How intimidated do guys really get?

[Anonymous]

because I know of guys that have liked me but never really did anything about it. I didn't like them though so I didn't care.

the thing is I've only ever gotten creepy guys talking to me, obviously for one reason, while the nice guys just talk to me as normal but never ask me out in any way. the guy I like now I feel like he might like me because of eye contact, remembering things, using my name, and definitely pointing towards me. but he never really talks to me outside of when I see him.

I feel like/hoping maybe he's just unsure about me? I think maybe guys just don't know about me because I'm a little shy. Not that I can't talk, I just won't approach someone first. I'm friendly I can make eye contact I smile a lot... also I guess people usually think I'm smart (I'm really just average haha) and I think I'm pretty nice looking? I'm thin but curvy, long hair, blahblahblah.

so maybe sometimes guys might think I have a boyfriend because I'm not outgoing but I know the guy I like can look on Facebook and see I obviously don't. Also I'm kind of nervous to be more obvious that I like someone because no one has ever really liked me back...

I don't know I'm lost.

[blackkid2]

I wouldn't consider it "intimidation". First and foremost just as part of the human element it is really hard to walk up to someone you don't really know and confess your romantic / sexual interest in them period. I don't think it has anything to do with your specific traits per se just the fact that everyone is young so everyone is inexperienced and the damage of rejection is far greater when you're young because honestly you're a total emotional wreck one way or the other in some department.

That said this problem clears itself up as you go on and furthermore you need not put too much effort into this particular subject because in part it changes as time and experience flow so what is rough for three men today will be easy for two of them within the decade. Your drawing attention is natural as most people draw some form of attention over the course of their lives regardless of how they look and there probably is no assumption you have a boyfriend just the whole "out of my league" thinking backed by inability to handle rejection.

The "The worst thing that can happen is they say no." rule doesn't kick in until you're about 30 for most people unless they've previously had long-term or a lot of short-term relations. Before then it's rough.

[Asker]

so how can I make it easier? without straight up asking him out myself because I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be able to haha

[kethel]

Depends on the guy. When I was younger I never initiated anything because I had been conditioned by my two (evil) female parent/guardians to consider myself to be horrible in the eyes of women and unable to ever please one. Until I came out of my shell a bit in my early/mid 20s, every intimate contact I had ever had with a girl had been initiated by her, fully - from meeting her to getting however intimate we ended up getting.

[kethel]

Edit: It didn't help that society, thanks to feminism, has been assuring us that all males are evil for several decades now. Not a problem for most guys who have a somewhat esteem-conscious upbringing, but for me it was the final nail in the coffin. F***feminism =P

[Anonymous]

If you don't flirt with the guy verbally, to let him know you're single and interested... then you can't be surprised if he doesn't make a move on you.

[Anonymous]

Most guys get really intimidated and nervous to ask a girl out. Ironically, the only ones who don't are the ones who girls always bitch about and always end up going out with because they have confidence and often use girls or cheat. lol

[Asker]

well I guess it's good to know if so that he is a good guy, but I can already tell that :P

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah - the ones who don't get nervous at all usually are the playa types...and you know what that means.