We see crazy gorgeous instagram celebs to magazines making girls feeling inadequate?
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Frankly? It is The media, combined with the medical advice, and a lack of education for parents.
i'll break it down
The media: Between supermodels, insta-celebrities. and magazines doing obligatory body peace stories, we teach our girls that you are supposed to be thin, or you aren't good enough, and if you "can't loose weight" then you are only good for those men who like fat chicks. "Curvy" is just saying that you don't respect yourself enough to loose weight.
Medical advice: the BMI chart, one of the only things doctors look at to see if you are at the proper weight, doesn't take into account the amount of your body that is fat. for example i am 5 ft 1, and weigh 130 lbs, this qualifies as a normal weight, if it is semi close to overweight. According to my doctor, i need to gain 5 lbs to be at an average for my diet, activity level, and body type. this is not fat lbs, this is muscle pounds.
when i was younger, i was much more active, and i qualified as underweight according to the BMI chart, but according to my doctor, i was at a healthy weight. Therefore, when laypeople only go by BMI, people who are obese may actually be at a healthy weight for them, and not know it, leading to malnutrition and being obsessed with loosing weight.
Lack of parental education:
Parents are encouraged to support their kids self esteem. The only problem is, we aren't giving them effective tools to do this. Parents will even go so far as to call their kids fat to encourage them to be more active to loose weight. this fails as children are unlikely to have the mindset in which being told they are not good enough only motivates them to being better, therefore, they internalize the feeling of never being good enough, and that is hard to shake.
Note: this is what i have learned through personal observation and research, and i am not a psychologist, sociologist, though i have been a product of these factors, and suffer from insecurities that are sometimes debilitating.0