Im just getting back into online dating because of the months I've been away for a career upgrade. Im 26 and the photos I preveously used on the sites were a bit boring and didn't seem to be attracting anyone but i did get a few dates back then. I decided to take a new photo with my new car and dress really nice as i would if i was going out. The new photo although in my head should be working better seems to be working less. I even put it out there that im an airline pilot and fly jets for a living. I've done everything I can to try an get a date but no one initiates or responds. I had dealt with image issues and self confidence problems my whole life. I thought I was over those things but this makes me question all over again. I posted two new photos im using and want honest feedback about what is unnattractive about me. I need to fix this!! https://imgur.com/a/cJQ7H
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some of the answers are spot on. as you admit you have self confidence issues and hopefully your focusing on your career was not just to one day have enough things to attract girls.
Because the only girls you'll attract are gold diggers which actually aren't that big a margin in this day and age a lot of women can go out and afford at least a decent living on their own not that they dont still exist. but even once you meet a pretty gold digger you might not like how much emphasis they put on your success or maybe you won't mind.
but for most girls this is going to read not only as being a douchebag but being extremely try hard even possibly verging on being corny because it's so obvious what you're doing.
the thing is you're actually good looking enough to get lots of women without the car and nice clothes so it's even worse on you than it is on some fat guy who takes a pic in front of a nice car because it's not congruent. it doesn't make sense on you. this conveys to the girl exactly what you think is true in your head--that there's something wrong with you that is apparent to the eyes but is nontheless there and needs to be compensated for.
so here's my advice: take a pic with your buddies, take a pic thats straigh on profile, and take a pic like you're trying to be sexy because you can actually pull it off (no homo) My personal belief is that its too much work to look into the past into what caused these self esteem issues but rather to teach yourself how to realize you're a great person and don't need anything to prove that some call it fake it till you make it, but i prefer to stay taking steps towards who you really are and are meant to be0