This question is mostly for the guys. Basically I just want to know if you think it's bad that - I spent most of my life being rejected and picked on by guys (especially the ones I liked) and because of this sometimes it's hard for me to fully believe my boyfriend when he tells me I'm hot/sexy. ?
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It's not really good or bad. It's just a natural consequence of the environment you grew up in. We're social animals and when you go through harsh social rejections, you can't not be affected by that. I've been there and it sucks. I could never fault a girl for that.
For the guy it can be a good and bad experience.
It can be kind of endearing when a girl is insecure because your compliments are so much more valuable to her. It feels good to be that healing presence in her life. I personally feel closer to girls who are a bit vulnerable and sensitive because the fact that she's let you in on those things means she trusts you and what you say and do matters to her as opposed to girls who are aloof and overconfident and you wonder if they would care if you got hit by a bus.
On the other hand it can also be frustrating because you want the best for her and you want her to experience the joy of self-confidence. It's kind of baffling to guy when a beautiful girl thinks she's ugly or unlovable and it makes you sad because she can't believe you when you tell her the truth about how you feel about her. She's got this distorted image of herself in her head and nothing you do or say can make it better.2