My husband does not help with the kids. He doesn't bathe them, clean them up, go to Dr's appointments, report card pick ups, teacher conferences, family reading night, nor homework! What the eff? Why do I have to do all this as if I were a single parent? He works 3 days a week at a non laborious job part time. I work full time, grave yard shift and yet he wakes me up to cook dinner as well as clean and do homework while he wasted his day before the video games. If I don't cook, the kids won't eat,, homework would not get done, the house would be a pig sty. I would even say he watches my kids correctly but he pawns my 1 year old on me while I'm trying to sleep or let's him cry incessantly in his play pen which only causes me to get up and care for him. This is a daily cycle. I can't express myself on the latter, obvi criticism isn't taken well. When I ask if he can help out he says "I don't do that"... am I wrong for going insane?
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I work a full time job, have 3 kids (a 5 and 3 year old son and a 6 week old daughter) and a stay at home wife. I still take out the trash, do the dishes several times a week, feed the kids at least 3 times a week, pick up the house, do laundry several times a week, do all the yard work, and care for the kids at least 4 hours a day. Did I mention I am the soul provider for my family :)? Point is, your husband needs to get his crap together, man up, be a father, find a job that can support his family, take on more responsibility, and be a better husband. You may not want to hear this part but I do believe you are partially at fault as well. Reason being you said you saw this as an issue 8 years ago when you had your first son and as it got progressively worse you continued to have children with this guy. My recommendation? Make it very clear to him that you have had enough. He had two choices... go with you to a MFT (marriage family therapist), or get out of the house. Life is full of decisions and consequences, stand up for your kids (and yourself) and give him some decisions of his own to make! Hope this helps. You asked for opinions... there is mine :)1