Here I go again, fourteen going on fifteen, insecure, such a typical teenager. I just feel so ugly, I hate being born with all these imperfections! Especially with my lazy eye, which I am blind out of, and being born with heterochromia irdium (basically the protien pigments in your eyes are different colors so you have two different eye colors etc.) it makes me so extremely self-conscious. Usually I cover my right eye with my bangs, but my mother forced me to get my hair cut because she thought my bangs made me look "depressed" so now I just feel even more insecure... Usually my friends say I look fine, but they're my friends! I can't really trust them to answer me honestly because I'm pretty sure they don't want to hurt my feelings... My boyfriend even says I look "extremely pretty" but in my own opinion, I just look so... very very ugly... I've also gained a ton of pounds starting from 145 and now I'm 178 because of a stress eating disorder (either not eating at all or eating too much) and that's probably making me think even more insecure than ever! But just, I need reassurance... I hate being surround by lies..
Most Helpful Guy
[Kamina quote from Gurren Lagan below]
hmmm.. well.. to be honest with you here, there are always gonna be people who will make fun of your imperfections but don't let that get you down.. looks aren't everything.. Sure, it's what other kids think is important but in my opinion you need to stop caring... I'm sorry if i sound mean here but.. be happy that your friends are nice to you about it.. in reality there are some people who will make your life a living hell... but if you're strong enough to come out and tell the Internet how you feel and show yourself i have strong beliefs that you have the ability to be comfortable with your appearance.. yeah it sucks that you have a lazy eye and Heterochromia iridum but don't let that stop you from being the best you can be... sorry... i really suck at giving advice but here... if you won't believe in yourself, believe in the people who believe in you... if they say you look fine.. you're good xP... And it's true.. you do look fine.. i know you think people are lying to you... but for real... I've seen girls who could easily cosplay as jabba the hut xP... please don't worry yourself too much... by the way i think different colored eyes look cool... but that's just me xD... also i you want to have long hair.. have long hair haha but be careful not to get the dread look hehehe... anyways.. i hope this helped somehow xP... good luck with your stuffs... peace0
Most Helpful Girl
listen to me when i say you are not ugly. im not patronizing you. up until about a year ago i found it very difficult to find confidence in myself and have a positive self image, and it took me years to realize that i didn't find myself beautiful because i didn't let myself. i imagine the exact same thing is happening to you. you are not ugly. you are unique, and special, and perfect. it sounds tediously cliche to say this but as soon as you just decide that you're going to be confident, as in TRULY decide, and stop comparing yourself to others it will begin to flow from you. it will be a slow transition at first, but it is one of the absolute most rewarding things a person can do. remember that there will be times when you're feeling not so good about yourself, and of course attraction is in the eye of the beholder, not everyone will consider you their idea of perfect, but there are so many people out there who see you are wonderful and beautiful, and those are the only kind of people you need in your life.1