My boyfriend and I have been together and living together for three years. Last year he asked me to marry him and I said yes. Since then everything was fine until about a week ago. He says that he feels that he's not ready to get married, not ready to put a date down to get married, and "even though he loves me" doesn't know if he still wants to be with me. I have asked him several times if he wants to be single and he can't make a decision. He says he wants the single life because he can do what he wants (ie. hanging out with his friends.) but I let him do it anyway as long as I get a call letting me know where he is which he's fine with. He goes back and forth between wanting to be with me and wanting to be single. After all the plans we've made for our wedding and our marriage why is he having these thoughts now?
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I have to agree with Doasia. I was engaged too, right out of college and when things started to become "real" (he wanted to move in together) I freaked out. I think I got caught up in being in love and didn't really take the time to figure out if I was ready for marriage. The one extreme of marriage on one hand compelled me to do a complete 180 and go the opposite extreme of being single. This is just me, but you definitely need to talk to your fiance, openly and honestly and do what is best for both of you if you don't want to lose him.1