She was friendly in a very nice way. We were perhaps too shy to take things forward then :-) But maybe she was smarter than we thought!
Too funny. And by the way kudos for your word choice: #plump :)
I would date an overweight girl only if she's willing to continue staying healthy and losing weight. Personally, I'm a skinny guy but I've been hitting the gym for a while and quite willing to look healthy and decent so it would be nice if I found a girl like that.
Honestly, I prefer "bigger" girls:) I used the quotes since they aren't that big to me. And especially since you are trying to lose it! That takes a lot. You aren't fat at all. I think fat is a state of mind. ANYONE can be fat but it takes extra energy to lose the weight. I won't say something like "you're beautiful no matter what" (Too generic) but you are taking charge of how you look, and I would date you.
"State of mind" = VERY well put. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts!
Yeeeep! Glad to help!
I would if she was fun to hang out with and I enjoyed her personality. I'd support her if she wanted to lose weight of course but I wouldn't really ask for it unless it was too much.(your weight last year was too much, this year's I'd be fine with).
I find attractiveness in all women but I'd want her to be healthy, not too fat and not too thin.
More than just a reasonable request...for her to be healthy I mean. Dating-wise: I'm sure lots of guys would prefer to date a skinny girl (or not overweight) that's eating junk instead of an overweight girl (living healthy; in the process of losing weight) though.
And they'd live to regret the decision;)
The healthy girl will be much nicer to have around due to feeling good about herself and her body working fine. Plus a girl who knows you stand by her no matter is bound to treat you better in the end.
Absolutely. I agree. Give and take. Support is so important!
Keep up the good Work an do it, for yourself. If you do things just for the Opposite Sex request. Than you might end up having regrets.
Good Luck in your Future of Dating an Loving but Mostly be Happy & Enjoy yourself.
I would never do it for anyone BUT myself. I agree with you and I'd even go as far as to say that IF I had done it for the guys...I would not have come this far. Thanks for the encouragement and words of advice. :-)
First of all, congrats on the accomplishment! Secondly, no chance I would date a fat chick. I realize that you should look at what's on the inside but no matter what, I still have to bring a girl home that won't make my parents laugh at me.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this.
its all about the preference of the guys. Fat, Thick, Skinny or Petite Doesn't really matter, I just hate Lazy Ass Girls, regardless of her weight.
Good point. There's overweight & lazy + overweight & active. Thx for commenting.
Way to go tcnc, loosing that much weight.
Personally I like girls that are a little bigger but 115 kilos is probably a bit too big even for me. 77 kilos sounds like a good weight though, I bet I would find you hot the way you look now.
Thanks! 77 kg is not that bad considering what I had before, but you also have to consider my height at only 5'2-->160cm. And as for finding someone that likes me and doesn't have a problem with my weight...I have to like him as well (personality-wise; I'm not picky about weight, but I AM picky about appearance as in taking care of yourself even if you are overweight). That's probably what makes it so hard for me to find someone.
You still don't sound too heavy, for me that is. Most guys seem to go for skinnier girls than I do.
Nice of you to say! :)
It's all preference some guys like skinny girls others like realistic girls others like overweight girls. My preference is bigger girls. It's all in how you feel about yourself and not what anyone else thinks. I am glad that you are doing what makes you happy and not everyone else keep up the good work. Good luck in finding your Mr right.
Thank you! He will come along I'm sure. But even though I'm losing all the weight just for myself and my own happiness; the "would a guy date an overweight girl" question is something I think about...simply because I know how hard it is to find someone. However, you are right...it's not about what anyone else thinks. :)
Sorry, I prefer average weight girls. I don't want to constantly talk about food, losing weight, how to exercise, and how they lost a couple pounds today. In short...hypochondriacs. I'd like to give her piggyback rides and throw her on the bed.
That would drive me crazy as well. One can take counting calories too far. I'm not one of them.
To be honest, what you said about piggyback rides and throwing her on the bed...is actually a good reason I can absolutely understand.