I'm leaving in the city of boston. And I can tell you 80 % of the girls here are super hot. I'm new in the USA ( 6 months ago) and having to confront those girls every single day made me realize how trashy and ugly I am. I cry almost every day when I think of my appearance. Please, help me be beautiful too. Give me the best tips you have learned so far.
Thanks a lot already.
Short ugly hair - oily acne skin - half fat - I don't know what else... Can't really love myself since birth. I wish I was very beautiful and hot and way more smart.
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First of all, to be jealous, envious, or insecure to the point where you devalue yourself is not being grateful for the parts of you that are uniquely divine. The way you think is a great disservice to yourself. You are basically bullying yourself; damaging your own self-esteem each and every time you repeat this story in your mind that you are not as good. That's an injustice to yourself.
Second, true beauty is not a fast process. When beauty happens quickly, it tends to be fake and inauthentic. Whether it's plastic surgery, make-up, hair extensions, fake eyelashes, a tan, an eating disorder. Fast beauty is a multi-billion dollar selling industry and nothing more. I would gladly bet money that those 80% of hot women have their own battles, obstacles, and issues that will take away from their ability to fully function to the best of their ability. Plenty of hot women have no clue how to create healthy relationships. Plenty of hot women are damage and decrepit wrapped up in beauty standards. The true beauty lies in what you can do; your craft, your trade, skill level, knowledge, bravery, honor, respect, kindness, loyalty, generosity, protectiveness. The best, most wise, most intelligent men who will make the greatest life partners and fathers are going to choose the more skillful, mentally equipped woman who needs a bit of work over the hot girl who will eventually dilute the beauty of life.
Now, focus on BEING HEALTHY AND HAPPY. Not being hot. Your hair is not "short and ugly". Yes it is short, but short hairstyles can be very sexy and sophisticated: Just look at Audrey Hepburn. HEALTHY HAIR is more important than long hair. Learn what styles compliment your face and focus on having enriched, moisturized, healthy hair with healthy, strong hair follicles. You have acne and oily skin? Find a skin regimen that works for you and start doing nightly masks with natural products like honey, shae butter, and coconut oil. You feel fat? Begin working out and gain muscle so that you're not just hot, but strong enough to be a survivor, protector, and save others. You want to be smart? Start collecting knowledge: READ magazine articles, opinion pieces, scholarly work, history books, books about other cultures, study geography, learn a different language.1
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