From the outside, this is what marriage looks like to me (as a contract):
Promise: I will love you forever, even though that's not my choice to make. Even if I can't, I'll stay with you forever and not sleep with anybody else.
Knowing that people will have desires outside of their spouse, and that love is an emotion that may fade, why would people enter into this relationship?
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I, like you, have issues with marriage. I do not believe it is required to have a solid connection with someone, either. But, I also think that it isn't as bad as you are making it out to be. Yes, marriages can end in divorce, and yes, people sometimes have desires outside the marriage, love will fade, etc. But not always. And this wouldn't be such a large issue if people didn't rush into marriage like they do.
The problem isn't marriage, really. I mean, I've found a guy that I will probably spend the rest of my life with, whether or not we get married. I will love him, I will be faithful to him, no matter my desires, and I will be loyal to the promises we've made to each other in our relationship. Marriage is something we plan on later, but won't do until we are absolutely sure we can make it through everything life will throw at us. We've been together 5 years, and still aren't ready, as we want to be sure that we don't become a divorce statistic down the line.
The problem is: people don't think that way anymore. The idea that marriage is for life doesn't pervade our society the way it used to. Marriage meant "until death" for centuries, and still does to our older generations. But more and more people don't view it like that, and always think "there's always divorce" if it doesn't work out. So the problem isn't marriage, it is the people that go into it not fully prepared for the heavy responsibilities that come with it and without the mindset that it should last forever, no matter what you may go through.3