I think it just depends how long and how well you two know eachother before getting married.. This is a beautiful article and i wish you the best! Hopefully as you guys keep changing your interests stay the same or you guys accept eachothers differences later on 👍
I'm about to get married and i'm 23 and even this appears to be young now! i think it is a great thing to get married younger, if you find the right person why wait? There are plenty of people our parents or grandparents age that got married young and lasted all the way through. I guess now though the idea of a divorce is all too easy that it takes away the determination to work and fight to keep a marriage
Don't people who get married early have a higher rate of divorce compared to the rest of the population? I'm not saying it's true for everyone, but the human brain isn't fully developed until around 25. Getting married before then just seems foolish to me. You don't even know yourself fully at that point - why would you shackle yourself to someone else?
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Yoo many women especially focus on the expensive ring which the man has to a significant part of his earnings into for it to mean anything to the bride. Also the fact that women want the fairytale wedding which is hugely expensive and the brides parents no longer pay for which means years of saving for a couple. Then when you add that it takes about ten years of hard graft for a man to meet these requirements you have these no sex before marriage and no kids before the wedding women. Honestly when you think of the divorce rate and all the hoops young men must jump through its no wonder so many young men are turning away from marriage whats in it for them
Yeah I still don't see much of a benefit you can get a lot of those characteristics without marriage and avoid a lot of the stuff you mentioned like baggage by not actively searching a relationship and not caring what people think or not caring if you have children or not I'm sorry I still don't see a lot of benefits here and even if those were benefits the cons far outweigh the pros
I don't believe in marriage. I'll only do it if the girl and I have extremely good synergy. Otherwise forget it. I've experienced too many people living miserable lives because of marriage. They pretend to be happy on the outside, but they are always crying in the inside.
This article is just stupid. My parents got married when my father was 19 and my mother 21 and all they did was have marital problems. The human brain is not fully developed until 25. I am a different person now at 25 than what I was when I was 19. Love even changes as you grow older; it is less of a feeling and more of a reality in my opinion. Stupid article.
So I do find it cute that young couples love each other enough to get married young, but by doing so, I personally feel like you are missing out on a big part of exploring who you are. Your 20s are a time to explore yourself. Being married at that young age takes away a lot of your freedom to do so, especially if you start having kids. We are living longer than ever so why get married right out of high school?
Nice MyTake. The idea of marrying young is so romantic. However I'm glad I didn't marry right out of high school or I wouldn't have been able to do a majority of the things I'm doing now.
Benefits of getting married young: You get divorced young. You get to get married more than once. You learn how to find good divorce lawyers. You learn to never get married again.
I totally agree with you. My parents got married at 19 and are still together. I think most people put it off is so they can have tons of sex with different people and party more.
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Thank you for this take. I agree that it does have benefits. I am 17 and I have been with my boyfriend for about 6 months but I could see myself growing and building a future with him. We are moving in together shortly and are both very happy. I want to marry young for these reasons and I think it'll happen. Thank you for telling me it worked for you and showing me not everyone thinks I'm crazy for it.
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I think there's a lot to this. One other thing I'd add is PASSION. The level of passion you tend to have in early realtionships--especially in your 20s will not come around again. So it's especially wonderful if you're able to form a lasting bond with it.
Sorry, but I'll have to agree with @koibito here. While I personally think marriage is useless, I get why people want to marry, sure, fine with me. But at this age you can hardly be sure, and I'm saying that as someone who spends whole days defending maturity at different ages — nothing wrong with finding the love of your life, but are you sure that they'll still be in a few years?
But you won't get to enjoy your life as a free bird, independent if you get married early. You'll have to take such a lot of pressure at a young age. And you'll probably be not ready and matured enough to get married and have a family
well, this is nice. i wish u a lifetime of happiness and loyalty. unfortunately the greater concern for me atm is actually finding someone, not marrying them lol. we'll see how life plays out.
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The lower age you marry the higher possibility for divorce. The human brain hasn't even finished growing until age 22-23, and the last part is the neocortex which happens to be the area for decision making and consequences of actions.
I would not recommend anybody getting married until they are fully matured, financially ready and both independent on their own prior to cohabitation.
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im Almost 18 and Im getting married in August i think Im making a great decision thanks for a lovely take :)
Thank you for taking the time to read it. I'm glad you liked it and I wish you the best of luck in your marriage. :)
thank you :)
I think it just depends how long and how well you two know eachother before getting married.. This is a beautiful article and i wish you the best! Hopefully as you guys keep changing your interests stay the same or you guys accept eachothers differences later on 👍
I'm about to get married and i'm 23 and even this appears to be young now! i think it is a great thing to get married younger, if you find the right person why wait? There are plenty of people our parents or grandparents age that got married young and lasted all the way through. I guess now though the idea of a divorce is all too easy that it takes away the determination to work and fight to keep a marriage
Don't people who get married early have a higher rate of divorce compared to the rest of the population? I'm not saying it's true for everyone, but the human brain isn't fully developed until around 25. Getting married before then just seems foolish to me. You don't even know yourself fully at that point - why would you shackle yourself to someone else?
Yoo many women especially focus on the expensive ring which the man has to a significant part of his earnings into for it to mean anything to the bride. Also the fact that women want the fairytale wedding which is hugely expensive and the brides parents no longer pay for which means years of saving for a couple. Then when you add that it takes about ten years of hard graft for a man to meet these requirements you have these no sex before marriage and no kids before the wedding women. Honestly when you think of the divorce rate and all the hoops young men must jump through its no wonder so many young men are turning away from marriage whats in it for them
Yeah I still don't see much of a benefit you can get a lot of those characteristics without marriage and avoid a lot of the stuff you mentioned like baggage by not actively searching a relationship and not caring what people think or not caring if you have children or not I'm sorry I still don't see a lot of benefits here and even if those were benefits the cons far outweigh the pros
I love this.
I recently got engaged at 19, we'll be married at 20.
I have no doubts.
But yeah.. Everyone else can't see the benefit.
Also, just because we want to.
I'm not religious, or trying to trap him, nor am I pregnant.. It's just neat:)
I don't believe in marriage. I'll only do it if the girl and I have extremely good synergy. Otherwise forget it. I've experienced too many people living miserable lives because of marriage. They pretend to be happy on the outside, but they are always crying in the inside.
This!!
Rofl, look at all those down votes. The truth burns doesn't it. :D
This article is just stupid. My parents got married when my father was 19 and my mother 21 and all they did was have marital problems.
The human brain is not fully developed until 25. I am a different person now at 25 than what I was when I was 19. Love even changes as you grow older; it is less of a feeling and more of a reality in my opinion. Stupid article.
Thanks
Yeah, I have seen people getting married young and it works for them ☺😊
Well the ones I have seen so far are happy.
So I do find it cute that young couples love each other enough to get married young, but by doing so, I personally feel like you are missing out on a big part of exploring who you are. Your 20s are a time to explore yourself. Being married at that young age takes away a lot of your freedom to do so, especially if you start having kids. We are living longer than ever so why get married right out of high school?
Nice MyTake. The idea of marrying young is so romantic. However I'm glad I didn't marry right out of high school or I wouldn't have been able to do a majority of the things I'm doing now.
Benefits of getting married young: You get divorced young. You get to get married more than once. You learn how to find good divorce lawyers. You learn to never get married again.
Lol this.
I totally agree with you. My parents got married at 19 and are still together. I think most people put it off is so they can have tons of sex with different people and party more.
Thank you for this take. I agree that it does have benefits. I am 17 and I have been with my boyfriend for about 6 months but I could see myself growing and building a future with him. We are moving in together shortly and are both very happy. I want to marry young for these reasons and I think it'll happen. Thank you for telling me it worked for you and showing me not everyone thinks I'm crazy for it.
I think there's a lot to this. One other thing I'd add is PASSION. The level of passion you tend to have in early realtionships--especially in your 20s will not come around again. So it's especially wonderful if you're able to form a lasting bond with it.
Sorry, but I'll have to agree with @koibito here. While I personally think marriage is useless, I get why people want to marry, sure, fine with me. But at this age you can hardly be sure, and I'm saying that as someone who spends whole days defending maturity at different ages — nothing wrong with finding the love of your life, but are you sure that they'll still be in a few years?
But you won't get to enjoy your life as a free bird, independent if you get married early. You'll have to take such a lot of pressure at a young age. And you'll probably be not ready and matured enough to get married and have a family
well, this is nice. i wish u a lifetime of happiness and loyalty.
unfortunately the greater concern for me atm is actually finding someone, not marrying them lol.
we'll see how life plays out.
The lower age you marry the higher possibility for divorce. The human brain hasn't even finished growing until age 22-23, and the last part is the neocortex which happens to be the area for decision making and consequences of actions.
I would not recommend anybody getting married until they are fully matured, financially ready and both independent on their own prior to cohabitation.
im 21 and im getting married next year march