It's because society has taught us women that our primary worth is our beauty. When you tell a girl she's ugly, it's like you're telling her she's worthless; and has little value. A girl's got to be pretty insecure to feel the need to ask on here in the first place, so granting her bitter honesty doesn't make me feel good. I tend to ignore their questions.
But when it comes to guys, although it may hurt, it's not always the end of everything; because they're judged more by success and wealth.
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Well, here's a suggestion. If you find something in her that you don't find to be the most attractive, why not offer genuine and kind-worded advice on how she might address that?
Also, beauty is absolutely not the only metric a women is judged by. It's the most visible and gets the most attention, but it is not the most important, not by a long shot. Women fixate on looks and think it's the most important, and I think one of the reasons why is that women don't approach men--they get approached. And it's an arms race to be *noticed* But you don't have to be the most beautiful women to be noticed--there are behavioral things you can do.
Looks/being noticed gets attention and get's your foot in the door of a man's life. But a guy worth his salt does not end it there in determining a woman's worth. The way you treat other people. They way you treat yourself and him. Your sense of right and wrong, your loyalty, your ambition, your passion, your honesty--in short, your character. These are infinitely more important. Your beauty must be more than skin deep for a man to give you his heart.1