So just wondering if anyone else feels the same? I haven't been with my partner long, it's only been 1yr but it feel like I'm ready to spend the rest of my life with him, I just won't to skip to the day he asked me to marry him, why can't life go faster sometimes :/ anyone else feel like this?
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I personally believe in waiting a long time. Like a minimum of five years. It's easy to get caught up in the strong emotions and excitement of a new romance. But the fact is that it usually takes a few years for the shine to wear off someone before you start realizing that you can't stand them, haha.
I've been with my gf 7 years, we're not married or even engaged. Some people look at us like we're crazy, but what's the big deal? We're committed to each other, we do everything that a married couple would do, we just want to do the wedding right when we can afford to and we're in the right place. And if we never got married, I don't think it would make a difference, that's just a ceremony that girls get jacked up for since they were children. Just a big formality that costs a lot of money, the girl is the star of the show, and the dude just kind of shows up for, haha.
Probably not the romantic response you were looking for, but I've just seen this movie 1,000 times before. Divorce courts are full of people who got caught up in first-year infatuation and rushed into marriage. That's not to say you guys would definitely be one of them, just sayin' in general. You're ready to get married when you know you'd stick through the worst imaginable things happening to your S.O., when she comes home from the doctor telling you she has breast cancer, may need a mastectomy and will generally be in a fight for her life. When he gets in a terrible car accident and will be in a wheelchair the rest of his life and require constant care for the simplest of human functions. These are real life things that CAN happen and most people don't consider when they want to lock up that chick who gives great BJs, or the dude that can play you John Mayer songs on his guitar. Obviously these are extreme examples, but it illustrates what I'm getting at. True love is rare, and I think people need to be more careful and objective when deciding that they want to spend their lives with someone.0