Im so upset I turn 22 next month I don't understand were the times went doesn't seem that long since I left school. I feel like am too old now to run about in mini dresses and heels and go clubbing and get stupid drunk and now I feel like everyone expects me too be so grown up and responsible and I feel like no one going to look out for me any more and will just expect me to have everything figured out but I don't. I feel like am still figuring out what I want to do in life and be and haven't accomplished anything. Maybe am just immature but I just want to party and have fun and feel like now I should be starting to settle down am I crazy?
Most Helpful Guy
This is surprisingly common for a girl your age. You sound like you miss that safety net mom and dad provided while you were attending school. The time has come for you to transition into adulthood and accept more responsibilities. I know it sounds like it is no fun but it is a necessary step we all must take or face the consequences. Maybe what you need is help seeking accountability in the form of a sponsor. This is someone who believes in you enough to bail you out of jams while providing you with consequences until you find your feet. You know? Kind of what it was like at home in some ways. It is not an easy thing to find but it really works for some. Other than that, you're just gonna have to face life's consequences head on. I wish you the best in your journey.0
Most Helpful Girl
Huh, well I don't feel that way at all. 22 is still quite young! And besides all that, I feel like I'm starting a new chapter in my life that's going to be really good. High school and undergrad's over, I finally have a "real" job that pays well, I have more free time than college, no major commitments like marriage, kids, or a mortgage, I can travel, I can still party and do fun things on the weekends, my dress and heel collection's never been better lol (since I can actually afford shit), I'm taking care of my own bills and have some independence, there's a lot I can save, no trouble with my love life, etc.
Sure, there are more responsibilities now, but that's what happens as you gain more freedom. I think it's a fair price to pay. The thing is you need to have balance and keep your priorities straight. What you plan to do with your life comes first - school, work, living situation, savings, etc. That's how you'll support and provide for yourself (and perhaps a future family?), and for me work and school is/was something I enjoy. It's also important to maintain good relationships, with family, friends, boyfriends, and other loved ones. Your health is incredibly important as well.
After those sorts of top priority things, that's where partying and having fun should be. If everything else in life is mostly on point, then feel free to relax and have some fun. Just don't do it the other way around. Fun never comes first.0